Thank you Debbie Tudor for another wonderful article submission!
- Stay grounded in the truth about narcissism and self- care, every day. Read books, blogs, do your journaling.
- List reasons why you have chosen your level of contact. Consider protected contact or no-contact as options, but don’t allow anyone to decide that for you.
- Accept the narcissist just as they are. This is NOT denying how they are, or the pain it causes. It just means you give up trying to make them see your worth or the error of their ways.
- Focus on what the holiday means to you personally. Immerse yourself in the religious meaning, or the decorations, the music, or whatever else makes you happy.
- Create new traditions with someone who loves you, or by yourself. Leave the narcissist’s traditions behind. You’ve outgrown them; move on to your own style.
- Surround yourself with people who love and respect you.
- If you are practicing Protected Contact, never leave your protector’s side when the narcissist is present. Never get in a car with a narcissist.
- Allow any feelings that arise-anything you fight against is strengthened by your resistance. If you need to grieve, do so. Be willing to feel both sides (sad AND angry, etc.)
- Take time to find the beauty in the season; the crisp air, the excitement of children, a flickering candle, a good movie. Nurture yourself.
- Practice walking away from what no longer serves you. Literally-leave the room, the conversation, the house. It’s critical to your mental health.
Debbie Tudor, Licensed Professional Counselor-Supervisor
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Debbie Tudor is a Certified Narcissistic Recovery Therapist who offers counseling and life coaching by phone, FaceTime or Skype. She’s the Author of “It’s Not You, It’s Them: 30 Days of Hope and Help for the Adult Child of a Narcissistic Parent”, as well as “One Minute Sessions,” A card deck of affirmations for recovery, and an I Tunes download for relaxation titled “Devine Relaxation.” These products are available on Amazon and on Rockwall-Counseling.com. Follow Debbie on Facebook and Instagram (Rockwall Counseling, PA) for a wealth of tips and videos on this topic.