Effective Ways to Provide Support for Children Amidst Divorce Challenges

All children are different. Some show signs of independence and strength at an early age while others may crave parental support much longer than expected. Throw divorce into the mix and it is safe to say you should expect the unexpected. Supporting your children through the struggles they may experience during and after a divorce […]

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Best First Kiss: Getting My Socks Knocked Off in Mid-Life Romance

Whenever I need to forget about where I am, like during wisdom tooth extraction or stuck in traffic on I-95, I often focus on something from the past which makes me feel really good, like the best kiss I ever had. I’d become great at summoning up the inside of Eric’s red Volkswagen at sixteen, […]

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Post Traumatic Growth After Narcissistic Abuse

It’s hard to imagine that anything good can come out of the torturous experience of being emotionally abused. Research tells us that 90% of you (in a pathological love relationship) will have some symptoms of trauma; many will have full blown C-PTSD and PTSD. You may have developed physical illness from the excessive stress and […]

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Lessons Learned From The Narcissist

If you have been in a relationship with someone with a narcissistic personality disorder or even one who has some traits of narcissism, no doubt you have been hurt deeply.  Having a family member, parent, or sibling with narcissism can cause great harm.  Emotional abuse is just as damaging as physical abuse – this type […]

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Signs of Healthy Boundaries

Healthy boundaries are essential in recovery from codependency. They both build and reflect self-esteem. Learning to have healthy boundaries is an essential aspect of individuating and becoming an individual and autonomous person. Boundaries are learned in childhood. Some dysfunctional families are enmeshed and your individuality and boundaries are ignored or openly disrespected in words or […]

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Love After Narcissistic Abuse: Sharing Real Intimacy After Being The Supply

My experience as a survivor and a therapist specializing in treating both complex trauma and narcissistic abuse syndrome has shown me that the violent personal assault inflicted by NPD abuse causes Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) in victims, irrespective of whether they present with a prior history of complex trauma. Accordingly, having somehow managed to keep oneself glued […]

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Taking Time For Healing Is Not Optional

The desire to experience unconditional love is the heart cry of every human heart. Loving yourself matters and fulfilling this experience in our lifetime is the spiritual path of awakening and enlightenment. Our early relationships, our experiences of friendship, a romantic encounter with another soul, and our commitments and decisions to love all influence the […]

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Think Like A Narcissist Without Being One

The most common question I get from my clients or readers is, “What if I’m the narcissist?” If you’ve asked yourself this question, it’s likely because your narcissist is accusing you of being one. But the simple answer is, if you think you’re a narcissist, then that means you are concerned about other people’s feelings, […]

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