My new book, Senior Sociopaths — How to Recognize and Escape Lifelong Abusers, is now available in the Lovefraud store and on Amazon. Here’s the book’s take-home message: Senior sociopaths engage in antisocial behavior and abuse until they die. I wrote the book because I married a con man, James Alwyn Montgomery of Australia. He […]
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Co-parenting With A Narcissist: Fake It Til You Make It
After a 3 and ½ year custody battle my ex-spouse who has severe Narcissistic Personality Disorder was forced to settle on a shared parenting plan for our 6 year old daughter. This was after 3 ½ years of parental alienation tactics with me as the targeted parent. The child psychologist that had been appointed for […]
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Boundaries: A Narcissist’s Scorched Earth
Thank you Alisa Stamps for sharing this great article! “Scorched Earth is a military strategy used by a people when the enemy is advancing on their territory. Anything of use to the enemy such as houses, food, vehicles, utilities or equipment is burnt, leaving nothing which could help the enemy sustain their assault” (Simon, 2016, […]
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Narcissists & what they do
Tactics Manipulators Use to Control and Confuse You
Tactics Manipulators Use to Control and Confuse You Thank you Darlene Lancer for another wonderful article! Many of us don’t even realize when we’re being manipulated. We may have an uneasy feeling in our gut that doesn’t match the manipulator’s words or feel trapped into agreeing with a request. Most people react in ways that […]
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Tips for recognizing Narcissists
Identifying Ambient Abuse
The scars you can’t see are the hardest to heal. ~ Astrid Alauda Niccolò Machiavelli wrote in his classic political treatise The Prince, “It is much safer to be feared than loved.” This Machiavellian ethos is a tactical blueprint for those motivated to strategically exploit and utilize love and compassion to ensure dominance and control. […]
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How the Narcissist Triangulates
Triangulation is a commonly relied upon tactic by narcissists. It involves the narcissist pitting a supporter or a militia of supporters, also known as enablers and flying monkeys, against a targeted rival, in order to Divide and Conquer. Dividing and Conquering is the means by which control over a designated target is ensured by creating […]
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Beware the Love Bomber
Beware The Love Bomber I was in my late teens when I met him. At first everything was perfect. He seemingly adored everything about me and constantly showered me with compliments. After only a few weeks of dating, he told me he loved me and invited me to go on a vacation with him to […]
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Why Narcissists Act the Way They Do
Narcissists can be charming, charismatic, seductive, exciting, and engaging. They can also act entitled, exploitative, arrogant, aggressive, cold, competitive, selfish, obnoxious, cruel, and vindictive. You can fall in love with their charming side and be destroyed by their dark side. It can be baffling, but it all makes sense when you understand what drives them. […]
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