Written by Anonymous. “You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives”. – Genesis 50:20 NIV. I’d like to begin with this is my experience. I am not here to tell you how to think or feel. My story, while it […]
Breakups with narcissists don’t always end the relationship. Many won’t let you go, even when it’s they who leave the relationship, and even when they’re with a new partner. They won’t accept “no.” They hoover in an attempt to rekindle the relationship or stay friends after a breakup or divorce. A research study showed that […]
For those who are desperate to break away from the surreal malevolence of a malignant narcissist, it may seem all the more disorienting to consider that there are pathologically codependent folks who adore and latch on exclusively to narcissists. Yet they do indeed exist. As a complex trauma therapist and survivor, I have both treated others […]
To discard is to get rid of something that is useless and unwanted. In the context of a relationship, it is the ultimate form of degradation. A break-up with a malignant narcissist is characterized as a discard, because like a piece of unwanted garbage the victim of narcissistic abuse has lost their value, and the narcissist […]
Like many of the traumatized men and women I treat for narcissistic abuse syndrome, I too was a magnet for malignant narcissists. Throughout much of my life, the plight of brutal circumstances as a child raised by abusers set me up for subsequent victimization. The developmental disasters I incurred impeded the cultivation of interpersonal discrimination and […]
Many victims of abuse struggling with receiving love again. Is it difficult to accept kind gestures, gifts, or compliments from your partner? Are you reluctant to tell your partner what you really want or need? When you get what you’ve asked for…do you still feel dissatisfied? Many men and women know how to give love, […]
How Mindfulness Practices Help in Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse There is ‘nothing worse’ than being with someone who is bitter about what happened to them, right? Wrong. What’s worse is being the person who can’t find a way to rid themselves of bitterness. Bitterness, like anger and other uncomfortable emotions, can take a long time […]
Often many people, in particular codependents, find it hard to receive. Codependents are more comfortable giving or even self-sacrificing than receiving. Yet they wonder why they’re in relationships with “selfish” or narcissistic partners. They might fantasize receiving, but keep right on giving and not suspect that their predicament is not just due to their partners’ […]
GAVIN De Becker, the gift of fear Jim Carrey’s Commencement Address at the 2014 MUM Graduation 10 Seconds of Courage: Life Lessons from a Fighter Overcoming guilt and shame after abuse Listening to shame | Brené Brown Sheryl Sandberg Gives UC Berkeley Commencement Keynote Speech Gaslighting and Narcissistic Abuse – How to heal with Amy […]
A powerful workshop-in-a-book for healing from loss One day everything is fine. The next, you find yourself without everything you took for granted. Love has turned sour. The people you depended on have let you down. You feel you’ll never love again. But there is a way out. In The Abandonment Recovery Workbook, psychotherapist and abandonment expert […]