According to the American Psychological Association, parental alienation is “a child’s experience of being manipulated by one parent to turn against the other (targeted) parent and resist contact with him or her.” It is one of the most predictable and threatening concepts coming into the conversation during high-conflict divorce and/or custody battles when there is […]
Read MoreMaking Meaning of Narcissistic Abuse for the Spiritual Woman
I don’t think I am the only woman with a deep spiritual relationship, and values, who has wanted to bang her head against a wall trying to understand the crazy-making behavior of someone she loves. The crazy-making abuse, the lack of empathy, and the desire to hold on to it all for dear life, because […]
Read MoreI Love Pissing You Off, Because Then I Know You Still Love Me
The Insidious Nature of Narcissistic Abuse and How To Stop Being Their Supply Have you ever noticed that your partner is really only happy when you’re sad, and then when you’re happy, they’re mad? Toxic people love when you are miserable, especially if they’ve made it so. They feed on your attention, even when it’s […]
Read More9 Tips for Coping with Holiday Depression and Stress
The stress of the holidays triggers sadness and depression for many people. This time of year is especially difficult because there’s an expectation of feeling merry and generous. People compare their emotions to what they assume others are experiencing or what they’re supposed to feel and then think that they alone fall short. They judge themselves and […]
Read MoreSigns of Healthy Boundaries
Healthy boundaries are essential in recovery from codependency. They both build and reflect self-esteem. Learning to have healthy boundaries is an essential aspect of individuating and becoming an individual and autonomous person. Boundaries are learned in childhood. Some dysfunctional families are enmeshed and your individuality and boundaries are ignored or openly disrespected in words or […]
Read MoreHow to Protect Yourself in a World of Narcissists and Other Assholes
Let’s talk about boundaries, baby… When I was a teenager, I knew exactly what a boundary was. It was that invisible line we crossed over when my parents drove us from Arizona on our way to Disneyland. Welcome to California! When my first husband came along in my early twenties, I held tight onto my […]
Read MoreHow to Protect Your Child from a Narcissist Relative?
How to Protect Your Child from a Narcissist Relative? Thank you Daniela McVicker for the great article! Any parent will tell you that keeping an eye on your child 24/7 is a difficult task. Most importantly, this type of observatory upbringing may or may not have adverse effects on the child’s psyche going forward. However, […]
Read MoreThe Trance of Fear and Surviving the Narcissist
The Trance of Fear and Surviving the Narcissist Thank you Stephanie M. Kriesberg for this wonderful article! Tara Brach, a psychologist and renowned teacher of meditation writes:”when the emotion of fear works overtime… we are caught in the trance of fear.” Anyone who has experienced a relationship with a narcissist has experienced the trance of fear. […]
Read MoreDodging Bullets Fired by Narcissists
Dodging Bullets Fired by Narcissists Big thank you to Sherri Heller for another amazing article! How to Spot Them and How to Deflect Them Primary narcissism is an essential part in normal development. A child’s normal narcissistic entitlement is the foundation for a healthy emerging authentic mature character that has a compassionate awareness of self […]
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