Whenever I need to forget about where I am, like during wisdom tooth extraction or stuck in traffic on I-95, I often focus on something from the past which makes me feel really good, like the best kiss I ever had. I’d become great at summoning up the inside of Eric’s red Volkswagen at sixteen, […]
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Victims of betrayal can experience a wide range of intense and complex emotions. The specific feelings and their intensity may vary depending on the depth of the relationship, the individual’s personality and coping mechanisms, and the nature of the betrayal. Here are some common emotions that victims of betrayal may experience: Hurt: Betrayal often causes […]
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Valentine’s Day creates lots of expectations that are often unrealized. It’s fraught with landmines, whether you’re in or out of a relationship. But the grass isn’t always greener. Is your situation described here? Read six tips for having a great holiday. You’re Alone I can recall Valentine’s Days when I wished I were in love […]
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The stress of the holidays triggers sadness and depression for many people. This time of year is especially difficult because there’s an expectation of feeling merry and generous. People compare their emotions to what they assume others are experiencing or what they’re supposed to feel and then think that they alone fall short. They judge themselves and […]
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I certainly cannot speak for everyone, but I can tell you that you are not alone. I feel sad for you, because I have hoped for the same thing so many times and it never ended well. I’ve had a crazy roller coaster ride of hoovers, so I’ll try my best to share my thoughts […]
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My experience as a survivor and a therapist specializing in treating both complex trauma and narcissistic abuse syndrome has shown me that the violent personal assault inflicted by NPD abuse causes Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) in victims, irrespective of whether they present with a prior history of complex trauma. Accordingly, having somehow managed to keep oneself glued […]
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It is often said, “If you think being married to a narcissist was bad, wait until you divorce one.” Who said that? Me. Yours truly. Because unfortunately, I know. What is also unfortunate is I learned this the hard way. If divorcing a narcissist were a class, I failed it with a big fat F. […]
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Fear = False Evidence Appearing Real Emotions. They are intricate and they can be tricky. The swirling of emotions can create a downward spiral and your life may feel like it is falling apart; emotional irregularity is known to create a tornado that can be overwhelming. Emotional resilience is the goal that will set us […]
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The key to happiness is meeting our needs. Although codependents are very good at meeting needs of other people, many are clueless about their own needs. They have problems identifying, expressing, and fulfilling their needs and wants. They’re usually very attuned other people and may even anticipate their needs and desires. Over the years, they […]
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MOVE ON – Educate yourself, learn about them, understand your accountability. You can visit with the pain of the breakup or loss but do not live there, when you are ready to get help and move on you will. KEEP CONTROL – Learn about boundaries, love yourself, listen to intuition, never let it happen again. […]
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