Co-parenting With A Narcissist: Fake It Til You Make It

After a 3 and ½ year custody battle my ex-spouse who has severe Narcissistic Personality Disorder was forced to settle on a shared parenting plan for our 6 year old daughter. This was after 3 ½ years of parental alienation tactics with me as the targeted parent. The child psychologist that had been appointed for […]

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Strategies to Calm Your Fears

Fear is a powerful emotion that is our bodies way of protecting us. The bad part is that fear is a liar. It brings in stories of things that have happened in the past, triggering all of our old wounds and fears until we lose control of them. I was away for two weeks as […]

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Anything Worth Holding On To | Betrayal Trauma Recovery

This content is provided courtesy of btr.org An artist’s personal journey of fighting through Betrayal Trauma due to her husband’s pornography addiction and emotional abuse. She found hope and healing through a community of strong and loving women who have been through the same trauma. Betrayal Trauma Recovery was there for her when no one […]

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My Shame Experience

Another great article thanks to Darlene Lancer!   Sprawled on the hallway floor, skirt flying, hitting and kicking, I wrestled with Tina before a crowd of junior high school schoolmates, including a dozen boys from my class. Tina was a gang member who had recently transferred from another school. She and her cohorts had taunted […]

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Trauma after Abuse

Trauma after Abuse Thank you Darlene Lancer for another great article! Codependency robs us of a self and self-love. We’ve learned to conceal who we really are, because we grew up pleasing, rebelling against, or withdrawing from dysfunctional parents. This sets us up for trauma. As adults, even if we’re successful in some areas, our […]

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The Positive Psychology of Gratitude and Trauma

The Positive Psychology of Gratitude and Trauma When you’ve gone through something as harrowing as Narcissist abuse, gratitude might seem like the last thing on your mind. More likely, you might find yourself feeling fear, anger, or even regret. But giving thanks has scientifically proven benefits, and it can play a big role in healing […]

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New!! Book of the Month & Finding ‘gratitude’ post narcissist

On this pre-thanksgiving weekend I reflect on the lessons I finally learned after narcissistic abuse. I have earned the status of expert on narcissistic abuse the hard Knox way. I was raised by, married to, divorced, Co-parented, sister of, niece of, and girlfriend of and if I look close enough I was the friend of […]

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