Fully understanding what it means to be supply Unto itself, the severing of an attachment with a romantic partner tests us to our limits even when both parties are compassionate and kind. Indeed, going through a breakup is difficult enough without the added trauma of facing it was all a horrifying lie. Unfortunately, this is […]
Gaslighting is an insidious and dangerous form of emotional abuse used to manipulate, gain power and control, and cause you to doubt your perception or reality. Become aware that this behavior is due to the abuser’s shame and insecurity, not yours. You will begin to feel frustrated and angry trying to have a conversation. They […]
“Coercive control” is a common household term in the UK which most of us Americans have never heard of. It’s beginning to weave its way into law in the United States, where normally domestic abuse cases require evidence of physical violence. Long overdue, now various states are looking to expand the definition and scope of domestic […]
The passive version of antagonism and entitlement “The manipulator portrays him or herself as a victim of circumstance or of someone else’s behavior in order to gain pity, sympathy or evoke compassion and thereby get something from another. Caring and conscientious people cannot stand to see anyone suffering and the manipulator often finds it easy […]
Relationships with narcissists revolve around them – their needs, their entitlement, their vanity, and their moods. Partners are not seen as separate, whole human beings with their own feelings and needs. Because they lack empathy and think only of themselves, narcissists feel entitled to control, belittle, and exploit family members in order to boost their […]
There is one particular glaring red flag that far surpasses any of the other red flags when it comes to determining if you are indeed in a toxic or “pathological” love relationship. What is a “pathological love relationship?” A pathological love relationship is a relationship in which you are with a partner with traits of […]
How to Move On and Protect Yourself from Parental Alienation Claims It’s normal when a relationship ends for people to be angry and upset. In most cases, these feelings tend to subside with time. As things begin to settle down, people generally find ways to work together to make sure the kids can get through […]
A parenting plan is a valuable tool to create when there is a dissolution of a marriage with children involved but it is especially important in a divorce with a narcissist because it can help to provide structure and stability for the child during a potentially chaotic and emotionally draining time. A parenting plan can […]
Getting unstuck from an insidious cycle of penance and self-punishment “Do not look for healing at the feet of those who broke you” ~ Rupi Kaur (Milk and Honey) Many of the folks I see for complex trauma therapy are immersed in the arduous process of dismantling their bondage to a malignant narcissist (NPD). Although the […]
Although it is hard to make an exact definition of love, describing love by how it feels makes an understanding of love more accessible. I’m talking about deep, long-term love that is shared equally by both partners. The word love is often used to describe romance, attraction, and sexual energy — all of which […]