CRAFT Addiction Treatment and Codependency

Though powerless over an alcoholic-addict’s ultimate behavior, we can influence them to get addiction treatment using CRAFT. It’s a Community Reinforcement and Family Training program for addiction treatment developed in the 70s that has been effective in training “Concerned Significant Others” (CSO)s of treatment-resistant substance abusers to start treatment. The program has been more than […]

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Senior Sociopaths – How to Recognize and Escape by Donna Andersen

My new book, Senior Sociopaths — How to Recognize and Escape Lifelong Abusers, is now available in the Lovefraud store and on Amazon. Here’s the book’s take-home message: Senior sociopaths engage in antisocial behavior and abuse until they die. I wrote the book because I married a con man, James Alwyn Montgomery of Australia. He […]

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Is Your Person a Narcissist (or are You Crazy)?

If a tornado snapped all the trees in the woods but no one saw it, guess what?  It still happened.  You’re not crazy.  Like a tornado passing in the night, you don’t always see narcissistic abuse while it’s happening.  What you CAN see, once it’s gone and the light dawns, is the trail of destruction:  […]

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DARVO: Abusers’ “Victim-Blaming” Tactic

Abusers are long known for victim-blaming, because they never want to take responsibility. More recently a research psychologist Jennifer Joy Freyd gave this a name: DARVO, which stands for Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender. This is more than either “playing the victim” or victim-blaming, which we’re all capable of when conversations are misunderstood or not heard or remembered. Examples […]

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