How To Spot a Narcissist On the First Date

Dating is tricky. It always has been but now that we know what we know about narcissists, it adds a new layer of concern into the mix that may have never been there before. In the past, we may have hoped for a “nice” or “cute” one but now we look for one who won’t […]

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Understanding the Connection between Domestic Violence and Narcissism

October is a month when the world turns its collective attention to a pressing and often hidden issue that affects countless lives: domestic violence. Designated as Domestic Violence Awareness Month, October serves as a solemn reminder of the urgent need to address and combat the pervasive problem of abuse within intimate relationships. During this month, […]

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BETRAYAL PART 1 – WHAT ARE COMMON BETRAYALS IN A NARCISSISTIC RELATIONSHIP?

Betrayal in a relationship refers to the breaking of trust, faith, or loyalty that one partner has placed in the other. It occurs when someone intentionally deceives, lies, or goes against the agreed-upon values, commitments, or expectations within the relationship. Betrayal can take various forms and can deeply hurt the betrayed person, leading to emotional […]

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What Is Post-Separation Abuse? What Steps Can Be Taken To Avoid It?

Post-separation abuse refers to a pattern of abusive behavior that occurs after a couple has separated or divorced. It involves one former partner using various tactics to exert control, intimidate, manipulate, or harm the other partner, even though they are no longer together. Harassment Harassment: The abuser may engage in persistent and unwanted contact, such […]

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Coercive Control: Shedding Light on Invisible Abuse

“Coercive control” is a common household term in the UK which most of us Americans have never heard of. It’s beginning to weave its way into law in the United States, where normally domestic abuse cases require evidence of physical violence. Long overdue, now various states are looking to expand the definition and scope of domestic […]

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The #1 Red Flag of a Toxic Relationship

There is one particular glaring red flag that far surpasses any of the other red flags when it comes to determining if you are indeed in a toxic or “pathological” love relationship. What is a “pathological love relationship?” A pathological love relationship is a relationship in which you are with a partner with traits of […]

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Is Your Relationship Toxic?

Healthy relationships nourish and support us. Like poison, a toxic relationship is one that is damaging to us. Instead of uplifting us, it makes us feel worse. When it ends, we might experience post-traumatic stress or a lessening of our self-esteem and trust in ourselves and others. Although friends and family might tell us to […]

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When a Social Justice Warrior is a Communal Narcissist

Identifying when malevolence is cloaked in philanthropy When I was a kid, I was enamored with topical folk songwriter and political activist Phil Ochs. The abysmal circumstances I was born into were assuaged by his activism, brilliant lyricism, and melodic voice. He inspired me and gave me hope. Ochs was emblematic of what the ideology […]

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How To Spot Someone Playing Victim

Not all victims are manipulative. Feeling like a victim has taken on negative connotations, but there are people who “play the victim” in order to manipulate you. This is a favorite defense of narcissists and other personality-disordered people. In some other instances, this behavior is learned as a child because as a way to get needs […]

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