9 Tips for Coping with Holiday Depression and Stress

The stress of the holidays triggers sadness and depression for many people. This time of year is especially difficult because there’s an expectation of feeling merry and generous. People compare their emotions to what they assume others are experiencing or what they’re supposed to feel and then think that they alone fall short. They judge themselves and […]

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Signs of Healthy Boundaries

Healthy boundaries are essential in recovery from codependency. They both build and reflect self-esteem. Learning to have healthy boundaries is an essential aspect of individuating and becoming an individual and autonomous person. Boundaries are learned in childhood. Some dysfunctional families are enmeshed and your individuality and boundaries are ignored or openly disrespected in words or […]

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How to Protect Your Child from a Narcissist Relative?

How to Protect Your Child from a Narcissist Relative? Thank you Daniela McVicker for the great article! Any parent will tell you that keeping an eye on your child 24/7 is a difficult task. Most importantly, this type of observatory upbringing may or may not have adverse effects on the child’s psyche going forward. However, […]

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The Trance of Fear and Surviving the Narcissist

The Trance of Fear and Surviving the Narcissist Thank you Stephanie M. Kriesberg for this wonderful article! Tara Brach, a psychologist and renowned teacher of meditation writes:”when the emotion of fear works overtime… we are caught in the trance of fear.” Anyone who has experienced a relationship with a narcissist has experienced the trance of fear.  […]

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Dodging Bullets Fired by Narcissists

Dodging Bullets Fired by Narcissists Big thank you to Sherri Heller for another amazing article! How to Spot Them and How to Deflect Them Primary narcissism is an essential part in normal development. A child’s normal narcissistic entitlement is the foundation for a healthy emerging authentic mature character that has a compassionate awareness of self […]

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What You Should Know about Narcissists, Their Partners, & NPD

What You Should Know about Narcissists, Their Partners, & NPD Poor Narcissus. The gods sentenced him to a life without human love. He fell in love with his own reflection in pool of water and died hungering for its response. Like Narcissus, narcissists only love themselves as reflected in the eyes of others. It’s a […]

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Three levels of smear campaigns and how to protect yourself

Narcissists lie you probably know that by now, but it’s what they do to weaponize that lie to basically take you down emotionally defending yourself and financially defending yourself and in court to prove your innocence against these false attacks. I believe we can remove the power we give them but letting these lies affect […]

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Identifying Ambient Abuse

The scars you can’t see are the hardest to heal. ~ Astrid Alauda Niccolò Machiavelli wrote in his classic political treatise The Prince, “It is much safer to be feared than loved.” This Machiavellian ethos is a tactical blueprint for those motivated to strategically exploit and utilize love and compassion to ensure dominance and control. […]

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