MOVE ON – Educate yourself, learn about them, understand your accountability. You can visit with the pain of the breakup or loss but do not live there, when you are ready to get help and move on you will. KEEP CONTROL – Learn about boundaries, love yourself, listen to intuition, never let it happen again. […]
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On this pre-thanksgiving weekend I reflect on the lessons I finally learned after narcissistic abuse. I have earned the status of expert on narcissistic abuse the hard Knox way. I was raised by, married to, divorced, Co-parented, sister of, niece of, and girlfriend of and if I look close enough I was the friend of […]
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Victor Frankl describes in Man’s Search for Meaning the intake process he went through at a concentration camp. Among the things he describes, one thing particularly caught my attention – the moment when each person is directed to hand over all of their possessions. The men and women are stripped of their clothing and all personal effects. […]
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A Story About Anybody By: @Korby4Health A person named Anybody had wandered off the path and was lost. They fell into a hole whose floor was like quicksand and they started to slowly sink down. They did nothing for a long time, even though they knew there were other people walking around the hole that seemed […]
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The more I work with survivors of sexual abuse, the more I am aware of one of the greatest hopes we have: That our hurts will not have been in vain, that there is some way to make it matter. I know we often look to volunteering with organizations, offering our time and energy to […]
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Some nights I sit in front of the TV and these quotes come into my mind. I love making quotes and I hope that these help you understand a little piece of this horror we call Narcissistic Abuse.
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“Narcissism will Never Happen to Me” 1. To cover our fear of people and our dread of isolation we tragically become the very authority figures who frighten others and cause them to withdraw. 2. To avoid becoming enmeshed and entangled with other people and losing ourselves in the process, we become rigidly self-sufficient. We disdain […]
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Thank you, Marie. And thank you esteemed members of the faculty, proud parents, devoted friends, squirming siblings. Congratulations to all of you but especially congratulations to the magnificent Berkeley class of 2016! It is a privilege to be here at Berkeley, which has produced so many Nobel Prize winners, Turing Award winners, Astronauts, members of […]
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Narcissists are like gum on the bottom of your shoe… it just won’t go away. They fight just to piss you off. Do you want it to stop, yes. Will they…. no. Why do they do it… because it works! Threatening you is easy if they see you struggling with it, for them it’s a […]
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