Trauma after Abuse Thank you Darlene Lancer for another great article! Codependency robs us of a self and self-love. We’ve learned to conceal who we really are, because we grew up pleasing, rebelling against, or withdrawing from dysfunctional parents. This sets us up for trauma. As adults, even if we’re successful in some areas, our […]
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CAN YOU RECORD YOUR PARTNER During a high conflict divorce, there may be a time where your soon-to-be-ex is ranting or threatening you and recording them can come in handy. Not all recordings are going to be admissible in court so ask your lawyer for advice. If your ex is stalking you or harassing you […]
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RELATIONSHIP AS A SPIRITUAL PATH Thank you Darlene Lancer for another great article! A relationship can be an exciting spiritual path to the unknown. It offers an ever-present opportunity to grow―a path to spiritual transformation and mutual discovery and ultimately the divine when partners open to one another. The concept of spirituality derives from “spiritus,” […]
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The Trance of Fear and Surviving the Narcissist Thank you Stephanie M. Kriesberg for this wonderful article! Tara Brach, a psychologist and renowned teacher of meditation writes:”when the emotion of fear works overtime… we are caught in the trance of fear.” Anyone who has experienced a relationship with a narcissist has experienced the trance of fear. […]
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Dodging Bullets Fired by Narcissists Big thank you to Sherri Heller for another amazing article! How to Spot Them and How to Deflect Them Primary narcissism is an essential part in normal development. A child’s normal narcissistic entitlement is the foundation for a healthy emerging authentic mature character that has a compassionate awareness of self […]
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Tactics Manipulators Use to Control and Confuse You Thank you Darlene Lancer for another wonderful article! Many of us don’t even realize when we’re being manipulated. We may have an uneasy feeling in our gut that doesn’t match the manipulator’s words or feel trapped into agreeing with a request. Most people react in ways that […]
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What You Should Know about Narcissists, Their Partners, & NPD Poor Narcissus. The gods sentenced him to a life without human love. He fell in love with his own reflection in pool of water and died hungering for its response. Like Narcissus, narcissists only love themselves as reflected in the eyes of others. It’s a […]
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Therapy for NPD and Narcissists Many people ask whether narcissists can change or benefit from therapy. Because narcissists see the cause of their problems as external due to their defenses of denial, distortion, and projection, their ability to look at themselves introspectively is limited. Thus, they don’t often come to individual therapy. Narcissists only comprise […]
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