Boundaries: A Narcissist’s Scorched Earth

Thank you Alisa Stamps for sharing this great article! “Scorched Earth is a military strategy used by a people when the enemy is advancing on their territory. Anything of use to the enemy such as houses, food, vehicles, utilities or equipment is burnt, leaving nothing which could help the enemy sustain their assault” (Simon, 2016, […]

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Tactics Manipulators Use to Control and Confuse You

Tactics Manipulators Use to Control and Confuse You Thank you Darlene Lancer for another wonderful article! Many of us don’t even realize when we’re being manipulated. We may have an uneasy feeling in our gut that doesn’t match the manipulator’s words or feel trapped into agreeing with a request. Most people react in ways that […]

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Identifying Ambient Abuse

The scars you can’t see are the hardest to heal. ~ Astrid Alauda Niccolò Machiavelli wrote in his classic political treatise The Prince, “It is much safer to be feared than loved.” This Machiavellian ethos is a tactical blueprint for those motivated to strategically exploit and utilize love and compassion to ensure dominance and control. […]

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How the Narcissist Triangulates

Triangulation is a commonly relied upon tactic by narcissists. It involves the narcissist pitting a supporter or a militia of supporters, also known as enablers and flying monkeys, against a targeted rival, in order to Divide and Conquer. Dividing and Conquering is the means by which control over a designated target is ensured by creating […]

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Beware the Love Bomber

Beware The Love Bomber I was in my late teens when I met him. At first everything was perfect. He seemingly adored everything about me and constantly showered me with compliments. After only a few weeks of dating, he told me he loved me and invited me to go on a vacation with him to […]

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Why Narcissists Act the Way They Do

Narcissists can be charming, charismatic, seductive, exciting, and engaging. They can also act entitled, exploitative, arrogant, aggressive, cold, competitive, selfish, obnoxious, cruel, and vindictive. You can fall in love with their charming side and be destroyed by their dark side. It can be baffling, but it all makes sense when you understand what drives them. […]

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Can a Narcissist Love?

Anyone who’s loved a narcissist wonders, “Does he really love me?” “Does she appreciate me?” They’re torn between their love and their pain, between staying and leaving, but can’t seem to do either. It’s confusing, because sometimes they experience the caring person they love, whose company is a pleasure, only to be followed by behavior […]

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