How Trauma Reactions Can Hi-Jack Your Life

When your nervous system has been primed by trauma, you can overreact to perceived “dangers” that aren’t life-threatening, like when your boss questions you or someone cuts in line in front of you. When you’re a trauma survivor, your defensive states can hi-jack your brain. Instead of helping you survive, trauma responses can become dysfunctional. […]

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Narcissists’ Dirty Little Secret

You won’t guess abusers’ dirty little secret – the one thing narcissists and abusers don’t want you to know. In fact, they find it so shameful that most of them won’t admit it even to themselves. They hide it behind their abuse and bluster, their braggadocio, and their arrogance. People are fooled by the narcissist’s […]

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Learning to Rise Again After Abuse – with Author Lilli Correll

Discover the concrete steps you can take to heal from the effects of abuse, presented by someone who understands all too well the courage and vulnerability it takes to heal. In the new book Resolve to Rise, Lilli Correll investigates fundamental reasons why it feels so hard to recover after deep suffering, and offers compelling […]

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Our Legal System Fails Domestic Violence Survivors

Some perpetrators learn quickly not to stop abusing, just to change tactics. Posted December 5, 2021 on Psychology Today By Kaytee Gillis, LCSW-BACS Domestic violence rarely makes the list of favorite topics for most of us. Even within my millennial-infused social circle, where pop singers praise their therapists, and mental health tips from TikTok and […]

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How to Cultivate Presence

When you cultivate being present, people notice and pay attention. You nonverbally communicate your self-worth, that you matter and expect to be respected. You gain presence that conveys self-acceptance. It enables you to be open and confident. Openness requires self-esteem that provides courage and allows you to be authentic and take risks. You’re not interested in hiding […]

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How to Set Better Boundaries Interview with Sharon Martin

Do you have trouble saying “no,” or constantly sacrifice your own needs to please others? If so, this evidence-based workbook will help you set healthy boundaries in all aspects of your life—without feeling guilty or afraid. If you find yourself feeling responsible for others’ happiness, worrying about letting people down, or struggling to speak up […]

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Soul Alignment

Everything on earth – including every species of plant and animal, and each individual person, plant, each flower, seed, and cell – is a materialization of supreme intelligence, the absolute, or the Godhead, which I refer to as the divine. Our soul is its conduit and unique manifestation. It seeks full expression like an acorn […]

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What is Splitting? Why We Love Jekyll and Hate Hyde

How can lovers feel both love and hate in the same week or even hour or be devoted for years and then cut off all good memories? This is a manifestation of the defense called splitting, first coined by Freud. It starts in infancy. To separate from our mother (or earliest caretaker), we must make […]

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