Narcissist Abuse

Transforming Bitterness Into Acceptance

How Mindfulness Practices Help in Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse There is ‘nothing worse’ than being with someone who is bitter about what happened to them, right? Wrong. What’s worse is being the person who can’t find a way to rid themselves of bitterness. Bitterness, like anger and other uncomfortable emotions, can take a long time […]

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Narcissistic Gifts

Why it’s Hard to Receive

Often many people, in particular codependents, find it hard to receive. Codependents are more comfortable giving or even self-sacrificing than receiving. Yet they wonder why they’re in relationships with “selfish” or narcissistic partners. They might fantasize receiving, but keep right on giving and not suspect that their predicament is not just due to their partners’ […]

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The Spiritual Narcissist

Narcissists exist in all fields and areas of life and truly, one of the most confusing, insidious and dangerous forms of narcissism is that of the religious or spiritual narcissist. First and foremost, narcissists seek to gain A-grade supply from their prey, and they know that by placing themselves in a position of spiritual authority, […]

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How To Set Yourself Free From A Betrayal Bond

Betrayal bonding happens when we are in an abusive relationship but feel unable to leave. We hold onto a promised better future, focus on the positives and ignore the rest, and feel a sense of loyalty to the person everyone else says we must leave. So how can you break free of a trauma bond […]

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Tactics Narcissists Use to Gain Self-Esteem and Power

To some degree, most of us desire to improve our social status and acceptance, but narcissists feel compelled to. A recent study concluded that it’s their constant concern. More than most people, they look to others for “self-definition and self-esteem regulation; inflated or deflated self-appraisal…,” according to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. […]

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How Narcissistic Abuse Can Ultimately Improve your Life

I understand how the title of this particular blog may be very controversial. Yet, as I examine this premise, perhaps it will make some sense and help with recovery and healing. When I was in my late 20’s and early 30’s, I suffered from crippling panic attacks. I was a “functional” person with anxiety, in […]

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Healing Psychic Wounds of Codependency

Codependency is more than a relationship problem. It’s a wound to our psyche and individual development. Make no mistake. It’s to no fault of our own. Codependency is adaptive and helped us survive growing up in a dysfunctional family system. But that adjustment cost us our individuality, authenticity, and our future quality of life. The […]

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Jealousy and the Narcissist

Do you find yourself always being the one “taking” the photos and never in them?  Are you constantly on the defensive regarding who you speak to?  Do you get criticized mercilessly for how you act in public?  Or, have you ever noticed that when something good happens, you get very little (to no) kudos?? Narcissists […]

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The Magnetic Pull of the Narcissist

I think it happened again. I didn’t even see it coming, or maybe I did and just didn’t want to acknowledge that. It was a great, life-changing day. A day when millions were dancing in the streets celebrating. That was the day she chose to call me up, perhaps under the pretense of “that day”. […]

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Five Tips For Handling Family Estrangement During The Holidays

Many people with narcissists in their lives deal with family estrangement. This type of estrangement is different from not being with your family due to the COVID pandemic. When you’re estranged from family to protect yourself from someone’s narcissistic behavior, the holidays can trigger feelings of guilt and loneliness. In addition, you may feel that […]

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