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How Narcissistic Abuse Can Ultimately Improve your Life

I understand how the title of this particular blog may be very controversial. Yet, as I examine this premise, perhaps it will make some sense and help with recovery and healing. When I was in my late 20’s and early 30’s, I suffered from crippling panic attacks. I was a “functional” person with anxiety, in […]

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Healing Psychic Wounds of Codependency

Codependency is more than a relationship problem. It’s a wound to our psyche and individual development. Make no mistake. It’s to no fault of our own. Codependency is adaptive and helped us survive growing up in a dysfunctional family system. But that adjustment cost us our individuality, authenticity, and our future quality of life. The […]

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Jealousy and the Narcissist

Do you find yourself always being the one “taking” the photos and never in them?  Are you constantly on the defensive regarding who you speak to?  Do you get criticized mercilessly for how you act in public?  Or, have you ever noticed that when something good happens, you get very little (to no) kudos?? Narcissists […]

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The Magnetic Pull of the Narcissist

I think it happened again. I didn’t even see it coming, or maybe I did and just didn’t want to acknowledge that. It was a great, life-changing day. A day when millions were dancing in the streets celebrating. That was the day she chose to call me up, perhaps under the pretense of “that day”. […]

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Five Tips For Handling Family Estrangement During The Holidays

Many people with narcissists in their lives deal with family estrangement. This type of estrangement is different from not being with your family due to the COVID pandemic. When you’re estranged from family to protect yourself from someone’s narcissistic behavior, the holidays can trigger feelings of guilt and loneliness. In addition, you may feel that […]

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Co-parenting With A Narcissist: Fake It Til You Make It

After a 3 and ½ year custody battle my ex-spouse who has severe Narcissistic Personality Disorder was forced to settle on a shared parenting plan for our 6 year old daughter. This was after 3 ½ years of parental alienation tactics with me as the targeted parent. The child psychologist that had been appointed for […]

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My Father Robbed Me of My Dignity as a Woman

When I came to realize how my father not just failed me, but also shattered my spirit, it hit me hard. Much of my life up until that point I viewed him as the victim of my mother’s lunacy. That was the narrative he had me believe. Since she was schizophrenic and he was the […]

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4 Types of Narcissism Share a Core Trait

There are four major types of narcissism. Researchers have been hunting for the core of narcissism that all narcissists share despite varying symptoms and severity. Narcissists use a variety of tactics and defenses to keep you insecure and ensure their status and their needs are met. It’s easy to be confused, but it’s important to […]

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The Female Narcissist

As a seasoned therapist in NYC specializing in treating survivors of complex trauma and a subset of relational trauma known as narcissistic abuse syndrome, I encounter men and women who enter treatment baffled by the damage incurred by a female narcissist. Being certified in Dr. Karyl McBride’s five-step recovery model for treating adult children of narcissists often […]

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So, Your Boss Is A Narcissist… Now What?

When your boss is a strong leader, they can boost your confidence, help you to feel fulfilled in your role, validate your contribution to the organization and ensure your professional trajectory. On the other hand, when your boss is a narcissist, you may feel confused, like your walking on egg shells, insecure, burnt-out and overwhelmingly […]

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