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Co-parenting With A Narcissist: Fake It Til You Make It

After a 3 and ½ year custody battle my ex-spouse who has severe Narcissistic Personality Disorder was forced to settle on a shared parenting plan for our 6 year old daughter. This was after 3 ½ years of parental alienation tactics with me as the targeted parent. The child psychologist that had been appointed for […]

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My Father Robbed Me of My Dignity as a Woman

When I came to realize how my father not just failed me, but also shattered my spirit, it hit me hard. Much of my life up until that point I viewed him as the victim of my mother’s lunacy. That was the narrative he had me believe. Since she was schizophrenic and he was the […]

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4 Types of Narcissism Share a Core Trait

There are four major types of narcissism. Researchers have been hunting for the core of narcissism that all narcissists share despite varying symptoms and severity. Narcissists use a variety of tactics and defenses to keep you insecure and ensure their status and their needs are met. It’s easy to be confused, but it’s important to […]

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The Female Narcissist

As a seasoned therapist in NYC specializing in treating survivors of complex trauma and a subset of relational trauma known as narcissistic abuse syndrome, I encounter men and women who enter treatment baffled by the damage incurred by a female narcissist. Being certified in Dr. Karyl McBride’s five-step recovery model for treating adult children of narcissists often […]

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So, Your Boss Is A Narcissist… Now What?

When your boss is a strong leader, they can boost your confidence, help you to feel fulfilled in your role, validate your contribution to the organization and ensure your professional trajectory. On the other hand, when your boss is a narcissist, you may feel confused, like your walking on egg shells, insecure, burnt-out and overwhelmingly […]

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Dating A Narcissist

You won’t realize you’re dating a narcissist. Narcissists are skilled at making people like them. They can be very alluring and charming and exciting to date. In fact, in one study, it took seven meetings for people to see through their likable veneer. In a dating situation, a narcissist has greater incentive to win you […]

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Strong-Willed or Willful?

Thank you Darlene Lancer for another great submission! Strong-willed people are successful, yet those who are willful often sabotage their success. Willful individuals can be fiercely stubborn in their opinions and pursuit of their goals, ignoring what other people think and need. They often fiercely force their will despite obstacles or negative implications. Their behavior […]

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Anger Letter to your abuser

Have you ever written an anger letter to your ex? It can be so healing to get everything out of your mind and onto paper. In my support groups its one of the homework assignments and everyone finds it so healing. Never send the letter to them, because that doesn’t end well as it usually […]

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Getting to Know the Narcissist’s Arsenal of Enablers

Thank you Rev. Sherri Heller for another wonderful article! On the malignant end of the narcissism personality spectrum, are folks who exhibit an absence of empathy and an intense need for aggrandizing, attention, and admiration. These malignant narcissists harbor extreme expectations, reinforced by a deluded sense of entitlement and ‘specialness’. These traits result in dangerously […]

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Living with Fear and Uncertainty After Narcissistic Abuse

Tama Kieves, an honors graduate of Harvard Law School, left her law practice to write and help others create their most extraordinary lives. She is the bestselling author of This Time I Dance! Creating the Work You Love, and Inspired & Unstoppable: Wildly Succeeding in Your Life’s Work! and A Year without Fear: 365 Days […]

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