After close to three decades and without any planning, I chose to escape a narcissistically abusive marriage. Wow! I wished I would have read Tracy A. Malone’s book, “Divorcing Your Narcissist: You Can’t Make This Shit Up!” because then I would have learned from her extensive research and experience about the “covert tricks they pull” […]
Read MoreSons of Narcissistic Fathers: The Pain and Shame of Never Measuring Up
Even in this day and age of generational shifts in parenting and shared parental responsibilities, the father is still viewed by many as a collateral caregiver whose primary function is to mete out discipline and pay the bills. However, the father is so much more than just an authority figure and a material provider. In fact, the […]
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The Narcissistically Disordered Family
The Narcissistically Disordered Family A Glimpse At The Grooming And Abusing That Occurs Within The Home by Rev. Sheri Heller, LCSW In a memoir piece I wrote about my disturbing relationship with my narcissistically disordered father I elaborated on how his neglect, sadistic mockery, objectification and abandonment nearly destroyed me. The proverbial silver lining of having […]
Read MoreSons Of Narcissistic Mothers
Another great article, courtesy of Darlene Lancer. All children of narcissists suffer. Sons of narcissistic mothers suffer damage to their autonomy, self-worth, and future relationships with women. Narcissists lack empathy and ability to nurture their children. They don’t see them as individuals, but only as extensions of themselves. Their children’s feelings and needs are neglected […]
Read MoreHas your parent ever given you the silent treatment?
A big thank you to Mel Crowe for this great article! Have they done it a few times? Do they do it whenever there’s been an argument or disagreement, which means that instead of talking things through, clearing the air, reaching a compromise, or apologizing, they stop talking to you for a few hours, […]
Read MoreParental Alienation Daughter Comes Back – What Was Life Like With Dad? How She Survived
I am so happy for my friend Carolyn and her daughter Caitlyn after 8 long years, mom and daughter reunite. Parental Alienation is a tool abusers use to hurt the other parent. Today I am honored to interview the two of them after they got back together. What was life like at Dad’s house? Were […]
Read MoreTen Signs of Having Been Raised by a Narcissist
Ten Signs of Having Been Raised by a Narcissist Thank you Debbie Tudor for a great article! In my life coaching and therapy work I began to see the same pattern over and over again in my clients-a highly intelligent, successful adult, desperate to please a narcissistic parent. These clients, who are scapegoated their entire […]
Read MoreChild Roles in the Narcissistic Family: Scapegoat
Child Roles in the Narcissistic Family: Scapegoat As in other types of dysfunctional families, children in the narcissistic home fall into roles orchestrated by their parents. Such parents assign the roles to reinforce their deluded self-beliefs and control family dynamics. Like other aspects of the narcissistic family, child roles are artificial and meant to serve […]
Read MoreLife of the Golden Child of a Narcissist
Life of the Golden Child of a Narcissist Growing up, I was the furthest thing from perfect. In fact, I was a straight C+ to B- student, yet I was the Golden Child to a narcissistic father and a highly obedient sensitive mother. I was treated better than my other siblings, simply because they were […]
Read MoreI am so friggin over my narcissistic mom
I am so friggin over my mom. Just so over this. Please. No more. We were responsible for my mother’s happiness since before we were born, tiny embryos developing and taking in her every thought, her every word, her every action. We were soon to learn that if we wanted her love, we must make […]
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