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An Anonymous Story of Co-Parenting

I have a stalker. He doesn’t lurk in the bushes by my house with binoculars. He doesn’t follow me to work or spy on me while I run errands. But he still inserts himself into my life and the effects of his actions are present in my home. He is the father of my child.  […]

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Narcissist Gifts Suck

To truly give someone a good and appropriate gift it helps that you get to know what that person likes. To understand what you collect or what you enjoy doing is someone that really spends the time getting to know you. A good gift doesn’t need to be expensive just thoughtful. Narcissists are actors remember […]

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Anything Worth Holding On To | Betrayal Trauma Recovery

This content is provided courtesy of btr.org An artist’s personal journey of fighting through Betrayal Trauma due to her husband’s pornography addiction and emotional abuse. She found hope and healing through a community of strong and loving women who have been through the same trauma. Betrayal Trauma Recovery was there for her when no one […]

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Sons Of Narcissistic Mothers

Another great article, courtesy of Darlene Lancer. All children of narcissists suffer. Sons of narcissistic mothers suffer damage to their autonomy, self-worth, and future relationships with women. Narcissists lack empathy and ability to nurture their children. They don’t see them as individuals, but only as extensions of themselves. Their children’s feelings and needs are neglected […]

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8 Key Ways We Derail Love

Thank you Darlene Lancer for another wonderful article! Although we seek love, we may unwittingly damage or derail it. Surprisingly, our fear of not being loved, which includes fear of abandonment, loneliness, and rejection, can lead to eight common behaviors that sabotage love and relationships. When we lack self-love, although we may have relationships, generally […]

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Holiday Tips for Dealing With A Narcissist

Thank you Debbie Tudor for another wonderful article submission! Stay grounded in the truth about narcissism and self- care, every day. Read books, blogs, do your journaling. List reasons why you have chosen your level of contact. Consider protected contact or no-contact as options, but don’t allow anyone to decide that for you. Accept the […]

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“Shoulds”:  The Love Language of the Narcissist

Thank you Alisa Stamps for submitting another wonderful article! In Gary Chapman’s book, The Five Love Languages:  How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate, he outlines the ways that individuals experience and express love.  He suggests that to “discover another person’s love language, one must observe the way they express love to others, and […]

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10 Tips to Survive the Holidays with A Toxic Family

Thank you to Amy Marlow for sharing this great article with us! Ah, the holidays: The scents of roasted turkey, apple pie, and Christmas cookies filling the air. Snuggling up in a cozy blanket, gazing dreamily into the flickering fireplace as you sip on a hot apple cider or decadent eggnog. Pretty lights, rich and […]

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Is a Gray Rock Strategy Advisable?

Thank you Darlene Lancer for another great article! One strategy for dealing with a narcissist or sociopath is to act like a “gray rock,” meaning that you become uninteresting and unresponsive. You don’t feed their needs for drama or attention. You don’t show emotion, say anything interesting, or disclose any personal information. Nor do you […]

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