Recognizing An Emotional Abuser

The truth is you may not recognize him or her at first because they will work overtime to make you feel like you are the answer to their prayers.  They will make you feel like you are one in a million, larger than life, and floating on cloud 9 in an intense love affair.  They […]

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Please Hoover Me, Narcissist. Why Aren’t They?

I certainly cannot speak for everyone, but I can tell you that you are not alone. I feel sad for you, because I have hoped for the same thing so many times and it never ended well. I’ve had a crazy roller coaster ride of hoovers, so I’ll try my best to share my thoughts […]

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Love After Narcissistic Abuse: Sharing Real Intimacy After Being The Supply

My experience as a survivor and a therapist specializing in treating both complex trauma and narcissistic abuse syndrome has shown me that the violent personal assault inflicted by NPD abuse causes Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) in victims, irrespective of whether they present with a prior history of complex trauma. Accordingly, having somehow managed to keep oneself glued […]

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Taking Time For Healing Is Not Optional

The desire to experience unconditional love is the heart cry of every human heart. Loving yourself matters and fulfilling this experience in our lifetime is the spiritual path of awakening and enlightenment. Our early relationships, our experiences of friendship, a romantic encounter with another soul, and our commitments and decisions to love all influence the […]

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Parental Alienation: What Is It and How Do You Cope?

After close to three decades and without any planning, I chose to escape a narcissistically abusive marriage. Wow! I wished I would have read Tracy A. Malone’s book, “Divorcing Your Narcissist: You Can’t Make This Shit Up!” because then I would have learned from her extensive research and experience about the “covert tricks they pull” […]

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How to Spot A Narcissist In 5 Dates or Less!

It’s easier than you might think! Wait, so you’re telling me I can’t spot a narcissist right out of the gate? AGHHH! Why does it have to take so looooong? What if I’ve already fallen for them? What if I get hurt again? What if I never find anyone to trust or love again?! Okay, […]

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Forgiveness

Do you find you are angry?  Hurt?  Confused?  Wanting to curl into the fetal position and just cry? Do you or have you felt like there was something wrong with you?  That you are broken? Have you asked or do you ask, why did this happen to you?  How did you get to this point? […]

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Holiday Triggers and Feeling Down is not a step backwards

The holiday season is not always the most wonderful time of the year, especially for those of us that have ended relationships with narcissists. Seeing happy people celebrating can remind us of happier times and thus bring on waves of sadness. If you’ve been doing well in your recovery and then BAM!, you see or smell something that makes […]

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