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The Codependent False Self

Codependents don’t realize that they’re living from their false self. Because the false self isn’t real, you might feel anxious trying to be accepted by others or believe that they can see through you or are judging you. There’s an immediacy and aliveness in living authentically. It requires presence. Hence, depression and feeling disconnected are signs that you […]

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Losing Your Power in Narcissistic Relationships

The core problem in narcissistic relationships is that they prioritize power and sacrifice the relationship to get it, while their partners prioritize the relationship and sacrifice themselves to keep it. Narcissists put themselves first, and so do their partners. Due to their insecurities, they constantly scan their environments and monitor their interactions to see who’s on […]

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Processing Your Fears By Journaling

Fear = False Evidence Appearing Real Emotions. They are intricate and they can be tricky. The swirling of emotions can create a downward spiral and your life may feel like it is falling apart; emotional irregularity is known to create a tornado that can be overwhelming. Emotional resilience is the goal that will set us […]

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Dealing with High-Conflict People

Individuals who are aggressive thrive on provoking and escalating conflict. They’re usually domineering and try to control the conversation. They’re distrustful, reactive, highly defensive, intense, dogmatic, and often, though not always, loud. They’re not open to alternative points of view, but are more invested in enhancing their power at your expense than listening to your […]

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The Narcissistic Parent

A narcissistic parent behaves as they imagine themselves to be—the king or queen of the family, or someone whose activities are more important than being part of the family. As a child, your parents are your world until you’re able to leave home. Your survival and self-concept depend on them. A narcissistic parent can severely damage […]

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How Trauma Reactions Can Hi-Jack Your Life

When your nervous system has been primed by trauma, you can overreact to perceived “dangers” that aren’t life-threatening, like when your boss questions you or someone cuts in line in front of you. When you’re a trauma survivor, your defensive states can hi-jack your brain. Instead of helping you survive, trauma responses can become dysfunctional. […]

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Narcissists’ Dirty Little Secret

You won’t guess abusers’ dirty little secret – the one thing narcissists and abusers don’t want you to know. In fact, they find it so shameful that most of them won’t admit it even to themselves. They hide it behind their abuse and bluster, their braggadocio, and their arrogance. People are fooled by the narcissist’s […]

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First Christmas Alone Post-Narc Abuse

First Christmas Alone Post-Narc Abuse by Tracy A. Malone They say that nothing is certain in life but death and taxes. I will add one more item to the list of things you can always count on: Narcissists always ruin holidays. The cliché holiday culture is the big family dinner with happy, loving people, cookies, […]

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Learning to Rise Again After Abuse – with Author Lilli Correll

Discover the concrete steps you can take to heal from the effects of abuse, presented by someone who understands all too well the courage and vulnerability it takes to heal. In the new book Resolve to Rise, Lilli Correll investigates fundamental reasons why it feels so hard to recover after deep suffering, and offers compelling […]

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