Red Flag: You feel like everything you do is wrong. You can't fit into any box the narcissist creates. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: Circular conversations is called word salad. Narcissists avoid accountability by spinning a story to confuse you. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: An uncertain future is certain when you are with a narcissist. The future faking holds your heart until the truth unfolds. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: Slowly you find yourself under the control of a narcissist. They love to control you by pulling on your vulnerabilities. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: If this feels like your life, you may be with a narcissist. Feeling a dooming gloom when they are about to get home is common. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: Narcissists anger easily because they aren't equipped to manage emotions. This frustrating trait pushes victims to reactive abuse. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: Narcissistic parents can both put their needs before the children or just one parent can abuse and the other enables. The lack of protection from the non-narc parent leaves the children feeling betrayed and alone. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: The first move when you meet a narcissist is to convince you that you are their soulmate, the perfect fit they have looked for their whole life. This is a con job designed to hook you. If they are not narcissistic they will wait while you slow things down. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: After the lovebombing stage things change. You don't feel like they are listening, they are pretending to ignore you, just to trigger your emotions. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: Believing in fairy tales is a great 'tell' to a narcissist. They exploit your innocence with future faking, then rip out the carpet of control to ruin your life. All without a care. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: Most victims of narcissistic abuse find themselves in debt. The control the narcissist demands leaves a well that can never be satisfied. Your soul and servitude are the currency. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: Narcissists at work feel entitled to intimidate their victims. If you are loyal to them you are temporarily safe. If you question their behavior you quickly get attacked and potentially could lose your job. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: Not all narcissists yell or get angry. Everything is on a spectrum. Those that do not yell deploy passive aggressive tactics as their weapon of choice. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: A narcissist quickly builds their life around you. This wall is built to isolate you from friends and family. The first loyalty and control test happens when you don't fight the isolation process. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: Coparenting with a narcissist feels like hitting your head against a wall. They do not work with you, because to them the game is to win the child's love. By turning them against you. The child is used as a weapon to hurt you. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: Narcissists often play the victim. Using tears and passive aggressive tactics to test your empathy and controllability. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: A Narcissist cannot celebrate your success. Upsetting you, ignoring your wins, making it all about them, or embarrassing you are common tactics. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: When your boat needs support, the narcissist always becomes the shark beneath the mask. They have no empathy for you no matter how you need them. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: Narcissists pit family members against each other to earn the narcissists love. Triangulation keeps them isolated and alone. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: When you break from the narcissistic cloud of lies and betrayal, you gain ninja skills. You cannot unsee the behaviors but you can learn to understand your vulnerabilities and heal. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: When you first start to question behaviors the narcissist perceives these questions as attacks. Their mask often slips and they believe the gig is up. The search for new supply begins. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: To a narcissist divorce is a game. The public hear their victim story, you live the lies, betrayal, and hateful tactics. If you are aware you can prepare. Learn their tactics and strategies to protect yourself, children and future. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: Financial abuse leaves victims trapped in narcissistic relationships. Money may be withheld, taken, or controlled. You may be forced to work and support them or not allowed financial independence. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: Narcissists are aggressive drivers. Their entitlement to do what they want with no empathy for you or others on the road. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: Recovery happens when you can see the abuse with a birds eye view looking down. When you are in the fire pit of abuse survival must be your goal. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: Tug of war describes most narcissistic relationships. If you feel you are always playing this game you are probably with a narcissist. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: You feel 'free' when you are without the narcissist. This sense of peace reminds you that you can never feel this with them. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: A narcissists past is circular without strong roots. They don't hold onto friends and they blame everyone else for the reason why. Walking away is easy because their 'friends' are just people they use. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: The key to look for is if your person lies, uses half truths, deploys gaslighting, creates smear campaigns, false allegations of you or others, and a victim mentality. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: To a narcissist divorce is a game. The public hear their victim story, you live the lies, betrayal, and hateful tactics. If you are aware you can prepare. Learn their tactics and strategies to protect yourself, children and future. My book will help! - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: Make no mistake, you are not narc-bait you were targeted. You made a good supply because of vulnerabilities that you must understand and heal. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: Become your inner sherlock to uncover the red flags of narcissistic abuse. Each piece of knowledge builds distance from the drama and helps you break free. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: Love at first sight seems to happen quickly because of the unbelievable attention and desire to see you every waking moment. You see a loving future. A narcissist sees your worth. What can they get out of being with you? - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: Narcissists create a mask to hook you. They become everything you ever wanted at least in the public eye. Behind closed doors they drop the mask and the real them gets exposed. - Tracy A. Malone
Red Flag: Narcissists build your future with false promises and words. Their actions never match up to those promises. Never build your future on this future faking tactic. - Tracy A. Malone
