Why we love an abuser

Why We Love an Abuser? Falling in love happens to us―usually before we really know our partner. It happens to us because we’re at the mercy of unconscious forces, commonly referred to as “chemistry.” Don’t judge yourself for loving someone who doesn’t treat you with care and respect, because by the time the relationship turns […]

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Addicted to a Narcissist

Addiction to a Narcissist Frequently I encounter folks who are emotionally and psychologically devastated by the wreckage of romantic involvement with a malignant narcissist. These women and men are intelligent, attractive and empathic. Yet they cannot extricate themselves from insidious dynamics of abuse and violence. They are addicted. B.F. Skinner’s work with operant conditioning tells […]

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What is Codependency?

Codependency is sneaky and powerful. You may not be aware that it’s the root cause of your problems. Focusing thinking and behavior around someone else is a sign of codependency. We react to something external, rather than our own internal cues. Addicts are codependent, too. Their lives revolve around their addiction – be it food, […]

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Addicted to a Narcissist

Addicted to a Narcissist by Rev. Sheri Heller, LCSW Frequently I encounter folks who are emotionally and psychologically devastated by the wreckage of romantic involvement with a malignant narcissist. These women and men are intelligent, attractive and empathic. Yet they cannot extricate themselves from insidious dynamics of abuse and violence. They are addicted. B.F. Skinner’s […]

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True compassion is loving yourself – Codependent alert

If we were extraterrestrials looking down at the earth but could only see the waves of energy moving among us, not physical things, all hate, including hate directed at hate groups, would be considered harmful and unjustified. Hate, would be hate, regardless of moral justification. All and any of it would be considered toxic. The […]

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All your codependency questions answered with Brian Pisor

The myths of codependency and what you need to know – today my guest is Brian Pisor of http://www.codependencynomore.com/. I first learned of Brian from his podcast and I know you will love his very detailed information he shares with us today. Visit his website and take his free mini- course http://www.codependencynomore.com/min… WATCH OUR INTERVIEW […]

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People Collecting

In The Happiness Project, the author spends a bit of time talking about how to “play seriously” – essentially, how to really make sure that her non-work time is actually fulfilling and not just full. One of the things she decides to do is to start a collection. She takes up finding bluebird related stuff .. […]

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How to Set Boundaries with TOXIC People – Sharon Martin, LCSW

Sharon Martin, LCSW It isn’t easy to set boundaries with toxic people, but it’s something we can all learn to do and when we do, it’s empowering. Boundaries are a way to take care of ourselves. When we set boundaries, we’re less angry and resentful because our needs are getting met. Boundaries make our expectations […]

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