If you think divorcing a narcissist is difficult… wait till you must co-parent with them!
Every family court system has guidelines for splitting parenting time and parental decisions. They don’t, however, consider the tactics narcissists use to manipulate the system. Your #1 job is to protect your children and you do this by adding more details to the parenting plan than most would feel are necessary to avoid additional court fees later when they do not comply.
Post-divorce legal and financial abuses are at an all-time high and, unfortunately, our family court system doesn’t have a strategy in place that assesses consequences when spouses don’t do the right thing. They do care if court orders are violated so plan ahead and get anything important in writing in your official parenting plan – now you have the legal backing of a court system if they do not comply.
Narcissists are masters at finding the grey areas of a parenting plan; your job is to understand the difference between alternating years with the kids at Christmas and knowing up front how your narcissist will interpret that order. If you don’t spell out crucial details, like “Christmas starts at 9am and the children must be returned by 5pm the following day,” they will find the loophole to keep them through the entire Christmas vacation, all because the parenting plan wasn’t specific to a fault and state the exact time it ends. This would thrust you into panic mode and involve calls your lawyer only to find out its going to cost $2000 to fight something that is obvious to anyone without a devious personality disorder. This is just a minor example of something you will learn in the course.
The parenting plan is likely one of the most critical legal documents you will ever create. Without an ironclad contract, you cannot ensure the peaceful continuation of your co-parenting post-divorce life. If you have been in a relationship with a narcissist, you may already have experienced how contentious and controlling they can be. That said, if you want things to go smoothly later, you must be extremely vigilant and lay out every scenario that your family needs to consider: get it on paper now! Pretend you are playing chess and always be one step ahead of them.
PROTECT YOUR FUTURE PEACE!
Narc-Proof your parenting plan to avoid additional post-divorce legal abuse:
- Learn the facts about protecting yourself and your children, post-divorce
- Understand your legal and physical custody options
- Avoid the most common mistakes to avoid returning to court
- Learn “What are the grey areas that a narcissist can exploit?” and “How do I protect myself?”?
- Receive access to 21 videos and an assortment of worksheets that will help you safely plan your children’s future. These worksheets can be used by both you and your spouse to determine the goals of each to better negotiate a parenting plan that best suites everyone involved.
- Learn how to build a plan to reduce or eliminate any future unplanned legal costs
- Create and define the post-separation communication standards to stop the triggering late-night texting rants
- Learn to define and implement a conflict resolution agreement