All things Narcissism! FEMALE NARCISSISTS They exhibit cruelty and even malice when dealing with their children and former partners. They poison their young minds with falsehoods, sowing seeds of insecurity, fear, shame, and guilt. Demanding unwavering loyalty becomes their norm. TracyAMalone Narcissistic Mother A narcissistic mother can cast a lingering shadow, constraining a child's self-love and confidence. Tracy AMalone SCREW THE NARCISSIST Don't let the narcissist's hurtful words convince you that you're not good enough, smart enough, or pretty enough. In reality, you were always more than good enough, in fact, you were better than them. That's precisely why they tried to extinguish your light; you outshone them all along. TracyAMalone The Silver Battlefield of Truth Tracy AMalone In in youth, dreams of golden years danced with visions of grandchildren and cookies. Little did you envision your 40th anniversary marred by a courtroom battle against a spouse, their heart consumed by malevolence and animosity. They don't care if you walk away with nothing and end up on the streets, some even wish for your demise, so they can claim it all. Narcissist Beauty of No Contact Going no contact with narcissist is not a sign of weakness; it's a courageous act of self-preservation and healing. Tracy AMalone DIVORCING OLDER Seasoned narcissists hold an unwavering belief that everything within a marriage belongs NARCISSISTS exclusively to them, irrespective M of a nearly five-decade union. They invest years in manipulating financial records and concealing assets from the mother of their children. While they possess the means to equitably divide their wealth, their inflated ego obstructs such fairness. They engage in battles using deceit and control, attempting to coerce their spouse into feeling fortunate for even the slightest share. TracyAMalone THE NARCISSISTS SPIES Narcissists employ their children as tools to wage war against the other parent. They adopt a victim persona to gain the child's loyalty, even involving them in spying activities. This calculated strategy drives a wedge between the healthy parent and the child, ultimately granting the narcissist the upper hand. TracyAMalone TAKING THE HIGH ROAD SUCKS To the narcissist, may karma intercept you at the gates, where heaven's entrance is denied, but a lifetime pass to eternal hell is generously granted. TracyAMalone It's acceptable to desire karma; they've certainly earned it. NARCISSISTIC INVISIBLE BUTTONS Survivors become adept at maneuvering around the concealed triggers of narcissistic abuse. A narcissist frequently blames the victim for pressing an undefined 'button' to provoke their fits of anger, rendering navigation through this turbulent terrain virtually impossible. TracyAMalone Did they manipulate your emotions but accuse you of manipulating theirs? Female Narcissistic Wife A narcissistic wife dances to the tune of her own reflection. TracyAMalone NARCISSISTIC REACTIVE ABUSE Narcissists deliberately provoke their victims until they reach a dangerous breaking point, causing them to react to the abuse. Subsequently, they record these reactions as evidence, using them to portray their victims as irrational and volatile, reinforcing the deceptive narrative that the issue lies with the victim, not themselves. TracyAMalone HELP ANOTHER SURVIVOR Did the narcissist in your life do this to you? Unless you are 16 STOP FALLING IN LOVE WITH POTENTIAL TracyAMalone A You Can't Fix... You can't fix stupid, you an can't fix an asshole and you can't fix a narcissist. Tracy AMalone Self-trust brings peace Self-trust blooms with each promise kept to yourself. Self-trust honors your intuition and always follows your heart. Tracy AMalone NARCISSISTIC ABUSE RECOVERY The scars left on a survivor following abuse by a narcissist are frequently profound and enduring. These wounds often manifest as a loss of self, a loss of faith in humanity, and a loss of hope. Fear, anger, and sadness. can dominate one's outlook on the future. Your task is to recognize and begin the healing process for these wounds. It begins with cultivating self-love and committing to the journey of recovery. Make promises to your own soul that you will strive for a brighter tomorrow. TracyAMalone NARCISSISTIC DIVORCE The protective order weapon SECURITY Tracy AMalone The primary objective of a narcissist is to continually project the most favorable false image that aligns with their perceived status. When confronted with the prospect of divorce, the narcissistic injury compels them to tarnish your reputation to elevate their own. They employ false allegations as a means to secure restraining orders, thereby shielding themselves from any perceived harm or abuse. Regrettably, this is a prevalent tactic, and in cases where they still require your assistance with childcare, they may refrain from pursuing arrests. GOING BACK TO THE NARCISSIST Going back to a narcissist is like taking a shower and putting your sweaty, stinky, dirty underwear back on! TracyAMalone NARCISSISTIC DIVORCE The child protective services weapon Tracy AMalone The cruelty of a narcissist frequently manifests in their ruthless attempts to besmirch the other parent's reputation. In this variant of narcissistic behavior, the narcissistic injury prompts them to contact child protective services and level false accusations. These actions are wielded as weapons to more effectively alienate the children, convincing them that you are a dangerous and terrible parent. NARCISSISTIC DAUGHTER IN-LAW It all began wonderfully, and you warmly embraced her into your family. Her initial move is to win over the affection of your child, followed by asserting control, and ultimately isolating them. This often involves turning your child against your own family, as she becomes their new focal point of family. Communication is severed, and you experience the painful loss of your child. TracyAMalone NARCISSISTIC CUSTODY EXCHANGES It's a deeply distressing memory for a child to witness their parents harboring so much animosity that they resort to conducting custody exchanges at a police station. When you anticipate that the narcissist will distort and exploit these handovers, it unfortunately becomes an unavoidable reality. TracyAMalone HELP ANOTHER SURVIVOR Did the narcissist in your life do this to your family? Self-abandonment is like giving away the key to your own happiness. Tracy AMalone FOREVER GUILT Experiencing guilt is a natural emotion that serves as an important signal when we've made a mistake or done something wrong. It allows us to acknowledge our errors, make amends, and ultimately release the burden of guilt. However, in the case where a narcissist guilts you, this emotion tends to linger, transforming from a simple acknowledgment of wrongdoing into a pervasive belief that we are inherently bad and the shame lingers. We are not meant to hold onto guilt forever. TracyAMalone Covert Narcissist A covert narcissist is the silent maestro of self-importance, conducting their symphony of ego in the shadows. TracyAMalone NARCISSISTIC RATIONALE Why they arrest victims TracyAMalone The narcissistic rationale behind orchestrating your arrest is rooted in their expertise in managing their public image. They are acutely aware of how you appear 'on paper,' and they are determined to tarnish it significantly. By concocting false accusations against you, they shift the narrative, casting themselves as the victim rather than the aggressor. This victimhood status allows them to exploit the situation, using the baseless arrest as leverage to gain control over your children. NARCISSISTIC DIVORCE BE THE SQUEAKY WHEEL OF TRUTH! The narcissists goal is to win. They throw out false allegations and stir the pot of confusion to muddy the waters. This can shut down the victim as they struggle with the falsehoods about them and their marriage. Don't be fooled, this is a strategy to get you to not fight, but freeze. If you don't fight for the truth, their lies may overpower the narrative. TracyAMalone NARCISSISTIC DIVORCE Hope alone is not a strategy for navigating a narcissistic divorce. Educate yourself about your rights, move swiftly, compile evidence to counter their falsehoods, and don't succumb to their intimidation tactics. Remember, you hold all the power, and that's precisely what they fear: the truth. TracyAMalone NARCISSISTIC DIVORCE Your arrest weapon Within the realm of malignant narcissists, including those who conceal their true nature behind covert facades, a subset exists that exhibits such a profound deficit of empathy that they resort to extreme measures, including having their victims arrested. This type is unafraid to involve child protective services, and they are willing to brazenly fabricate stories when dealing with law enforcement or the judiciary. It's essential to be aware that these actions are strategically aimed TracyAMalone at your destruction. NARCISSISTIC FAMILY BOX Growing up in a narcissistic family is like living in a tightly controlled box. Your own opinions, beliefs, and dreams are forbidden, kept outside the confines of this box, leaving you without the freedom to express yourself. TracyAMalone NARCISSISTIC PRESSURE Put me on the title of your house! Tracy AMalone A common ploy employed by narcissists in romantic relationships involves manipulating their victim into jointly owning property, such as a house. They employ guilt-tripping tactics, emphasizing that your hesitance to do so is a sign of distrust, and they threaten to frame this reluctance as an intolerable affront. Your love and loyalty are questioned until you sign it over. NARCISSISTIC RED FLAG Energy vampires Although the red flag signs of a narcissist are commonly recognized through their behavioral patterns, such as a lack of empathy and a sense of entitlement, there's a more subtle aspect that is often overlooked, and it's somewhat spiritual in nature. It involves discerning the way your energy is affected when in the presence of a narcissist. Do they drain you, leave you feeling perplexed, or cause a sense of depletion? Narcissists are often referred to as emotional vampires because they have a tendency to siphon the energy and love from their victims, leaving them emotionally and energetically drained. Tracy AMalone NARCISSISTIC DIVORCE For a narcissist, the truth is like their kryptonite. They dread the prospect of their true selves and the facade they wear being unveiled. This facade serves as their shield of appearing normal, and any breach leaves them exposed and vulnerable. To preempt this exposure, they employ a rapid and preemptive attack, launching unfounded allegations about your parenting, honesty, or intentions, often labeling you as a gold digger. This tactic forces the victim into a defensive position, making it challenging for them to present the truth effectively. TracyAMalone NARCISSISTS DEMAND LOYALTY Using children as weapons Narcissists have an insatiable need for loyalty from their children, often resorting to manipulative tactics such as tears and guilt to poison their minds. They cunningly manipulate the children into believing that they themselves are victims of the other parent. It is crucial to recognize that children should never be coerced into choosing a parent to live with based on these deceitful tactics and lies. Their well-being and best interests should always be prioritized, free from the influence of such manipulative behavior. Tracy AMalone Would you rather... See your narcissist again or poke your eyes out? TracyAMalone NARCISSISTIC ABUSE IS LONELY Narcissistic abuse can be an isolating and solitary experience, as friends and family often struggle to comprehend how to provide support. The behavior exhibited by the narcissist appears so astonishingly incongruent with the mask persona they projected to the outside world. When your experiences are met with disbelief, invalidated, and you're left to mend the fragments on your own, it can feel like a lonely and solitary journey. TracyAMalone TRUSTING AFTER NARCISSISTS Engaging in negative thought patterns like "I will never trust again" can be highly detrimental to our internal dialogue. Such thinking reinforces a sense of brokenness and impairs our ability to identify untrustworthy individuals. TracyAMalone NEED NARCISSISTIC ABUSE SUPPORT? Have you visited my website yet? We have 700 pages of resources and 550 blogs to help you heal. We have listings of free support groups in every state and so much more. Listings for free legal support and DV counseling. Over two million people have been helped this year! NarcissistAbuseSupport.com TracyAMalone Narcissistic lies Narcissistic lies have consequences. These lies often yield dire repercussions to their victims, while they remain unmoved by the havoc the lies wreak. Tracy AMalone NARCISSISTIC DIVORCE DOCUMENTATION Legal experts advise you to meticulously record every detail. This task can consume a significant portion of your day and, unfortunately, may not always reach the judge. It can be quite exasperating! Nonetheless, effective organization of this evidence is essential for demonstrating instances of irresponsible parenting, financial manipulation, or dishonesty by the other parent. TracyAMalone HELP ANOTHER SURVIVOR Could you kindly elaborate on how it either benefited or harmed you? NARCISSISTIC DIVORCE STRATEGY DISCREDIT - the narcissists false character DISCLAIM - the narcissists lies DELIVER - the evidence of truth about them TracyAMalone NARCISSISTIC RECORDINGS Free will and recovery The scars inflicted by a narcissist can turn into repetitive tapes that the victim's mind wrestles with releasing. Phrases like "you're not good enough," "you're stupid," "you'll never amount to anything," and "you embarrass me" echo incessantly in the victim's psyche. Over a lifetime of exposure to these hurtful words, the victim may eventually internalize these falsehoods as their own reality. However, when the healing process begins, and they come to realize that these damaging beliefs were never true, they can harness their inner strength and exercise their free will to liberate themselves from these entrenched lies. Tracy AMalone Narcissistic divorce Divorcing a narcissist is not just a legal process; it's a journey to reclaim your self-worth. It is often a knock down drag out fight for your freedom, but it's worth it! Tracy AMalone NARCISSISTIC GASLIGHTING FACT BELIEF TracyAMalone Gaslighting: Where the truth becomes a fog and your reality is rewritten by the narcissist's twisted script. NARCISSISTIC DIVORCE Your belongings weapon POLIC TracyAMalone Amidst a divorce involving a narcissist, many survivors are compelled to make a swift departure out of concern for their safety. This choice is seldom straightforward and typically arises as a reaction to heightened abuse. Often, victims face obstacles in retrieving their belongings, even if they manage to secure court orders. The process may necessitate police protection and the presence of video witnesses. Unfortunately, not everyone is fortunate enough to recover their possessions. BURDEN OF PROOF In a custody battle within a courtroom, the responsibility of providing evidence falls on your shoulders. It's crucial to gather and meticulously organize your evidence, as it possesses the potential to influence the outcomes significantly. Keep in mind that narcissists must substantiate their false allegations with proof as well. Don't allow their attempts at intimidation and deception to deter you; maintain your integrity and insist that they provide the evidence to support their claims! TracyAMalone NARCISSISTIC GASLIGHTING Gaslighting: where the narcissist's lies cast shadows on your reality. TracyAMalone ALCOHOLIC NARCISSIST Narcissists and alcohol often form a toxic blend, where the mirror of self-absorption. reflects through the haze of addiction. TracyAMalone NARCISSISTIC ONE TWO PUNCH Narcissists wreak havoc on lives. They desert you, subsequently manipulating your friends and family into doubting your sanity, which leads to their abandonment of you. TracyAMalone NARCISSISTS INHERITANCE GAME The noose of entitlement Tracy AMalone Narcissistic parent - Narcissists frequently wield inheritance as a means to maintain control over their children's loyalty. They establish a dynamic where compliance with their wishes ensures continued favor, while any form of disobedience or defiance. results in being disowned or cut off from inheritance. This control tactic dangles a tempting reward of financial security, ensnaring the children of a narcissist within a harmful relationship. The adult children often grapple with conflicting emotions: they may feel entitled to their parents' wealth due to the emotional pain they've endured, yet simultaneously resent the interactions required to secure their place in the will. A Narcissist Would rather... A narcissist would sooner endure great personal discomfort than part with what they perceive as exclusively theirs. Tracy AMalone Narcissistic lies often compound to gaslighting Narcissists know that If a lie is consistently reiterated, it can eventually be perceived as reality. TracyAMalone NARCISSISTS INHERITANCE GAME The sibling chess game Narcissistic sibling - A narcissistic sibling typically isn't inclined towards caregiving. They frequently maintain a significant emotional distance from their parents, using a variety of excuses to justify infrequent visits. As a result, the responsibility of caring for the aging parent primarily falls upon the other sibling, often leading them to sacrifice their own lives to provide full-time care. It's not uncommon for the narcissistic sibling to only become actively involved after the parent's passing, primarily driven by the financial benefits associated with inheriting their estate. Tracy AMalone NARCISSISTIC DIVORCE The power of money weapon In cases where a narcissist maintains financial control within a marriage, they tend to cling onto that control during divorce proceedings. They may engage in deceptive tactics, such as shifting funds and assets, long before the divorce is even initiated. Throughout the divorce process, they may restrict access to money and intentionally hinder the submission of financial disclosures, thereby delaying the establishment of temporary orders. Even when ordered to make payments, they often refuse to comply, forcing the victim to endure a legal battle to enforce payment. Tracy AMalone THE NARCISSISTS LISTENING SKILLS A narcissist doesn't listen with the intention of learning or contributing; instead, they focus on collecting information about their victims' vulnerabilities. They gather this data with the intent of later using it as a weapon in their interactions. TracyAMalone HELPING A FRIEND Victims of narcissistic abuse frequently find themselves trapped in a state of trauma. Friends may struggle to comprehend the intensity of their emotional turmoil. Keep in mind, a drowning person can inadvertently endanger their rescuer. If you're offering support to a friend in such circumstances, take the time to educate yourself and share information with them. Believe in their experiences, provide your unwavering presence, but also establish boundaries for your own well-being. TracyAMalone Divorce and Children Watch For These Signs Indicators that your child is grappling with the divorce include shifts in behavior, emotional turmoil, regression, academic challenges, physical symptoms, sleep disturbances, withdrawal from social activities, self-blame, adaptation difficulties, alterations in appetite, potential substance use, and difficulty concentrating. TracyAMalone Divorce and Children Teachers Watch For These Signs Indicators that a child is grappling with the divorce include shifts in behavior, emotional turmoil, regression, academic challenges, physical symptoms, sleep disturbances, withdrawal from social activities, self-blame, adaptation difficulties, alterations in appetite, potential substance use, and difficulty concentrating. TracyAMalone NARCISSISTIC IDEA THIEVES Narcissists exhibit no qualms about appropriating another person's ideas and subsequently presenting them as their own. In professional settings, they often sow the seeds of their supposed brilliance well in advance, ensuring that when you expose their credit-taking, they adeptly manipulate the narrative, casting you as the deceitful party. Tracy AMalone NARCISSISTIC DIVORCE The need for police protection POLICE POLICE Tracy AMalone Coparenting with a narcissist is far from ordinary. The divorce has magnified their animosity towards you, intensifying the blame they place on you for their inner turmoil. In their eyes, you are the debtor, and the price to pay can be in the form of financial devastation or, even worse, the reprehensible act of using your own children as pawns. Their utter disregard for the emotional toll on the children leaves you with no alternative, sometimes even requiring you to resort to dropping off your kids at a police station. TRUST Trust has a big umbrella and you are not obligated to extend the same level of trust to everyone. Trust is constructed through thousands of trustworthy moments. If someone does untrustworthy things, they should not stay in your life. TracyAMalone Female Narcissistic Wife Living with a narcissistic wife is like dancing with a mirage; beautiful from afar, but ultimately elusive and empty. TracyAMalone Narcissistic Mother The damage of a narcissistic mother can echo through generations, but healing is the key to breaking the cycle. Tracy AMalone FORGIVENESS OF A NARCISSIST Letting go of the hurt is far easier In society and within religious beliefs, forgiveness is often presented as a means of healing. However, for victims of abuse, the concept of forgiveness can be incredibly challenging to grapple with, considering all they have endured. Before one can even consider forgiveness, it is crucial to overcome the overwhelming desire for revenge. A more attainable goal is to let go of hurt and pain caused by the trauma. While withholding forgiveness may be necessary, taking the step of letting go of the emotional anguish is a significant stride towards the healing process. Tracy AMalone GUILT NARCISSISTIC 30 GUILT GAME Narcissists repeatedly bring up a past mistake are not seeking to build trust with you. They are emotionally toxic individuals aiming to make you feel guilty and indebted by incessantly holding your past error against you. TracyAMalone Help Another Survivor How did the narc use guilt on you? NARCISSISTIC BLAMER Narcissists are chronic blamers, deflecting responsibility and casting themselves as perpetual victims. In their preferred arena, the courtroom, they wield pointed accusations and manipulate the system as a weapon in their ongoing battle against their victims. TracyAMalone NARCISSISTIC LIES Survivors of narcissistic abuse have withstood a barrage of lies, gaslighting, control, and downright malevolent treatment. Narcissists are compulsive fabricators, and their falsehoods can cling to the minds of their victims, instilling fear. But remember these are just lies, don't buy into the lies. TracyAMalone The weapon of Narcissistic Ghosting If they wanted to be in your life they would call... Narcissists are famous for ghosting people, leaving them heart broken, with an imagination ruminating for answers. However, a moment will arrive when you perceive the unfeeling tactics of the manipulator. This understanding will empower you, fortifying your heart and establishing a resolve to never tolerate ghosting again. TracyAMalone Did your narc ghost you? NARCISSISTIC DIVORCE Drug weapons Narcissistic spouses will use deceitful tactics, including false claims of drug addiction, to gain an advantage in custody battles. This can involve planting drugs, making baseless accusations in front of children, or involving authorities to tarnish your reputation and manipulate TracyAMalone custody arrangements.