IS IT LOVE OR OBLIGATION?

  Although it is hard to make an exact definition of love, describing love by how it feels makes an understanding of love more accessible. I’m talking about deep, long-term love that is shared equally by both partners. The word love is often used to describe romance, attraction, and sexual energy — all of which […]

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Lessons Learned From The Narcissist

If you have been in a relationship with someone with a narcissistic personality disorder or even one who has some traits of narcissism, no doubt you have been hurt deeply.  Having a family member, parent, or sibling with narcissism can cause great harm.  Emotional abuse is just as damaging as physical abuse – this type […]

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Is Your Relationship Toxic?

Healthy relationships nourish and support us. Like poison, a toxic relationship is one that is damaging to us. Instead of uplifting us, it makes us feel worse. When it ends, we might experience post-traumatic stress or a lessening of our self-esteem and trust in ourselves and others. Although friends and family might tell us to […]

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Why Can’t You Just Get Over It?

I’m guessing that there is not one person reading this who can say they have never had their heart broken. Even if it was just that childhood crush, we’ve all been there before, and some of us more than others. Heartbreak can take a toll on our mental, emotional, and even physical health, depending on […]

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Why “Parental Alienation” is Not A Syndrome But Your Child’s Rejection is Real

According to the American Psychological Association, parental alienation is “a child’s experience of being manipulated by one parent to turn against the other (targeted) parent and resist contact with him or her.” It is one of the most predictable and threatening concepts coming into the conversation during high-conflict divorce and/or custody battles when there is […]

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When a Social Justice Warrior is a Communal Narcissist

Identifying when malevolence is cloaked in philanthropy When I was a kid, I was enamored with topical folk songwriter and political activist Phil Ochs. The abysmal circumstances I was born into were assuaged by his activism, brilliant lyricism, and melodic voice. He inspired me and gave me hope. Ochs was emblematic of what the ideology […]

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Making Meaning of Narcissistic Abuse for the Spiritual Woman

I don’t think I am the only woman with a deep spiritual relationship, and values, who has wanted to bang her head against a wall trying to understand the crazy-making behavior of someone she loves. The crazy-making abuse, the lack of empathy, and the desire to hold on to it all for dear life, because […]

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Why Narcissists Get Worse Over Time

  You know what I’ve never heard? Someone saying about their narcissistic ex, “They just got better and better over time!” I’ve never heard it and you’ve never heard it because it’s not true. Narcissists don’t get better, they don’t improve. This is a fact, basic science, aka Shit We Know to be True. Like other […]

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What is a Guardian ad Litem?

A Guardian ad Litem, a GAL, is a court-appointed individual who is responsible for representing the best interests of a child or other vulnerable individual in a legal proceeding. The GAL is typically appointed in cases where there are concerns about the welfare or safety of the child or at-risk person, such as in cases […]

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How To Spot Someone Playing Victim

Not all victims are manipulative. Feeling like a victim has taken on negative connotations, but there are people who “play the victim” in order to manipulate you. This is a favorite defense of narcissists and other personality-disordered people. In some other instances, this behavior is learned as a child because as a way to get needs […]

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