Divorce to a narcissist is a game. The primary goal is to win, the win for them is for you to lose financially, emotionally, socially and in everything to do with your parenting time.
To win at this game they must first rewrite history making themselves into the hero and the victim of the marriage story. A massive conspiracy theory will be executed for the years of abuse at the hands of you, the bipolar, alcoholic, cheating, thief, child abuser. From the false allegations to hiding assets, stonewalling the courts and the heartless behaviors you will witness in the coming months or year will leave your head spinning. There will be many questions, many confusing days because the person you are divorcing is no longer the person you married. The battle wounds cut deep as the legal bills go up and you search for answers.
No matter where you are in the divorce process you need to put on your learning hat and prepare because each stage of the game brings new obstacles. Coaching with someone that understands the crazy things that are happening can offer validation, a compassionate ear, education on what the tactics that are being pulled on you, and strategies to cope with each new attack sequence.
I have gathered resources to guide you on this journey from legal experts like Rebecca Zung to therapists that offer courses on Donna Anderson’s website LoveFraud. If you stay up late at night trying to learn how to help your kids as they are ordered to go spend time with their narcissistic parent home – we have a course on that, If you struggle that your ex is trying to turn the kids against you, we have a course on that. These low-cost courses are given by experts to give you the answers you need.
Lower on this page I built resources to help you find what the parenting guidelines are for your state, don’t wait for your lawyer to educate you (they don’t) know your rights. If you can’t afford a lawyer we have gathered State by State legal resources to see what type of help you can get. Does it matter if your ex cheated? Read the state guidelines to see if your state is a no-fault state. Find support through this time so you can learn you are not crazy – it really is them.