Whenever I need to forget about where I am, like during wisdom tooth extraction or stuck in traffic on I-95, I often focus on something from the past which makes me feel really good, like the best kiss I ever had. I’d become great at summoning up the inside of Eric’s red Volkswagen at sixteen, […]
Read MorePost Traumatic Growth After Narcissistic Abuse
It’s hard to imagine that anything good can come out of the torturous experience of being emotionally abused. Research tells us that 90% of you (in a pathological love relationship) will have some symptoms of trauma; many will have full blown C-PTSD and PTSD. You may have developed physical illness from the excessive stress and […]
Read MoreLove After Narcissistic Abuse: Sharing Real Intimacy After Being The Supply
My experience as a survivor and a therapist specializing in treating both complex trauma and narcissistic abuse syndrome has shown me that the violent personal assault inflicted by NPD abuse causes Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) in victims, irrespective of whether they present with a prior history of complex trauma. Accordingly, having somehow managed to keep oneself glued […]
Read MoreForgiveness
Do you find you are angry? Hurt? Confused? Wanting to curl into the fetal position and just cry? Do you or have you felt like there was something wrong with you? That you are broken? Have you asked or do you ask, why did this happen to you? How did you get to this point? […]
Read MoreHoliday Triggers and Feeling Down is not a step backwards
The holiday season is not always the most wonderful time of the year, especially for those of us that have ended relationships with narcissists. Seeing happy people celebrating can remind us of happier times and thus bring on waves of sadness. If you’ve been doing well in your recovery and then BAM!, you see or smell something that makes […]
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50 Reasons to Leave Your Narcissistic Lover
A guest post from Sue Riordan – As I am well on the healing journey I have started to think about the benefits of ending the narcissistic relationship and surprisingly there are many positives that I didn’t even realise. When in these toxic relationships you think you will never be happy again – however just […]
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