Preparing for Divorce with a Narcissist: Get Battle-Ready for the Challenge Ahead!

How could you have known? When victims of narcissistic abuse are faced with the biggest challenge of their lives – divorcing a narcissist – they always reach the point of self-blame and wonder, “How could I have not known? How did I miss all the red flags and write off such bad behavior for all this time?”

First, forgive yourself for not seeing who they really were. You can’t recognize what you don’t know. There will be much work for you to do to get a better understanding of what happened and heal after you get through your divorce. Please don’t get stuck on the, “How could I…” or “How did I…” scripts because it will only make it more difficult to become “battle-ready” and that is where you need your focus to be. Narcissists have a need to always win and, in their mind, winning at this divorce has high stakes and will become an obsession. The tactics used by the person you once loved and gave your heart to will leave you in shock and confusion, and the level to which they lie will cut to your core.

Stay strong and get the help you need, including proper legal support, a good therapist or coach, and a support group. If you are in a position where you feel you might be in danger, call 911 or the Domestic Violence Hotline at (800) 799-7233. Keep yourself safe at all costs.

Before we get deeper into the narcissistic spouses behaviors, you need to first understand the DSM’s Criteria for any narcissist.

The disorder begins by early adulthood and is indicated by at least five of the following to be medically diagnosed as having Narcissistic Personality Disorder

An exaggerated sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)
Preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
Believes he/she is “special” and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions)
Requires excessive admiration
Has a sense of entitlement
Selfishly takes advantage of others to achieve his own ends
Lacks empathy
Is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him
Shows arrogant, haughty, patronizing, or contemptuous behaviors or attitudes

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