8 Key Ways We Derail Love

Thank you Darlene Lancer for another wonderful article! Although we seek love, we may unwittingly damage or derail it. Surprisingly, our fear of not being loved, which includes fear of abandonment, loneliness, and rejection, can lead to eight common behaviors that sabotage love and relationships. When we lack self-love, although we may have relationships, generally […]

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Is a Gray Rock Strategy Advisable?

Thank you Darlene Lancer for another great article! One strategy for dealing with a narcissist or sociopath is to act like a “gray rock,” meaning that you become uninteresting and unresponsive. You don’t feed their needs for drama or attention. You don’t show emotion, say anything interesting, or disclose any personal information. Nor do you […]

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The Startling Reason We Sabotage Love

Thank you Darlene Lancer for another great article! Most relationships fail and nearly half of American adults are unmarried. Why can’t we find love and why don’t relationships last? Paradoxically, as much as we want love, we also fear it. Fear of not being loved is the greatest reason we don’t find love and sabotage […]

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How to overcome your ex rejecting you

How to overcome your ex rejecting you A big thank you to Nancy Sungyun for this great article! Are you miserable and depressed because your ex is rejecting your wish to get back together? No matter what you say or do, he or she refuses to get back together with you. In fact, the harder […]

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8 Reasons for Ghosting and What to Do

8 Reasons for Ghosting and What to Do Big thank you to Darlene Lancer for another great article! Rejection and breakups are hard enough, but being ghosted can be traumatic. It can leave you with unanswered questions that make it hard to move on. Although ghosting also occurs in friendships, it’s usually associated with dating. […]

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How to Leave a Narcissist or Abuser

Why it’s Hard to Leave When we fall in love, it’s natural to become attached and form a romantic bond. But once in love with a narcissist, it’s not easy to leave, despite the abuse. Although you’re unhappy, you may be ambivalent about leaving because you still love your partner, have young children, lack resources, […]

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5 Ways to love yourself courageously enough to walk away – Susan Ball

free from toxic love because you deserve it 5-Ways to Love Yourself Courageously Enough to Walk Away   Staying in a situation and resenting someone for causing you emotional and physical pain, disrespecting you, and treating you like you are worthless makes no sense at all. Walking away from a toxic or abusive relationship becomes […]

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Addicted to a Narcissist

Addicted to a Narcissist by Rev. Sheri Heller, LCSW Frequently I encounter folks who are emotionally and psychologically devastated by the wreckage of romantic involvement with a malignant narcissist. These women and men are intelligent, attractive and empathic. Yet they cannot extricate themselves from insidious dynamics of abuse and violence. They are addicted. B.F. Skinner’s […]

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