Relationships with narcissists often go through a painful cycle that is a predictable outgrowth of narcissistic personality disorder. Central to understanding a narcissist’s behavior is that their relationships are transactional. Their impaired boundaries and lack of empathy prevent them from seeing other people as separate three-dimensional beings with needs and feelings of their own. Thus, […]
Read MoreEmpaths & Narcissists: Why Caring, Empathic People Are Targets for Narcissistic Abuse
If you’re reading this, there’s a good chance you identify as a caring, empathic person. You likely pride yourself on being understanding, generous, and attuned to others’ feelings. So why is it that you keep finding yourself in relationships with narcissistic or manipulative people who take advantage of your good nature? What is it that […]
Read MoreIs Your Marriage a Relationship or an Emotional Hostage Situation?
It is generally assumed that marriage is based on a loving, committed relationship between two people who mutually strive to keep it strong and healthy. Everyone anticipates, upon entering a marriage contract, that there will be ups and downs. Everyone knows that disagreements are bound to happen. With the love and commitment two married people […]
Read MoreDealing With An Abuser Or Narcissist
Narcissists are antagonistic and selfish and can be abusive. Dealing with a narcissist is challenging. Whether the relationship is with a parent, sibling, or lover, love may feel out of reach. Do you feel emotionally abandoned or abused, vacillate between hope and pain, love and resentment, and staying or cutting off contact? Living together breeds […]
Read MoreThe Pain of Accepting Love Was Not Real with a Narcissist
Fully understanding what it means to be supply Unto itself, the severing of an attachment with a romantic partner tests us to our limits even when both parties are compassionate and kind. Indeed, going through a breakup is difficult enough without the added trauma of facing it was all a horrifying lie. Unfortunately, this is […]
Read MoreLiving with a Narcissist
Relationships with narcissists revolve around them – their needs, their entitlement, their vanity, and their moods. Partners are not seen as separate, whole human beings with their own feelings and needs. Because they lack empathy and think only of themselves, narcissists feel entitled to control, belittle, and exploit family members in order to boost their […]
Read MoreIS IT LOVE OR OBLIGATION?
Although it is hard to make an exact definition of love, describing love by how it feels makes an understanding of love more accessible. I’m talking about deep, long-term love that is shared equally by both partners. The word love is often used to describe romance, attraction, and sexual energy — all of which […]
Read MoreWhy Narcissists Get Worse Over Time
You know what I’ve never heard? Someone saying about their narcissistic ex, “They just got better and better over time!” I’ve never heard it and you’ve never heard it because it’s not true. Narcissists don’t get better, they don’t improve. This is a fact, basic science, aka Shit We Know to be True. Like other […]
Read MoreI Love Pissing You Off, Because Then I Know You Still Love Me
The Insidious Nature of Narcissistic Abuse and How To Stop Being Their Supply Have you ever noticed that your partner is really only happy when you’re sad, and then when you’re happy, they’re mad? Toxic people love when you are miserable, especially if they’ve made it so. They feed on your attention, even when it’s […]
Read MoreThe Pain and Danger of Emotional Abuse
Some don’t know that emotional abuse is as damaging as physical abuse. It is an unseen assault on one’s soul. One can experience emotional abuse in a family with a parent, in the workplace with an associate, or in a relationship. Narcissistic abuse is becoming more prevalent in our society, or at least we’re hearing […]
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