Emotional abuse has become more common and accepted in politics and the media. It’s widespread and under-reported, but should not be ignored. It can be more harmful than physical abuse, which is always preceded by emotional abuse. Emotional abuse includes mental, psychological, verbal, and financial abuse. Sometimes it’s overt and easily spotted, such as verbal attacks and […]
Read MoreComplex Grief and Trauma In Toxic Relationships
We can’t talk about narcissistic emotional abuse without talking about grief and trauma. Both of these will come up in your recovery. Each individual has their own unique losses to assess and to grieve if it becomes necessary to leave the relationship. Some of these may include: loss of a dream loss of an intact […]
Read MoreCo-parenting With A Narcissist: Fake It Til You Make It
After a 3 and ½ year custody battle my ex-spouse who has severe Narcissistic Personality Disorder was forced to settle on a shared parenting plan for our 6 year old daughter. This was after 3 ½ years of parental alienation tactics with me as the targeted parent. The child psychologist that had been appointed for […]
Read MoreStrategies to Calm Your Fears
Fear is a powerful emotion that is our bodies way of protecting us. The bad part is that fear is a liar. It brings in stories of things that have happened in the past, triggering all of our old wounds and fears until we lose control of them. I was away for two weeks as […]
Read MoreAnything Worth Holding On To | Betrayal Trauma Recovery
This content is provided courtesy of btr.org An artist’s personal journey of fighting through Betrayal Trauma due to her husband’s pornography addiction and emotional abuse. She found hope and healing through a community of strong and loving women who have been through the same trauma. Betrayal Trauma Recovery was there for her when no one […]
Read MoreMy Shame Experience
Another great article thanks to Darlene Lancer! Sprawled on the hallway floor, skirt flying, hitting and kicking, I wrestled with Tina before a crowd of junior high school schoolmates, including a dozen boys from my class. Tina was a gang member who had recently transferred from another school. She and her cohorts had taunted […]
Read MoreTrauma after Abuse
Trauma after Abuse Thank you Darlene Lancer for another great article! Codependency robs us of a self and self-love. We’ve learned to conceal who we really are, because we grew up pleasing, rebelling against, or withdrawing from dysfunctional parents. This sets us up for trauma. As adults, even if we’re successful in some areas, our […]
Read MoreThe Positive Psychology of Gratitude and Trauma
The Positive Psychology of Gratitude and Trauma When you’ve gone through something as harrowing as Narcissist abuse, gratitude might seem like the last thing on your mind. More likely, you might find yourself feeling fear, anger, or even regret. But giving thanks has scientifically proven benefits, and it can play a big role in healing […]
Read MoreGrowing up with emotional abuse
Help your therapist measure the abuse you’ve endured with this questionnaire and survey
For several years I have been working with people in abusive relationships , that include partners of those with Cluster B personality disorders and comorbid traits of psychopathy – those we call narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths, exploiters. There is one complaint I hear most often and continually: “I can’t find a therapist who gets these relationships”, […]
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