Early warning signs of Narcissist abuse. When you are on a journey to understand what the heck just happened its important to l look at the warning signs of abuse. Narcissists seem to all display the same signs the same flags and patterns. Your first step to healing yourself after narcissist abuse and being a victim is to see patterns. I hope this helps anyone who listens to my story and can see something in your narcissists pattern that can guide you to heal and know the flags of narcissist abuse so it never happens again.