A Journey Through Grief

“In avoiding our sadness we avoid our lives. Learning from our sadness can bear great fruit, and avoiding it can have hidden costs. Our choice is in feeling the sharp pains of self-discovery or enduring the dull ache of unconsciousness that will last for the rest of our lives.” ~ Marianne Williamson Grief is a […]

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Fueling the Fire: Why Confronting a Narcissist Doesn’t Usually Work

If you’ve been hurt by a narcissist, you’ve likely daydreamed about confronting them directly about their toxic behavior. Imagining finally speaking your truth and holding them accountable is satisfying. But in reality, confronting a narcissist often backfires. Their core traits make them unable to self-reflect, empathize, and hear feedback. Chances are, if you’ve tried calling […]

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Valentine’s Day Traps – 6 Tips to Avoid Them

Valentine’s Day is fraught with landmines and expectations, often unrealized, and whether you’re in or out of a relationship, the grass isn’t always greener. Is your situation described here? Read six tips to having a great holiday. You’re Alone I can recall Valentine’s Days I wished I were in love with someone who loved me. […]

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On the Other Side of Separation

I watch the pen in your hand as you sign the paperwork that ends our marriage. Our eyes meet briefly as I pick up the pen for my turn. Pen meets paper and that ends a decade-long commitment. Afterward, we step into the elevator in silence as we leave the lawyer’s office. Stepping out into […]

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The Agony of Disbelief: When Truth-Tellers are Silenced and Discredited

“In order to escape accountability for his crimes, the perpetrator does everything in his power to promote forgetting. If secrecy fails, the perpetrator attacks the credibility of his victim. If he cannot silence her absolutely, he tries to make sure no one listens.” ~ Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence — From Domestic Abuse […]

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Tax Considerations Relating To Divorce

Divorcing and divorced families can add a layer of complexity when filing their tax returns.  Below outlines some of the major items to consider and/or are often overlooked when working with someone going through a divorce or after the divorce is finalized. Picking the Right Filing Status If you are still married, you may have […]

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How do you Reconcile an Emotional Abuser as a Child of God?

This is a tough one. Firstly, this implies that you, the survivor of pathological abuse, have faith and believe that your abuser was born innocent.  As a spiritual of woman of faith this is my belief — they were born innocent. You don’t have to reconcile that he or she is a child of God, […]

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What Is a Trauma-Informed Lawyer?

A trauma-informed lawyer is an attorney who is trained with an understanding of trauma and its potential impact on individuals involved in the legal system. This approach recognizes that these clients and legal cases, such as family law cases, criminal proceedings, immigration issues, or other legal disputes have experienced trauma and may have unique needs, […]

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