More to Share! New name for your ex! EX-ASS. Tracy A. Malone NARCISSISTS EYES At first they can be captivating. As the mask falls you see an evil just beyond, that you never saw before. In the end if you are truly in the face of evil, you see the black soulless eyes. Tracy AMalone NARCISSISTIC BOSS/COWORKER Narcissists have jobs and they bring abuse tactics to innocent people just trying to do their job. Loyalty is the first demand. If you play along you may be passed from abuse. If you question them you will become the work scapegoat and they set their sights to destroy you, your career and your spirit. Too often victims have no choice but to leave their job. NARCISSIST EGGSHELLS Living with a narcissist is living hell. You learn that they will never pull their weight unless it's for a show. In front of people they step up as helpful. If you dare point out this inconsistency you are punished you learn to walk on eggshells and you are groomed to stop complaining. Tracy AMalone NARCISSISTIC VOW Till death do we part... In Narc-World it doesn't mean WITH you. It means they will never stop abusing you until you die. TracyAMalone Narcissistic Scorched Earth A narcissist leaves behind them a trail of destruction of the beautiful souls they have ripped apart. Unable to maintain their masks when the truth is revealed everyone must be destroyed. No family, no friends, and epic fails on relationships including with their children. Tracy AMalone NARCISSISTIC REJECTION Adult children of narcissists often get rejected by their parents long after they moved out. If the parents don't live in your area but occasionally come through, they often do not tell you they are in town or they don't make plans to see you. This is very confusing and painful. If they do reach out to see you it's a token of time so they can take a picture to show people they saw their grandchildren, but not you. TracyAMalone Are they a good parent if...? Your help needed. I am making a series on coparenting. Would you share in the comments things that make the narcissist a bad parent. NARCISSISTIC COPARENTING TRACYAMALONE NARCISSISTIC ABUSE CONFUSION When you are being abused by a narcissist, confusion is often the first sign. Things they say don't add up. Gaslighting is also confusing because they tell you things you saw, heard, or believed aren't true. You know what you saw! There goal is to knock you off reality so they can control you. TracyAMalone NarcissistAbuseSupport.com NARCISSISTIC COPARENTING Coparenting with a narcissist is literally hell on earth. Just hearing their voice or reading a text stirs anger you could have never imagined. The lies and garbage they throw at you and the children should be against the law. TracyAMalone NARCISSISTIC ABUSE Worse then it felt Some narcissistic relationships are not full of fighting, screaming and outward cruelty. Some victims experience the abuse like the frog in a pot of water as it slowly gets hotter. Gaslighting, passive aggressive control, manipulation, guilt, shame are the invisible weapons of this type. Destroying your beliefs, your confidence, your power. covert narcissism TracyAMalone NARCISSIST TIMEBOMB We are taught marriage takes work, it's true. This is dangerous advice if you are unlucky enough to marry a narcissist. There is nothing one person can do against someone who wants to control them. Life becomes a fragile time bomb as you dodge attacks, while doing all the work. Hopelessness is your daily diet, mixed with confusion, anger, fear, and sadness. Tracy AMalone Narcissistic abuse rips your heart out in so many ways. First because of the time spent, then the discard and battle of lies. Sadly, to see the damage they caused your children. Tracy AMalone LOVE ME... LOVES ME NOT... The true test if someone loves you, is to set a boundary. If they get upset with you, or refuse to comply. It's simple, they do not love you. TRACYAMALONE KNIGHT IN SHINING ARMOR MASK A knight's code of conduct included: mercy, humility, honor, sacrifice, faithfulness, courage, utmost graciousness and courtesy toward women. NARCISSISTS ACTUALLY CALL THEMSELVES YOUR "KNIGHT IN SHINING ARMOR". FIRST LIE... THEY "WISH" THEY HAD THOSE QUALITIES Tracy AMalone THE NARCISSISTIC MOM TracyAMalone Often use the 'charming mask' to the public. This mask of someone who is kind and sweet confuses the child who lives a life of watching her rage. The child is often taught Mom is perfect and she should aspire to be like her. You are compared, you are groomed to be perfect like her, but this is a lie. Mom is a manipulative, jealous soul who only loves her children if they make her look good. NARCISSISTS WEEKEND Most narcissists are lazy at home. They DON CARE marry for housework, chores, money and childcare. Coparenting with them leaves everything to you. Tracy AMalone NARCISSISTS & YOUR PREGNANCY MA They can fall into two camps. Supportive because they have secured their seed and they are proud of that. In front of people they are happy but nasty at home. Jealousy is the other direction, because they no longer will have your full attention. TracyAMalone NARCISSISTIC INVASION Narcissists are everywhere The increase in education about emotional abuse and the role of a narcissist in the abuse arena has brought an awareness to see narcissists everywhere. Narcissists have jobs and abuse coworkers, narcissists are neighbors, narcissists are doctors that destroy their families but put on that helpful mask for the world. Narcissists are friends that control and demand loyalty. Narcissists are twenty year olds just launching their own destruction on partners. Narcissists are old cranky parents that destroy families by playing the inheritance game. They are landlords that blame you for breaking the furnace, when they have never done maintenance. Liars, blamers, controllers, or assholes they are all dangerous and they are everywhere. TracyAMalone WE GET TO CHOOSE WHAT WE SHARE YOU CAN'T ATTRACT THE RIGHT PEOPLE WITH THE WRONG WORDS. LEARNING TO CHANGE PATTERNS MEANS, CHANGING THE STORY YOU TELL. TracyAMalone NARCISSISTIC DEVIL Some say Prayer doesn't work if you are living with the devil. Trust the right people to come into your life, trust that good luck happens as much as bad luck. Believing it will get better is the faith sent by prayers. TracyAMalone YOU ARE DIVORCING A NARCISSIST IF... You tell your family and lawyer that you fear your STBX WILL kill you. That is not normal. TracyAMalone NARCISSISTIC TRAUMA XXXXX Trauma has no timeline to heal. Do work and heal at your own pace and have patience with yourself. There will be good days and bad days, it's ok. TRACYAMALONE HOW LONG HAS IT TAKEN YOU TO HEAL? NARCISSISTIC BAITING A narcissist loves to bait you. They want to move your emotions into fear, anger, and shame. When you realize what they are doing and stop responding they are denied supply. The sooner you figure out what they are doing the stronger you get. TracyAMalone THIS IS CRAZY MAKING! A NARCISSIST PROVOKES YOU, THEN BLAMES YOU, FOR GETTING ANGRY. THEY TELLS LIES ABOUT YOU AND SMEARS YOU... TracyAMalone NarcissistAbuseSupport.com DIVORCING A NARCISSIST WON'T BE EASY. BUT IT SURE BEATS SPENDING YOUR LIFE AS A VICTIM OF HORRIFIC ABUSE. My book will help DIVORCING YOUR NARCISSIST: You Can't Make This Shit Up! Tracy AMalone GLAM NARCISSISTS They can be all obvious about their perceived entitlement and radiate confidence. Those are theeasy ones to spot. The more covert will look like your sister, your best friend, your teacher, or your doctor. Know both... which one was yours? Tracy AMalone A NARCISSIST WOULD MUCH RATHER GIVE LAWYERS ALL THEIR MONEY THEN GIVE YOU A DIME. TracyAMalone NARCISSIST AT WORK Narcissists at work align people as helpers or enemy's. If you are willing to let them take credit for your work you become a helper. If you do not play their control game or refuse to raise them up, they set their sight to destroy you. Tracy AMalone NARCISSISTS ARE LIKE CATS They ignore you unless they need something. TracyAMalone Denial seems like a beautiful place, a safe place. We often don't know we are in denial when we don't yet know what narcissistic personality disorder is. Once you learn that you have been abused the sky opens and you see the relationship for what it was. TracyAMalone NARCISSISTS CAN SMELL FEAR HOW MANY DECISIONS HAVE YOU MADE IN YOUR LIFE BASED ON FEAR? Process your fears so they have no power to ever be used against you. TracyAMalone did your narcissist do this? INTENTION Most people struggle with the horrific lengths a narcissist goes to for the sole purpose of destroying them. We must remember their intention of wickedness sets them apart from others. This aspect often rides the sociopath line, as you see a devil in the eyes you never saw, until you did. TRACYAMALONE LEMONADE REWARDS THE SECRET TO HEALING IS WHEN YOU LEARN THAT YOU HAD THE POWER ALL ALONG. THE BRAINWASHING FADES AND THE FEARS RETREAT AS YOU REBUILD AND CREATE THE HAPPIEST YOU. BE STRONG AND FIGHT FOR THE FUTURE OF DRINKING LEMONADE IN PEACE. TracyAMalone NARCISSISTIC PROTECTION Narcissists often cheat. Many spread disease to all their victims. They don't believe in condoms and they convince victims that they are disease free without any proof. They promote that you are exclusive and safe. TracyAMalone NARCISSISTIC TRIANGULATION Why can't you be more like your sister? A common comparison narcissistic parents often say. While the comparison is a putdown to whatever they are saying you are doing wrong. It also pits siblings against each other, often dividing them with jealousy that may never change. The goal for the narcissistic parent is to keep siblings divided so, they each have no support and they can never team up against the parent. TracyAMalone Narcissistic Coparenting: An 18 year sentence, Manipulation of the children. Ignoring them or buying their love. Controlling their medical and school decisions. False allegations about you will be their message. Counter parenting to anything you do. If I make a mistake I am able to take responsibility. Marrying a covert narcissist was the biggest mistake I ever made! Making amends is divorcing his ass! Narcissistic parents use inheritances as a weapon. The cost to be included is your loyalty and being a puppet. Old Cranky Narcissists - While a narcissist with dementia may forget the game, many narcissists get meaner as they age. Sadly their prey becomes innocent seniors and they take advantage of them not knowing the red flags. To their family they play the inheritance game continuing to pit family against each other. Often cutting family out of the will as one last "Fuck You".