Meeting Your Needs is the Key to Happiness

The key to happiness is meeting our needs. Although codependents are very good at meeting needs of other people, many are clueless about their own needs. They have problems identifying, expressing, and fulfilling their needs and wants. They’re usually very attuned other people and may even anticipate their needs and desires. Over the years, they […]

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How to Heal Emotional Abuse

MOVE ON – Educate yourself, learn about them, understand your accountability. You can visit with the pain of the breakup or loss but do not live there, when you are ready to get help and move on you will. KEEP CONTROL – Learn about boundaries, love yourself, listen to intuition, never let it happen again. […]

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New!! Book of the Month & Finding ‘gratitude’ post narcissist

On this pre-thanksgiving weekend I reflect on the lessons I finally learned after narcissistic abuse. I have earned the status of expert on narcissistic abuse the hard Knox way. I was raised by, married to, divorced, Co-parented, sister of, niece of, and girlfriend of and if I look close enough I was the friend of […]

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LEAVE BORIS ALONE.

A big thank you to Michelle at Rubber Shoes In Hell for this great article! Thank you for sharing your story! — The fury was primal. There was no fear, only determination and palpable love. The little neighbor girl had been running through a sprinkler in her front yard. Her saggy swimsuit dripped while her hair spiraled […]

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Anger

Anger is something most victims must travel through and the journey to heal asks us to understand anger. These are some of my favorite quotes to help us understand.

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The duel life of abuse work/home with Dr. Kate Dow

How do we hide the abuse at home when we go off to work? How do we live that duel life – it isn’t easy. Today I bought Dr. Kate Dow a survivor herself to teach us some strategies to help us cope. Having gone through this myself, I am never judgmental or impatient. I […]

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New Memes from Tracy!

Do you use pinterest? We love making Narcissist Memes for you! Please share these and have you followed us? https://www.pinterest.com/tracyamalone  

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The Value of Material Things

Victor Frankl describes in Man’s Search for Meaning the intake process he went through at a concentration camp. Among the things he describes, one thing particularly caught my attention – the moment when each person is directed to hand over all of their possessions.   The men and women are stripped of their clothing and all personal effects. […]

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