Survival Strategies - Healing from abuse often requires the unlearning of behaviors that you inherited as survival tactics. Like people pleasing and apologizing when you didn't do anything. These protected you in an abusive situation, but eventually you must lay them down. - Tracy A. Malone
Resentment is an amber that festers into anger and despair. Holding resentment keeps you bonded to the abuser. - Tracy A. Malone
Narcissists hate it when... When you set boundaries they lose control over you, they make a mistake and get called out, having someone make demands on them. - Tracy A. Malone
Sometimes the only transportation is a leap of faith. - Margaret Shepard
I have been down the road of broken promises and paid a heavy toll. - Tracy A. Malone
Narcissistic Supply - In front of others they embarrass you by telling half truth stories. Then they watch your reaction and that is the supply. They got to you! - Tracy A. Malone
When the narcissists words and actions don't match. Victims experience cognitive dissonance. - Tracy A. Malone
Narcissistic Mother's Day - There are no cards that describe your narcissistic mother. Mother's Day is painful because you are reminded of how your mother was nothing like the other kids got.
Narcissistic Mother's Day - You were supposed to love us!
Abuse pebbles combine and can sink you down in quicksand as easily as a boulder of abuse. - Tracy A. Malone
Narcissistic Parents - No matter how financially successful a narcissistic parent is, they never give financial direction to their children. This empowers the narcissist to always be smarter and more entitled to condemn financial mistakes. You never mattered to them. - Tracy A. Malone
Narcissists words can not be trusted. Their actions must be trusted. Note, they will be different. - Tracy A. Malone
And once the storm is over, you won't remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won't even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won't be the same person who walked in. That's what this storm's all about. - Haruki Murakami
Narcissistic Abuse - Did yours say... you were dramatic? How about sensitive? Jealous? - Tracy A. Malone
Trust. The best way you can find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them. - Ernest Hemingway. Trusting yourself that if they are not trustworthy, no matter how cute their ass is that you will move on. - Tracy A. Malone
Happy Mother's Day - You are evil and cruel to the ones who would have loved you forever.
Narcissistic Mother - Why are there no memories of us that aren't bad? I never traveled with you, or went to a movie. You were never there when I needed you, but you demanded loyalty.
Narcissistic Apology - The words of an apology don't mean anything if they don't change their behaviors too. Actions do speak louder than words. - Tracy A. Malone
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery - Is not linear, the ebbs and flows are much like grieving. One day we feel stronger, the next we are lost and confused. Triggers can knock us off our recovery ladder in a single moment. It's okay, it doesn't mean you are starting all over again. Hold on and wait for tomorrow being better than today. Instead of worrying about how long this is taking, turn around and remind yourself how far you have come. - Tracy A. Malone
Facing Anger Strategy - 1) Look at the event, write it down. Include details to gain clarity, but also record why you felt the anger. You felt unheard, unseen, and unloved... 2) How does your body hold the anger? What strategies do you use to help regulate anger? Deploy as needed. 3) Understanding anger demystifies the emotions to allow for quicker release. - Tracy A. Malone
You never saw my broken little heart. - Narcissistic Mother
Narcissistic Lies - In the eyes of a narcissist they do nothing wrong and they are always the victim. So the stories they create (the lies) are what they actually believe. - Tracy A. Malone
Narcissistic Mother's Day Card - I have no words of love for you mom. I tried and tried to make you love me, but I was never good enough.
I thought is harmless unless we believe it. It's not our thoughts, but our attachment to our thoughts, that causes suffering. Attaching to a thought means believing that it's true, without inquiring. A belief is a thought that we've been attaching to, often for years. - Byron Katie
