What Is Post-Separation Abuse? What Steps Can Be Taken To Avoid It?

Post-separation abuse refers to a pattern of abusive behavior that occurs after a couple has separated or divorced. It involves one former partner using various tactics to exert control, intimidate, manipulate, or harm the other partner, even though they are no longer together. Harassment Harassment: The abuser may engage in persistent and unwanted contact, such […]

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Dealing With An Abuser Or Narcissist

Narcissists are antagonistic and selfish and can be abusive. Dealing with a narcissist is challenging.  Whether the relationship is with a parent, sibling, or lover, love may feel out of reach. Do you feel emotionally abandoned or abused, vacillate between hope and pain, love and resentment, and staying or cutting off contact? Living together breeds […]

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The Pain of Accepting Love Was Not Real with a Narcissist

Fully understanding what it means to be supply Unto itself, the severing of an attachment with a romantic partner tests us to our limits even when both parties are compassionate and kind. Indeed, going through a breakup is difficult enough without the added trauma of facing it was all a horrifying lie. Unfortunately, this is […]

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Gaslighting and Grace

Gaslighting is an insidious and dangerous form of emotional abuse used to manipulate, gain power and control, and cause you to doubt your perception or reality. Become aware that this behavior is due to the abuser’s shame and insecurity, not yours. You will begin to feel frustrated and angry trying to have a conversation. They […]

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Coercive Control: Shedding Light on Invisible Abuse

“Coercive control” is a common household term in the UK which most of us Americans have never heard of. It’s beginning to weave its way into law in the United States, where normally domestic abuse cases require evidence of physical violence. Long overdue, now various states are looking to expand the definition and scope of domestic […]

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The Vulnerable Narcissist

The passive version of antagonism and entitlement “The manipulator portrays him or herself as a victim of circumstance or of someone else’s behavior in order to gain pity, sympathy or evoke compassion and thereby get something from another. Caring and conscientious people cannot stand to see anyone suffering and the manipulator often finds it easy […]

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Living with a Narcissist

Relationships with narcissists revolve around them – their needs, their entitlement, their vanity, and their moods. Partners are not seen as separate, whole human beings with their own feelings and needs. Because they lack empathy and think only of themselves, narcissists feel entitled to control, belittle, and exploit family members in order to boost their […]

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The #1 Red Flag of a Toxic Relationship

There is one particular glaring red flag that far surpasses any of the other red flags when it comes to determining if you are indeed in a toxic or “pathological” love relationship. What is a “pathological love relationship?” A pathological love relationship is a relationship in which you are with a partner with traits of […]

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Relocations in Custody Battles and High-Conflict Divorce

How to Move On and Protect Yourself from Parental Alienation Claims It’s normal when a relationship ends for people to be angry and upset. In most cases, these feelings tend to subside with time. As things begin to settle down, people generally find ways to work together to make sure the kids can get through […]

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Why is a parenting plan so important with a narcissist?

A parenting plan is a valuable tool to create when there is a dissolution of a marriage with children involved but it is especially important in a divorce with a narcissist because it can help to provide structure and stability for the child during a potentially chaotic and emotionally draining time. A parenting plan can […]

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