Strong-Willed or Willful?

Thank you Darlene Lancer for another great submission! Strong-willed people are successful, yet those who are willful often sabotage their success. Willful individuals can be fiercely stubborn in their opinions and pursuit of their goals, ignoring what other people think and need. They often fiercely force their will despite obstacles or negative implications. Their behavior […]

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Anger Letter to your abuser

Have you ever written an anger letter to your ex? It can be so healing to get everything out of your mind and onto paper. In my support groups its one of the homework assignments and everyone finds it so healing. Never send the letter to them, because that doesn’t end well as it usually […]

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Getting to Know the Narcissist’s Arsenal of Enablers

Thank you Rev. Sherri Heller for another wonderful article! On the malignant end of the narcissism personality spectrum, are folks who exhibit an absence of empathy and an intense need for aggrandizing, attention, and admiration. These malignant narcissists harbor extreme expectations, reinforced by a deluded sense of entitlement and ‘specialness’. These traits result in dangerously […]

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Living with Fear and Uncertainty After Narcissistic Abuse

Tama Kieves, an honors graduate of Harvard Law School, left her law practice to write and help others create their most extraordinary lives. She is the bestselling author of This Time I Dance! Creating the Work You Love, and Inspired & Unstoppable: Wildly Succeeding in Your Life’s Work! and A Year without Fear: 365 Days […]

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The Role Codependency in Abusive Relationships

Many codependents are in abusive relationships with addicts or people with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) or borderline personality disorder (BPD). The symptoms of codependency encourage the dysfunctional dynamics in these relationships, which in turn worsens codependent symptoms. This makes sense when we consider the definition of codependency and that codependents have a “lost self,” in […]

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Just Because You Suffer Doesn’t Make You Special

Thank you Rev. Sheri Heller for another great article! As a trauma therapist of over thirty years I’ve encountered all sorts of heinous victimization from sex trafficking, to child sexual abuse, domestic violence and prolonged emotional and psychological torment. The ravages of ongoing trauma lead to subsequent victimization and often lead to aligning with predation. […]

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7 Ways to Cultivate Love in Your Life

Most of us seek someone to love or to love us. We don’t think about cultivating self-love or realize that love originates within.  You may be seeking a relationship, but research suggests that singles are actually happier than married people, with the exception of happily married people. But even that dwindles over time. A new […]

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When Do We Get to be the Heroes?

Thank you Alisa Stamps for wonderful article! I’m finding something interesting in this time of the pandemic that I’m noticing is similar to other times of crisis. We need heroes. We NEED good people that we can look up to so that maybe we don’t see as much of the bad. We—as Mr. Rogers once […]

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How to Divorce a Narcissist and Win

By Rebecca Zung, Esq. Are you divorcing a narcissist and afraid you’re not going to win? I hate to say it but….you should be. Why? Because dirty tricks, scamming, lying, pressuring, and even stalking and manipulating are not beneath them. But, there are ways to actually beat them at their own game.  So before we […]

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