Are You Kind or Codependent?

Do you wonder whether you’re a kind, empathetic person or codependent? There is a difference between empathy and codependency. There are codependents who are abusers and not caring, and some people who are caring and aren’t codependent. So what’s the difference? First, the definition of codependency has nothing to do with kindness, although many codependents are kind and […]

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Institutional Narcissism: A look at the malignant ethos infiltrating influential organizations

Years back I watched The Corporation, a documentary which brilliantly illustrated how the diagnostic criteria of a psychopath parallels the character structure of a corporation. Based on the book The Corporation: The Pathological Pursuit of Profit and Power by Joel Bakan, the film’s psychological analysis elucidated how an ethos of malignant narcissism permeates the corporate entity on organizational and […]

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Narcissists Get Away with Sex Crimes. How Do We Stop Them?

Narcissists have no boundaries. They don’t care about others beyond what they can take from them. Their acts of giving are simply a covert scheme to get what they want. Early-on in their lives they learned that affection produces compliance. That’s why so many survivors of Narcissistic abuse report they were love-bombed at the outset […]

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True Lovefraud Stories: A new podcast telling stories like yours

Why do we get tangled up with narcissists and sociopaths? One big reason is that nobody tells us they’re out there, so we don’t know to watch out for them. I am changing that with my new podcast called, True Lovefraud Stories. I’m sharing stories of people who believed they found a loving partner, when […]

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10 Reasons Emotional Abuse is Traumatizing

Emotional abuse has become more common and accepted in politics and the media. It’s widespread and under-reported, but should not be ignored. It can be more harmful than physical abuse, which is always preceded by emotional abuse. Emotional abuse includes mental, psychological, verbal, and financial abuse. Sometimes it’s overt and easily spotted, such as verbal attacks and […]

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Narcissistic Abuse & the Trap of Self Blame

  Getting unstuck from an insidious cycle of penance and self-punishment “Do not look for healing at the feet of those who broke you” ~ Rupi Kaur (Milk and Honey) Many of the folks I see for complex trauma therapy are immersed in the arduous process of dismantling their bondage to a malignant narcissist (NPD). Although the […]

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Making Meaning of Narcissistic Abuse for the Spiritual Woman

I don’t think I am the only woman with a deep spiritual relationship, and values, who has wanted to bang her head against a wall trying to understand the crazy-making behavior of someone she loves. The crazy-making abuse, the lack of empathy, and the desire to hold on to it all for dear life, because […]

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You’re Not Imagining It. Narcissistic Abuse Can Make You Sick.

You’ve been in survival mode for the longest time. Not really living. Not thriving. Just existing as if in a vacuum. Nothing they do or say surprises you anymore – if anything, it just propels you further into numbness. You know when you react, they will loop you into an endless cycle of conflict and […]

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Narcissist Holiday

Pathological envy is a trademark of the narcissistic personality, and they often love to display contempt toward others who are actually having a good time, because their own self-loathing does not allow them to feel emotions such as love or joy. Holidays in particular can trigger this type of personality because there is an expectation […]

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