If you’re reading this, there’s a good chance you identify as a caring, empathic person. You likely pride yourself on being understanding, generous, and attuned to others’ feelings. So why is it that you keep finding yourself in relationships with narcissistic or manipulative people who take advantage of your good nature? What is it that […]
Read MoreBETRAYAL PART 3 – HOW CAN YOU HEAL AFTER BETRAYAL? 12 ways to heal.
Healing after betrayal is a process that takes time, self-compassion, and effort. Like anything else, there is no quick fix or magic potion. Instead, there will be effort and pain to get through and come out the other side. While it may not be easy, the following steps can help you navigate the path to […]
Read MoreGaslighting and Grace
Gaslighting is an insidious and dangerous form of emotional abuse used to manipulate, gain power and control, and cause you to doubt your perception or reality. Become aware that this behavior is due to the abuser’s shame and insecurity, not yours. You will begin to feel frustrated and angry trying to have a conversation. They […]
Read MoreLessons Learned From The Narcissist
If you have been in a relationship with someone with a narcissistic personality disorder or even one who has some traits of narcissism, no doubt you have been hurt deeply. Having a family member, parent, or sibling with narcissism can cause great harm. Emotional abuse is just as damaging as physical abuse – this type […]
Read MoreHow to Feel Grateful When You Don’t
The expectation of feeling grateful can be challenging when we’re struggling with loneliness or relationship, work or health problems. It can be even harder to have gratitude around holidays when we see other people happily celebrating. When you’re discouraged or weighed down with negative thoughts, there are several things you can do. Why Gratitude Can […]
Read MoreHow To Disarm A Narcissist During Divorce Mediation
Have you ever noticed how the goalpost keeps moving when dealing with a narcissist? The rules, expectations, behaviors, and conduct are consistently inconsistent. Narcissists use random and varied tactics of fear and confusion to condition their targets. The objective is to keep them from ever achieving a state of equilibrium; to render them defenseless, compliant, […]
Read MoreThe Grey Rock Method!
The Grey Rock Method! by Zoe Parsons When you can’t go no contact, you need to do what is called “detached contact” or “grey rock.” This is where you stay emotionally distant from the narcissist. By using this method, it helps you to not be continually triggered and by not engaging with them, you are […]
Read MoreHealing From Narcissistic Abuse by Randi Fine
Healing From Narcissistic Abuse: What You Know Intellectually is Not What You Feel Emotionally by Randi Fine Are you feeling frustrated with the narcissistic abuse healing process because what you know intellectually is not what you feel emotionally? By now you have likely read and listened to everything you could find on narcissistic abuse. You consider yourself […]
Read MoreSummer time – why it is a good time to focus on healing
Summer is the perfect time to focus on your healing and I am going to share with you ideas to get you started. Let’s face it, anyone who has suffered from abuse will need to do some serious work to move past the pain and trauma left in its wake. I have put together some […]
Read MoreTake control of your life to bring in a Happy New Year – Videos to Watch
GAVIN De Becker, the gift of fear Jim Carrey’s Commencement Address at the 2014 MUM Graduation 10 Seconds of Courage: Life Lessons from a Fighter Overcoming guilt and shame after abuse Listening to shame | Brené Brown Sheryl Sandberg Gives UC Berkeley Commencement Keynote Speech Gaslighting and Narcissistic Abuse – How to heal with Amy […]
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