Tactics Manipulators Use to Control and Confuse You

Tactics Manipulators Use to Control and Confuse You Thank you Darlene Lancer for another wonderful article! Many of us don’t even realize when we’re being manipulated. We may have an uneasy feeling in our gut that doesn’t match the manipulator’s words or feel trapped into agreeing with a request. Most people react in ways that […]

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What You Should Know about Narcissists, Their Partners, & NPD

What You Should Know about Narcissists, Their Partners, & NPD Poor Narcissus. The gods sentenced him to a life without human love. He fell in love with his own reflection in pool of water and died hungering for its response. Like Narcissus, narcissists only love themselves as reflected in the eyes of others. It’s a […]

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Therapy for NPD and Narcissists

Therapy for NPD and Narcissists Many people ask whether narcissists can change or benefit from therapy. Because narcissists see the cause of their problems as external due to their defenses of denial, distortion, and projection, their ability to look at themselves introspectively is limited. Thus, they don’t often come to individual therapy. Narcissists only comprise […]

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What is Self Esteem

What is Self Esteem? Self-esteem is what we think of ourselves. When it’s positive, we have confidence and self-respect. We’re content with ourselves and our abilities, in who we are and our competence. Self-esteem is relatively stable and enduring, though it can fluctuate. Healthy self-esteem makes us resilient and hopeful about life. Self-Esteem Impacts Everything […]

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Three levels of smear campaigns and how to protect yourself

Narcissists lie you probably know that by now, but it’s what they do to weaponize that lie to basically take you down emotionally defending yourself and financially defending yourself and in court to prove your innocence against these false attacks. I believe we can remove the power we give them but letting these lies affect […]

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Addicted to a Narcissist

Addiction to a Narcissist Frequently I encounter folks who are emotionally and psychologically devastated by the wreckage of romantic involvement with a malignant narcissist. These women and men are intelligent, attractive and empathic. Yet they cannot extricate themselves from insidious dynamics of abuse and violence. They are addicted. B.F. Skinner’s work with operant conditioning tells […]

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Identifying Ambient Abuse

The scars you can’t see are the hardest to heal. ~ Astrid Alauda Niccolò Machiavelli wrote in his classic political treatise The Prince, “It is much safer to be feared than loved.” This Machiavellian ethos is a tactical blueprint for those motivated to strategically exploit and utilize love and compassion to ensure dominance and control. […]

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How the Narcissist Triangulates

Triangulation is a commonly relied upon tactic by narcissists. It involves the narcissist pitting a supporter or a militia of supporters, also known as enablers and flying monkeys, against a targeted rival, in order to Divide and Conquer. Dividing and Conquering is the means by which control over a designated target is ensured by creating […]

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