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When we are in pain and fear, anger and hate are our go-to emotions.
When we are in pain and fear, anger and hate are our go-to emotions.

Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which the love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed and rare.
Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which the love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed and rare.

Never underestimate the power of being seen.
Never underestimate the power of being seen.

Don't ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.
Don't ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.

Staying vulnerable is a risk we have to take if we want to experience connection.
Staying vulnerable is a risk we have to take if we want to experience connection.

Sometimes the most dangerous thing for kids is the silence that allows them to construct their own stories - stories that almost always cast them as alone and unworthy of love and belonging.
Sometimes the most dangerous thing for kids is the silence that allows them to construct their own stories - stories that almost always cast them as alone and unworthy of love and belonging.

I only share when I have no unmet needs that I'm trying to fill. I firmly believe that being vulnerable with a larger audience is only a good idea if the healing is tied to the sharing, not to the expectations I might have for the response I get.
I only share when I have no unmet needs that I'm trying to fill. I firmly believe that being vulnerable with a larger audience is only a good idea if the healing is tied to the sharing, not to the expectations I might have for the response I get.

Hope is not an emotion; it's a way of thinking or a cognitive process.
Hope is not an emotion; it's a way of thinking or a cognitive process.

Research shows that playing cards once a week or meeting friends every wednesday night at Starbucks adds many years to our lives as taking beta blockers or quitting a pack-a-day smoking habit.
Research shows that playing cards once a week or meeting friends every wednesday night at Starbucks adds many years to our lives as taking beta blockers or quitting a pack-a-day smoking habit.

We cannot grow when we are in shame, and we can't use shame to change ourselves or others.
We cannot grow when we are in shame, and we can't use shame to change ourselves or others.

I define vulnerability as uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure. With that definition in mind, let's think about love. Waking up every day and loving someone who may or may not love us back, whose safety we can't ensure, who may stay in our lives or may leave without a moment's notice, who may be loyal to the day they die or betray us tomorrow - that's vulnerability.
I define vulnerability as uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure. With that definition in mind, let's think about love. Waking up every day and loving someone who may or may not love us back, whose safety we can't ensure, who may stay in our lives or may leave without a moment's notice, who may be loyal to the day they die or betray us tomorrow - that's vulnerability.

You learn how to plant your damn feet is what you do. You bend and stretch and grow, but you commit to not moving from who you are.
You learn how to plant your damn feet is what you do. You bend and stretch and grow, but you commit to not moving from who you are.

Courage is forged in pain, but not in all pain. Pain that is denied or ignored becomes fear or hate.
Courage is forged in pain, but not in all pain. Pain that is denied or ignored becomes fear or hate.

When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. This is why we sometimes attack who they are, which is far more hurtful than addressing a behavior or a choice.
When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. This is why we sometimes attack who they are, which is far more hurtful than addressing a behavior or a choice.

You are only free when you realize you belong no place - you belong every place - no place at all. The price is high. The reward is great.
You are only free when you realize you belong no place - you belong every place - no place at all. The price is high. The reward is great.

Compassionate people ask for what they need. They say no when they need to, and when they say yes, they mean it. They're compassionate because their boundaries keep them out of resentment.
Compassionate people ask for what they need. They say no when they need to, and when they say yes, they mean it. They're compassionate because their boundaries keep them out of resentment.

Courage is like - It's a habitus, a habit, a virtue: You get it by courageous acts. It's like you learn to swim by swimming. You learn courage by couraging.
Courage is like - It's a habitus, a habit, a virtue: You get it by courageous acts. It's like you learn to swim by swimming. You learn courage by couraging.

Vulnerability is our most accurate measurement of courage.
Vulnerability is our most accurate measurement of courage.

Spirituality is recognizing and celebrating that we are all inextricably connected to each other by a power greater than all of us, and that our connection to that power and to one another is grounded in love and compassion. Practicing spirituality brings a sense of perspective, meaning and purpose to our lives.
Spirituality is recognizing and celebrating that we are all inextricably connected to each other by a power greater than all of us, and that our connection to that power and to one another is grounded in love and compassion. Practicing spirituality brings a sense of perspective, meaning and purpose to our lives.

Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.
Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.

Our stories are not meant for everyone. Hearing them is a privilege, and we should always ask ourselves this before we share: "Who has earned the right to hear my story?" If we have one or two people in our lives who can sit with us and hold space for our shame stories, and love us for our strength and struggles, we are incredibly lucky. If we have a friend, or small group of friends, or family who embraces our imperfections, vulnerabilities, and power, and fills us with a sense of belonging, we are incredibly lucky.
Our stories are not meant for everyone. Hearing them is a privilege, and we should always ask ourselves this before we share: "Who has earned the right to hear my story?" If we have one or two people in our lives who can sit with us and hold space for our shame stories, and love us for our strength and struggles, we are incredibly lucky. If we have a friend, or small group of friends, or family who embraces our imperfections, vulnerabilities, and power, and fills us with a sense of belonging, we are incredibly lucky.

Worrying about scarcity is our culture's version of post-traumatic stress. It happens when we've been through too much, and rather than coming together to heal (which requires vulnerability) we're angry and scared and at each other's throats.
Worrying about scarcity is our culture's version of post-traumatic stress. It happens when we've been through too much, and rather than coming together to heal (which requires vulnerability) we're angry and scared and at each other's throats.

Art has the power to render sorrow beautiful, make loneliness a shared experience, and transform despair into hope.
Art has the power to render sorrow beautiful, make loneliness a shared experience, and transform despair into hope.

I now see how owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.
I now see how owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.

I now see how owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.
I now see how owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.

Once we belong thoroughly to ourselves and believe thoroughly in ourselves, true belonging is ours.
Once we belong thoroughly to ourselves and believe thoroughly in ourselves, true belonging is ours.

Shame derives its power from being unspeakable.
Shame derives its power from being unspeakable.

Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.
Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.

Until we can receive with an open heart, we're never really giving with an open heart. When we attach judgement to receiving help, we knowingly or unknowingly attach judgement to giving help.
Until we can receive with an open heart, we're never really giving with an open heart. When we attach judgement to receiving help, we knowingly or unknowingly attach judgement to giving help.

What separates privilege from entitlement is gratitude.
What separates privilege from entitlement is gratitude.

Pain is unrelenting. It will get our attention. Despite our attempts to drown it in addiction, to physically beat it out of one another, to suffocate it with success and material trappings, or to strangle it with our hate, pain will find a way to make itself known.
Pain is unrelenting. It will get our attention. Despite our attempts to drown it in addiction, to physically beat it out of one another, to suffocate it with success and material trappings, or to strangle it with our hate, pain will find a way to make itself known.

I can confidently say that stories of pain and courage almost always include two things: praying and cussing. Sometimes at the exact same time.
I can confidently say that stories of pain and courage almost always include two things: praying and cussing. Sometimes at the exact same time.

Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.
Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.

Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.
Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.

The willingness to show up changes us, it makes us a little braver each time.
The willingness to show up changes us, it makes us a little braver each time.

We live in a world where most people still subscribe to the belief that same is a good tool for keeping people in line. Not only is this wrong, but it's dangerous. Shame is highly correlated with addiction, violence, aggression, depression, eating disorders, and bullying.
We live in a world where most people still subscribe to the belief that same is a good tool for keeping people in line. Not only is this wrong, but it's dangerous. Shame is highly correlated with addiction, violence, aggression, depression, eating disorders, and bullying.

We cannot selectively numb emotions, when we numb the painful emotions, we also numb the positive emotions.
We cannot selectively numb emotions, when we numb the painful emotions, we also numb the positive emotions.

Compassion is not a virtue - it is a commitment. It's not something we have or don't have - it's something we choose to practice.
Compassion is not a virtue - it is a commitment. It's not something we have or don't have - it's something we choose to practice.

Numb the dark and you numb the light.
Numb the dark and you numb the light.

If you own this story you get to write the ending.
If you own this story you get to write the ending.

I now see how owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.
I now see how owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.

Living with air pollution increases your odds of dying early by 5 percent. Living with obesity, 20 percent. Excessive drinking, 30 percent. And living with loneliness? It increases our odds of dying early by 45 percent.
Living with air pollution increases your odds of dying early by 5 percent. Living with obesity, 20 percent. Excessive drinking, 30 percent. And living with loneliness? It increases our odds of dying early by 45 percent.

We can spend our entire life betraying ourself and choosing fitting in over standing alone. But once we've stood up for ourself and our beliefs, the bar is higher. A wild heart fighting fitting in and grieves betrayal.
We can spend our entire life betraying ourself and choosing fitting in over standing alone. But once we've stood up for ourself and our beliefs, the bar is higher. A wild heart fighting fitting in and grieves betrayal.

We cannot ignore our pain and feel compassion for it at the same time.
We cannot ignore our pain and feel compassion for it at the same time.

Being ourselves means sometimes having to find the courage to stand alone, totally alone.
Being ourselves means sometimes having to find the courage to stand alone, totally alone.

Shame hates it when we reach out and tell our story. It hates having words wrapped around it - It can't survive being shared. Shame loves secrecy. When we bury our story, the shame metastisizes.
Shame hates it when we reach out and tell our story. It hates having words wrapped around it - It can't survive being shared. Shame loves secrecy. When we bury our story, the shame metastisizes.

If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can't survive.
If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can't survive.

Lying is a defiance of the truth. Bullshitting is a wholesale dismissal of the truth.
Lying is a defiance of the truth. Bullshitting is a wholesale dismissal of the truth.

Vulnerability is not winning or losing: it's having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome. Vulnerabiltiy is not weakness; it's our greatest measure of courage.
Vulnerability is not winning or losing: it's having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome. Vulnerabiltiy is not weakness; it's our greatest measure of courage.

Perfectionism is self destructive simple because there's no such thing as perfect. Perfection is an unattainable goal.
Perfectionism is self destructive simple because there's no such thing as perfect. Perfection is an unattainable goal.

True belonging has no bunkers. We have to step out from behind the barricades of self-preservation and brave the wild.
True belonging has no bunkers. We have to step out from behind the barricades of self-preservation and brave the wild.

Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren't always comfortable, but the're never weakness.
Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren't always comfortable, but the're never weakness.

I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relathionship.
I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relathionship.

People who wade into discomfort and vulnerability and tell the truth about their stories are the real badasses.
People who wade into discomfort and vulnerability and tell the truth about their stories are the real badasses.

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