Summer is the perfect time to focus on your healing and I am going to share with you ideas to get you started. Let’s face it, anyone who has suffered from abuse will need to do some serious work to move past the pain and trauma left in its wake. I have put together some […]
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Take control of your life to bring in a Happy New Year – Videos to Watch
GAVIN De Becker, the gift of fear Jim Carrey’s Commencement Address at the 2014 MUM Graduation 10 Seconds of Courage: Life Lessons from a Fighter Overcoming guilt and shame after abuse Listening to shame | Brené Brown Sheryl Sandberg Gives UC Berkeley Commencement Keynote Speech Gaslighting and Narcissistic Abuse – How to heal with Amy […]
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How to stay safe at home during COVID-19 when you live with a Narcissist.
If you are still living with an abusive, narcissistic person and are having to self-isolate or you are on lockdown, being confined with them is going to be extremely challenging, and the chances are, if they haven’t already they will use this time to further their abuse and control over you. I want you to […]
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Is a Gray Rock Strategy Advisable?
Thank you Darlene Lancer for another great article! One strategy for dealing with a narcissist or sociopath is to act like a “gray rock,” meaning that you become uninteresting and unresponsive. You don’t feed their needs for drama or attention. You don’t show emotion, say anything interesting, or disclose any personal information. Nor do you […]
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Healing from Abuse
8 Reasons for Ghosting and What to Do
8 Reasons for Ghosting and What to Do Big thank you to Darlene Lancer for another great article! Rejection and breakups are hard enough, but being ghosted can be traumatic. It can leave you with unanswered questions that make it hard to move on. Although ghosting also occurs in friendships, it’s usually associated with dating. […]
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The Positive Psychology of Gratitude and Trauma
The Positive Psychology of Gratitude and Trauma When you’ve gone through something as harrowing as Narcissist abuse, gratitude might seem like the last thing on your mind. More likely, you might find yourself feeling fear, anger, or even regret. But giving thanks has scientifically proven benefits, and it can play a big role in healing […]
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Narcissist Abuse Lessons
When you go through a narcissistic relationship hopefully you learn some lessons so that you don’t need to repeat them. Here are some ideas of lessons our readers have learned. Feel free to share on social media
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Help your therapist measure the abuse you’ve endured with this questionnaire and survey
For several years I have been working with people in abusive relationships , that include partners of those with Cluster B personality disorders and comorbid traits of psychopathy – those we call narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths, exploiters. There is one complaint I hear most often and continually: “I can’t find a therapist who gets these relationships”, […]
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How to Heal Emotional Abuse
MOVE ON – Educate yourself, learn about them, understand your accountability. You can visit with the pain of the breakup or loss but do not live there, when you are ready to get help and move on you will. KEEP CONTROL – Learn about boundaries, love yourself, listen to intuition, never let it happen again. […]
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