WHY ARE YOU HERE?
The first question you must ask yourself is ‘Am I being abused?” Narcissistic people can be very charming and things can get quite muddy and this is extremely confusing for survivors.
Often the narcissist has been gaslighting you that ‘they’ are not the problem but ‘you’ are.
So get started with our short quiz to find out if you are being abused by a narcissist.
At each stage in our recovery, we need different things to move to the next stage and back to where we are better and stronger than before. This quick quiz will help you see what you can do to get to this next place in your recovery.
if you think you might need help… look at these links
Shoot us an email if you know another resource we can share..
| Resource | Link | Contact |
|---|---|---|
| The National Domestic Abuse Hotline | click here | 1-800-799-7233 |
| National Coalition Against Domestic Violence | click here | Denver Office: 303-839-1852 Washington Office: 202-467-8714 |
| SPAN (Safehouse Progressive Alliance for Nonviolence Tri-City Program) | click here | 303-444-2424 |
| National Alliance on Mental Illness | click here | 800-950-6264 |
| Corporate Alliance to End Partner Violence | click here | 309-664-0667 |
| National Center Domestic and Sexual Violence | click here | National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE |
| National Network To End Domestic Violence | click here | 1-800-799-7233 |
| National Suicide Prevention Lifeline | click here | 1-800-273-8255 |
| Purple Purse | click here | 1-800-799-7233 |
| Patient Safety Network | click here | 301-427-1104 |
| Legal Resource Center Violence Against Women | click here | 301-270-1550 |
| Trust Faith Institute | click here | 206-634-1903 |
| Battered Women Justice Project | click here | 800-799-7233 |
| National Dating Abuse Helpline | click here | 1-866-331-9474 |
| Futures Without Violence | click here | 415-678-5500 |
| Futures Without Violence: National Resource Domestic Violence | click here | 415-678-5500 |
| Doctors Lounge | click here | webmaster@docterslounge.com |
| Narcissist Support Groups | click here | info@supportgroups.com |
| Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing International Association (EMDRIA) | click here | 866-451-5200 |
| Psychotherapy Organization | click here | davidfox@psychotherapy.org |
| Trauma Healing Organization | click here | 303-652-4035 |
| Find Domestic Abuse Shelters | click here | chris@domesticshelters.org |
| Battered women’s justice project | click here | 800-799-7233 |
| National Clearinghouse for the Defense of Battered Women | click here | 215-351-0010 |
| A Call To Men | click here | 917-922-6738 |
| Allstate Foundation | click here | 800-799-7233 |
| Futures Without Violence | click here | 415-678-5500 |
| American Academy Of Cos emetic Dentistry | click here | 608-222-8583 |
| MotherWise Colorado | click here | 720-504-4624 |
| Hot Peaches Directory by State & Country | click here | webmom@hotpeachpages.net |
| Joyful Heart Foundation | click here | New York: 212-475-2026 Los Angeles: 310-405-0135 Honolulu: 808-531-3520 |
| End Sexual Violence | click here | info@endsexualviolence.org |
| National Domestic Violence Database | click here | 219-232-8771 |
| The Avon Foundation | click here | 866-505-AVON |
| Speak Out | click here | 800-799-7233 |
| National Network To End Domestic Violence | click here | 800-799-7233 |
| Domestic Violence Awareness project | click here | 800-537-2238 |
| The Pixel project | click here | 800-799-7233 |
| Womens Law .org | click here | 800-799-7233 |
| DrugRehab .com | click here | 877-695-5395 |
| Australia Mensline | click here | 1300 78 99 78 |
| Americans Overseas Domestic Violence Crisis Center | click here | 1-866-USWOMEN (879-6636) |
| National Center for Victims of Crime | click here | 1-202-467-8700 |
| National Human Trafficking Resource Center/Polaris Project | click here | 1-888-373-7888 |
| National Network for Immigrant and Refugee Rights | click here | 1-510-465-1984 |
| National Resource Center on Domestic Violence | click here | 1-800-537-2238 |
| Futures Without Violence: The National Health Resource Center on Domestic Violence | click here | 1-888-792-2873 |
| The National Immigrant Women’s Advocacy Project | click here | (202) 274-4457 |
| National Gay and Lesbian Task Force | click here | 1-202-393-5177 |
| National Clearinghouse on Abuse in Later Life | click here | 1-608-255-0539 |
| National Center for Elder Abuse | click here | 1-855-500-3537 |
| National Sexual Assault Hotline | click here | 1-800-656-4673 |
| National Coalition for the Homeless | click here | 1-202-737-6444 |
| National Center on Domestic Violence, Trauma & Mental Health | click here | 1-312-726-7020 ext. 2011 |
| Childhelp USA/National Child Abuse Hotline | click here | 1-800-422-4453 |
| Children’s Defense Fund | click here | 202-628-8787 |
| Child Welfare League of America | click here | 202-638-2952 |
| National Council on Juvenile and Family Court Judges | click here | 1-800-527-3233 |
| Center for Judicial Excellence | click here | info@centerforjudicialexcellence.org |
| Love is respect | click here | 1-866-331-9474 |
| Break the Cycle | click here | 202-824-0707 |
| Domestic Violence Initiative | click here | (303) 839-5510/ (877) 839-5510 |
| Deaf Abused Women’s Network (DAWN) | click here | 202-559-5366 |
| Women of Color Network | click here | 1-800-537-2238 |
| INCITE! Women of Color Against Violence | click here | incite.natl@gmail.com |
| Alianza | click here | 1-505-753-3334 |
| Casa de Esperanza | click here | 1-651-772-1611 |
| National Latin@ Network for Healthy Families and Communities | click here | 1-651-646-5553 |
| The National Immigrant Women’s Advocacy Project | click here | (202) 274-4457 |
| National Indigenous Women’s Resource Center | click here | 855-649-7299 |
| Indigenous Women’s Network | click here | 1-512-258-3880 |
| Asian and Pacific Islander Institute on Domestic Violence | click here | 1-415-954-9988 |
| Committee Against Anti-Asian Violence (CAAAV) | click here | 1-212- 473-6485 |
| Manavi | click here | 1-732-435-1414 |
| Institute on Domestic Violence in the African American Community | click here | 1-877-643-8222 |
| The Black Church and Domestic Violence Institute | click here | 1-770-909-0715 |
| The Audre Lorde Project | click here | 1-178-596-0342 |
| LAMBDA GLBT Community Services | click here | 1-206-350-4283 |
| National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs | click here | 1-212-714-1184 |
| National Gay and Lesbian Task Force | click here | 1-202-393-5177 |
| Northwest Network of Bisexual, Trans, Lesbian & Gay Survivors of Abuse | click here | 1-206-568-7777 |
| Trans Lifeline | click here | 877-565-8860 |
| National Organization for Men Against Sexism (NOMAS) | click here | 1-720-466-3882 |
| A Call to Men | click here | 1-917-922-6738 |
| Men Can Stop Rape | click here | 1-202-265-6530 |
| Men Stopping Violence | click here | 1-866-717-9317 |
| American Bar Association Commission on Domestic Violence | click here | 1-202-662-1000 |
| Legal Momentum | click here | 1-212-925-6635 |
| Legal Network for Gender Equity | click here |
free counseling, legal aid, maybe emergency shelter
We have compiled a list of over 650 state agencies that offer help for victims of abuse. Each agency will vary in services just find your state and see what you can find. I got ten weeks of amazing counseling with someone that knew exactly how to help. You will be ok, be proud of yourself because searching for help is a first step on your understanding and personal growth. Shoot us an email to recommend your favorite channel.
| State | Link |
|---|---|
| Alabama | click here |
| Alaska | click here |
| Arizona | click here |
| Arkansas | click here |
| California | click here |
| Canada | click here |
| Colorado | click here |
| Connecticut | click here |
| Delaware | click here |
| Florida | click here |
| Georgia | click here |
| Hawaii | click here |
| Idaho | click here |
| Illinois | click here |
| Indiana | click here |
| Iowa | click here |
| Kansas | click here |
| Kentucky | click here |
| Louisiana | click here |
| Maine | click here |
| Maryland | click here |
| Massachusetts | click here |
| Michigan | click here |
| Minnesota | click here |
| Mississippi | click here |
| Missouri | click here |
| Montana | click here |
| Nebraska | click here |
| Nevada | click here |
| New Hampshire | click here |
| New Jersey | click here |
| New Mexico | click here |
| New York | click here |
| North Carolina | click here |
| North Dakota | click here |
| Ohio | click here |
| Oklahoma | click here |
| Oregon | click here |
| Pennsylvania | click here |
| Puerto Rico | click here |
| Rhode Island | click here |
| South Carolina | click here |
| South Dakota | click here |
| Tennessee | click here |
| Texas | click here |
| United Kingdom | click here |
| Utah | click here |
| Vermont | click here |
| Virginia | click here |
| Virgin Islands | click here |
| Washington | click here |
| West Virginia | click here |
| Wisconsin | click here |
| Wyoming | click here |
YouTube University will help those that like to watch to learn
To help you understand the world of narcissists we suggest you start to watch these YouTubers. In my personal journey to understand why things were happening in my life that was CRAZY. Drama seemed to follow me, then the last straw, the last betrayal drove me to understand my patterns and to learn how to never let this happen again. I know that you will learn so much from these wonderful giving YouTubers. Shoot us an email to recommend your favorite channel
| YouTube Personality | Channel |
|---|---|
| Tracy A Malone – (I get to go first because this is my site…tee tee) | click here |
| Ross Rosenberg | click here |
| Self-Care Haven | click here |
| Inner Integration | click here |
| Thrive After Abuse | click here |
| Sacha Slone | click here |
| Dr Craig Malkin | click here |
| Annabel Lee | click here |
| Be Good 4000 | click here |
| Lisa A. Romano – Breakthrough Life Coach Inc. | click here |
| Shrinking Violet | click here |
| Melanie Tonia Evans | click here |
| Dad Surviving Divorce | click here |
| Family Tree Counseling | click here |
| Raven’ s New Life | click here |
| From These Ashes | click here |
| Love Fraud Lessons | click here |
| Beverly Banov Brown | click here |
| Daylight out of Darkness | click here |
| Narcissism Survivor | click here |
| Angie Atkinson | click here |
| Richard Grannon – Spartan Life Coach | click here |
| Darline Lancer | click here |
| Understanding Narcissists | click here |
| Sam Vaknin | click here |
| David Hawkins | click here |
| Kim Wilson TV | click here |
| Ollie Mathews | click here |
| Narcissism Videos Channel | click here |
| Sereena Nightshade | click here |
| Overcoming Understanding | click here |
| Recovery with Miss Williams | click here |
| Kim Saeed | click here |
| Dr Judy WTF | click here |
| Nora Sparrow | click here |
| Dee Moxon | click here |
| Smakintosh | click here |
| NPD Girlfriend | click here |
| What’s Wrong with Kris & Steve | click here |
| Understanding Narcissists | click here |
| Diana Iannarone | click here |
| Truthball In Search of Goof | click here |
| Show Boundaries | click here |
| Scapegoated Daughter | click here |
| David – Crazy Narcissist X Girlfriend | click here |
| Randy Andretti | click here |
| Overcoming Understanding | click here |
| NPD Recovery | click here |
| NPD Girlfriend | click here |
| Nora Sparrow | click here |
| Narcissistic Abuse Victim Syndrome | click here |
| Narcissistic Girlfriend Abuse (Brothers in Cause) | click here |
| Narcissistic Free- almost | click here |
| Narcissism Videos | click here |
| Narcissism Survivor | click here |
| Lisa E Scott | click here |
| Lisa Thomson | click here |
| Limlani Symon | click here |
| Light Of Knowledge | click here |
| Liberty For Scapegoats | click here |
| His Daughter In Christ | click here |
| Finally Free From Narcissism | click here |
| Fight Narcissism | click here |
| Faith Rose | click here |
| Escape From Narcissism | click here |
| Delusion Dispeller | click here |
| His Daughter In Christ | click here |
| Cluster B & Me | click here |
| Annie Mimi Hall | click here |
| Permission to Exist | click here |
Social/Groups
| Resource | Link | Platform |
|---|---|---|
| Narcissist Abuse Support Group | click here | |
| #ifmywoundswerevisible | click here | |
| R/NPD | click here | |
| Survivors of Narcissists | click here | Tumblr |
| NPD Thoughts | click here | Tumblr |
| Online Counselling College | click here | Tumblr |
| Been There, Regretted That | click here | Tumblr |
| Your Plastic Heart | click here | Tumblr |
| Worst Day Dream | click here | Tumblr |
| Anon And Afraid | click here | Tumblr |
| Narcissistic – Abuse | click here | Tumblr |
| Narcissism | click here | Tumblr |
| Freaking Narc | click here | |
| Free From the Narc | click here | |
| Narcissist Life | click here | |
| NPD Red Flags | click here | |
| The Case of Ex | click here | |
| Narc Free | click here | |
| Narc Survival | click here | |
| Narcissism Survivor | click here | |
| Narc Facts | click here | |
| I Survived Narc | click here | |
| Narcissus says | click here | |
| Narc Abuse Aware | click here | |
| Narco Path 57 | click here | |
| Narc Educator | click here | |
| Narc Problems | click here | |
| After Narcissist | click here | |
| Narcs unmasked | click here | |
| NPD Free | click here | |
| Narcissist Ick | click here | |
| Narse Exposer | click here | |
| Divorce a Narcissist | click here | |
| Narcopath Aware | click here |
MeetUps
There are Meetup.com angels that have formed groups to support people in the discovery to recovery of narcissist abuse and codependency.
Though not all states are represented, a search by your state’s 2 letter postal code may help you find you a group in your area. We encourage you to start a group in your area, reach out to some of the leaders of groups around the country to get some ideas.
| State | City | Group Name | Link |
|---|---|---|---|
| AL | Calgary | Calgary Victims of Narcissistic Abuse Support Group | click here |
| AR | Jacksonville | Narcissistic Abuse Survivors Support Group Meetup | click here |
| AZ | Pheonix | Surviving Parental Alienation – Support and Awareness Group | click here |
| AZ | Pheonix | Phoenix Narc/Socio Support Group | click here |
| CA | Alameda | parental alienation support meetup (Oakland area) | click here |
| CA | Irvine | From Broken To Smokin’ | click here |
| CA | Irvine | Relationship Bootcamp: Recalibrating CoDependent Behavior | click here |
| CA | Marina Del Rey | Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Group | click here |
| CA | Napa | Napa Narcissist/Emotional Abuse Survivor Meetup | click here |
| CA | Oakland | Peer Support Group for Children of Narcissistic Parents | click here |
| CA | San Diego | LA NPD and Borderline Support Group | click here |
| CA | San Francisco | Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Group BAY AREA | click here |
| CA | San Jose | Parental Alienation Support Meetup (Santa Clara County) | click here |
| CA | San Rafael | parental alienation support meetup (Marin / Sonoma) | click here |
| CO | Boulder | Narcissistic Abuse Disorder Meetup | click here |
| CO | Denver | Monthly Support Group – Welcome to our Safe Haven! | click here |
| CO | Denver | Recovery from Narcissistic/Cluster B Abuse | click here |
| CO | Denver | You are an EMPATH!! A What? Now What? This Group’s for YOU!! | click here |
| CO | Littleton | Denver PTSD from Narcissistic Personality Disorder Abuse | click here |
| CO | Louisville | Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse & Domestic Violence | click here |
| CT | Manchester | CT Women’s Empowerment Group | click here |
| DC | Washington | Healing and Surviving from Narcissistic Relationships | click here |
| DC | Washington | Adult Children of Narcissists Meetup Washington DC | click here |
| DC | Washington | Healing from Narcissistic Relationships DC | click here |
| DC | Washington | Sistahs in Survival | click here |
| FL | Bradenton | Healing from Destructive Relationships | click here |
| FL | Miami | Miami Survivors of Psychopathic and Narcissistic Abuse | click here |
| GA | Atlanta | Atlanta Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Meetup | click here |
| GA | Columbus | Reclaim Your Identity: Healing from Narcissistic Abuse | click here |
| HI | Wailuku | Child Abuse Survivors Maui | click here |
| IL | Chicago | Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Meetup | click here |
| IL | Chicago | Chicago Narcissism Survivor Meetup | click here |
| KS | Wichita | Abuse Survivors Meetup | click here |
| KY | Lexington | Living with Depression and Anxiety | click here |
| LA | Lafayette | Support Group for Depression and Anxiety | click here |
| MA | Boston | Boston Narcissistic, Psychopath, Personality Meetup | click here |
| MA | Boston | Narcissism Survivor Meetup | click here |
| MA | Natick | Stomping On Eggshells: Overcome Verbal & Emotional Abuse | click here |
| MD | Rockville | Rockville Dealing with Difficulty | click here |
| MD | Salisbury | Eastern Shore Emotional Abuse/Narcissism Survivor Meetup | click here |
| MI | Haslett | Collective Coaching for Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse | click here |
| MI | Utica | Utica Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Meetup | click here |
| MO | Ballwin | Fresh Air & Freedom-(life after a toxic relationship) | click here |
| MO | Saint Louis | Free at Last -No More Manipulation or Abuse | click here |
| MO | Saint Louis | Breathe!!! You Are Free! (Life after a narcissist) | click here |
| MO | Kansas City | Narcicist Recovery, The Inner Matrix | click here |
| NC | Asheville | Mindfulness and 12 Step Recovery | click here |
| NC | Concord | Borderline Personality Disorder Peer Support Group | click here |
| NC | Durham | Life after dating a narcissit | click here |
| NC | Raleigh | Triangle Support Group for Verbal Mental & Emotional Abuse | click here |
| NJ | Basking Ridge | Relationships with Narcissists, Sociopaths, Psychopaths | click here |
| NJ | Clifton | Relationship Issues with Narcissists and Sociopaths | click here |
| NV | Las Vegas | Relationships with Psychopaths, Sociopaths and Narcissists | click here |
| NY | New York | Adult Children of Narcissists | click here |
| NY | New York | Empaths Worldwide Unite : ) New York Meet-ups | click here |
| NY | New York | NYC Families of those with BPD: Help, skills and Support | click here |
| NY | New York | NYC Get the Facts about BPD: Support & Education TARA | click here |
| NY | New York | New York Recognizing a Narcissist Meetup | click here |
| NY | Pelham | Westchester Self-Improvement Meetup | click here |
| OH | Columbus | Narcissistic Abuse Recovery | click here |
| OR | Portland | Men’s Support Group -Borderline & Narcissistic Relationships | click here |
| OR | Portland | Healing from Narcissistic Abuse | click here |
| PA | Philadelphia | Philadelphia Area Narcissistic Abuse Survivors (PANAS) | click here |
| TX | Austin | Survivors of Narcissists, Borderlines and Antisocials | click here |
| UT | Sandy | Freedom from a Narcissist: for Empaths and Highly Sensitives | click here |
| VA | Fairfax | Divorcing or Leaving a Narcissist-Psychopath-Sociopath | click here |
| WA | Seattle | Reclaiming your Identity: Healing from Narcissistic Abuse | click here |
| WA | Seattle | Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse – Support Group | click here |
| WA | Seattle | Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse – Support Group | click here |
| WV | Morgantown | The Greater Seattle Area PTSD and ANXIETY Support Group | click here |
| United Kingdom | Leeds | Narcissistic Abuse Victim’s & Survivor’s Support Group | click here |
self help worksheets
Thanks to Therapists-aid.com we are featuring these self assessment worksheets to help you get started in healing Shoot us an email to recommend any other worksheets.
| Worksheet Name | Topic | Link |
|---|---|---|
| What is Emotional Abuse? | Love Is Respect | click here |
| Types Of Abuse | Love Is Respect | click here |
| Is This Abuse? | Love Is Respect | click here |
| List of Other Abuse Information | Love Is Respect | click here |
| Boundaries Info Sheet | What are boundaries | click here |
| Boundaries Exploration | Learn to set boundaries for yourself | click here |
| Cognitive Distortions | Learn this | click here |
| What Is Financial Abuse? | Warning Signs – Love Is Respect | click here |
| The Cycle of Anger | What is the cycle of Anger | click here |
| Panic Attack Info Sheet | Definition & Help | click here |
| Mindfulness Exercises | Get back to you | click here |
| Core Beliefs | What are your core beliefs | click here |
| Challenging Negative Thoughts | Help yourself with this one | click here |
| Countering Negative Thoughts (Thought Log) | This helped me so much | click here |
| My Stages of Grief | Worksheet helpful | click here |
| Cycle of Abuse | Do you see this pattern | click here |
| The Grieving Process | When anyone leaves of lives even a narcissist we need to grieve | click here |
| List of Emotions | Worksheet | click here |
| The Stages of Grief | We must go thru | click here |
| How to Document Abuse | Love Is Respect | click here |
| My Treatment and Recovery Log |
Healing | click here |
| Choices in Recovery: Your Support Network | Healing | click here |
| Exploring Social Anxiety | Healing | click here |
| About Me: Self-Esteem Sentence Completion | Healing | click here |
| Understanding Agressive and Non-Assertive Behavior | Warning Signs | click here |
| Parent Coach Therapeutic Worksheets | Behavior | click here |
| Smart Recovery Toolchest | Varies | click here |
| SAMHSA Wellness | Varies | click here |
Blogs
I will be adding more blogs here Shoot us an email if you know another blog on Narcissist Abuse, healing, codependency we can share.
| Website Name | Topic | Type | |
|---|---|---|---|
| Narcissist Abuse Support | Abuse/Trauma Support | author/blog | click here |
| Self Care Haven | Abuse/Trauma Support | author/blog | click here |
| Psychopath Free | Mental Health Support | author/blog | click here |
| Let Me Reach | Mental Health Support | resource/blog | click here |
| Melanie Tonia Evans: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Expert | Narcissism and Relationships | author/blog | click here |
| Love Fraud | Narcissist Support | author/blog | click here |
| Inner Integration – Meredith Miller | Narcissist Support | Resource/blog | click here |
| Ross Rosenberg – Human Magnet | Narcissist Support | resource/blog | click here |
| Dr Craig Malkin | Narcissist Support | author/blog | click here |
| Thrive After Abuse – Dana | Narcissist Support | resource/blog | click here |
| Narcissist Support | Narcissist Support | author/blog | click here |
| Richard Grannon | Narcissist Support | author/blog | click here |
| Healthy Place | Mental Health Support | resource/blog | click here |
| Family Tree Counseling | Counseling Services | resource/blog | click here |
| Self Knowledge Daily | Mental Health Support | blog | click here |
| BIFF Response | Conflict Support | resource/blog | click here |
| Lady with a Truck | Narcissist Support | blog | click here |
| Out of the Fog | Mental Health Support | author/blog | click here |
| One Moms Battle | Divorcing Narcissist | author/blog | click here |
| Psychopath Resistance | Mental Health Support | author/blog | click here |
| The Narcissist in your Life | Narcissist Support | author/blog | click here |
| BPD Central | Mental Health Support | author/blog | click here |
| I Married a Narcissist | Narcissist Support | author/blog | click here |
| QueenBeeing | Narcissist Support | resource/author | click here |
| Narcissists Suck | Narcissist Support | author/blog | click here |
| Narc Attack | Narcissist Support | author/blog | click here |
| Narcissists Child | Narcissist Support | author/blog | click here |
| The Narcissist Continuum | Narcissist Support | blog | click here |
| Lisa E. Scott | Narcissist Support | author/blog | click here |
| Covert Narcissism | Narcissist Support | author/blog | click here |
| What is Codependency? | Narcissist Support | author/blog | click here |
| Jeni Mawter | Narcissist Support | author/blog | click here |
| The Narcissists Wife | Narcissist Support | author/blog | click here |
| Narcissistic Personality Disorder | Narcissistic support | author blog before her death | click here |
| Sonia brill | Narcissistic support | Counselor/coach | click here |
| Narcissistic Behavior | Narcissist Support | author/blog | click here |
| Narcissists Wife | Narcissist Support | author/blog | click here |
| Talking Parents | Narcissist Support | resource/blog | click here |
| Relationship Help | Relationship Help | resource/blog | click here |
| Echo Recovery | Narcissist Support | resource/blog | click here |
| Psychopath Resistance | Narcissist Support | author/blog | click here |
| Verbal Abuse Journals | Narcissist Support | author/blog | click here |
| Heartfelt Quotes | Narcissist Support | resource/blog | click here |
| Follow Your Song | Narcissist Support | resource/blog | click here |
| Self LoveU | Narcissist Support | resource/blog | click here |
| Sharon Martin Counseling | Narcissist Support | author/blog | click here |
| The Wicked Survivor | Narcissist Support | resource/blog | click here |
| An Upturned Soul | Narcissist Support | resource/blog | click here |
| Faces of Narcissism | Narcissist Support | resource/blog | click here |
| Narc Nation | Narcissist Support | resource/blog | click here |
| After Narcissistic Abuse | Narcissist Support | resource/blog | click here |
| The lost self | Narcissist Support | resource/blog | click here |
| Swan Waters | Narcissist Support | resource/blog | click here |
| Silver Girl Shine | Narcissist Support | resource/blog | click here |
| Rutgers Online | Narcissist Support | resource | click here |
| Mental Help | Mental Health | resource | click here |
| Childrens Health | Narcissist Support | resource | click here |
| FreeFrom | Narcissist Support | resource | click here |
without books we would not need bookshelves!
We come seeking help at different stages, so if you are just starting to learn about Narcissism or you are a seasoned vet there is a book to guide you to answers. Start self-care and take time for yourself, read, these books are really good!
If you have a book recommendation we are always happy to share that with others. Shoot us an email to recommend your favorite book.
A Search For Purple Cows
Susan Call
Real Love: The Art Of Mindful Connection
Sharon Salzberg
Real Happiness: The Power of Meditation: A 28-Day Program
Sharon Salzberg
Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha
Tara Brach
Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness
Jon Kabat-Zinn
Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself
Kristin Neff
The Wisdom of Menopause: Creating Physical and Emotional Health During the Change
Christiane Northrup M.D.
A Mind of Your Own: The Truth About Depression and How Women Can Heal Their Bodies to Reclaim Their Lives
Kelly Brogan
The Divided Mind: The Epidemic of Mindbody Disorders
John Sarno
Hope and Help for Your Nerves
Claire Weekes
Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself
Lissa Rankin
Joy on Demand: The Art of Discovering the Happiness Within
Chade-Meng Tan
When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times
Pema Chodron
Going to Pieces without Falling Apart: A Buddhist Perspective on Wholeness
Mark Epstein
Joyful Productivity: A Solopreneur’s Guide To Creativity & Well-Being
George Kao
How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety
Ellen Hendriksen
The Five Step Exit: The Skills You Need to Leave a Narcissist, Psychopath, or Other Toxic Partner and Recover Your Happiness Now
Amber Ault
The Wise Lesbian Guide to Getting Free From Crazy-Making Relationships & Getting on with Your Life
Amber Ault
Triangulation: Narcissists, Borderlines, Other Toxic People Do It. How You Can Stop It. Why You Must.
Amber Ault
Hoovering: How to Resist the Pull of a Toxic Relationship & Recover Your Freedom Now
Amber Ault
Healing From a Narcissistic Relationship
Margalis Fjelstad
The Forgiveness Handbook: A Simple Guide to Freedom of the Mind and Heart
Clifford B. Edwards
The Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us
Ross Rosenberg
Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life
Linda Martinez-Lewi
Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself
Shahida Arabi
Codependent – Now What? Its Not You – Its Your Programming
Lisa Romano
10 Essential Survivor Secrets to Liberate Yourself from Narcissistic Abuse
Kim Saeed
How To Do No Contact Like A Boss!: The Essential Guide to Detaching from Love That Hurts
Kim Saeed
Red Flags of Love Fraud – 10 Signs You’re Dating a Sociopath
Donna Anderson
The Language of Letting Go
Melody Beattie
Codependency – “Loves Me, Loves Me Not”
Simeon Lindstrom
Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You
Darlene Lancer
Loving The Self Affirmations: Breaking The Cycles of Codependent Unconscious Belief Systems
Lisa A. Romano
Soul Vampires: Reclaiming Your Lifeblood After Narcissistic Abuse
Andrea Schneider
Codependency For Dummies
Darlene Lancer
Codependent No More Workbook
Melody Beattie
Psychopath Free (
Jackson MacKenzie
Rethinking Narcissism: The Secret to Recognizing and Coping with Narcissists
Dr. Craig Malkin
The Sociopath Next Door
Martha Stout
Unmasking Narcissism: A Guide to Understanding the Narcissist in Your Life
Mark Ettensohn PsyD
Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them : When Loving Hurts and You Don’t Know Why
Susan Forward
The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family
Eleanor Payson
The Narcissist Next Door: Understanding the Monster in Your Family, in Your Office, in Your Bed-in Your World
Jeffrey Kluger
Narcissism, Descriptions of The No Good, The Bad, and The Ugly
Mary Ryan
Ask the Narcissist: The Answers to Your Questions
H G Tudor
Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers
Dr. Karyl McBride Ph.D.
You’re Not Crazy – It’s Your Mother: Understanding and Healing for Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers
Danu Morrigan
Children of the Self-Absorbed: Narcissistic Parents
Nina W Brown EdD LPC
Trapped in the Mirror: Adult Children of Narcissists in their Struggle for Self
Elan Golomb
When Your Parent Is a Narcissist
Meredith Resnick
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents
Lindsay C. Gibson
Boundaries After a Pathological Relationship
Adelyn Birch
Will I Ever Be Free of You?: How to Navigate a High-Conflict Divorce
Dr. Karyl McBride Ph.D
Co-parenting with a Toxic Ex: What to Do Ex-Spouse Turns the Kids Against You
Amy J. L. Baker
How to take revenge on a narcissist
Leyla Loric & Richard Grannon
Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed
Wendy Terrie Behary LCSW, Daniel J. Siegel MD, Jeffrey Young PhD
Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Bill Eddy
Divorcing a Narcissist: Advice from the Battlefield
Tina Swithin
Divorcing a Narcissist: One Mom’s Battle
Tina Swithin
Divorcing a Narcissist: Rebuilding After The Storm
Tina Swithin
Liberate Yourself from Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life
Judith Orloff
Stop Spinning, Start Breathing: A Codependency Workbook for Narcissist Abuse Recovery
Zari L Ballard
How to Recognize and Manage the Narcissists in Your Life
Les Carter
The Narcissist’s 7-Step, 1-Minute Survival Guide to Sacred Spirituality
Mimi E. Gotist
Healing the Scars of Emotional Abuse
Ann McMurray, Gregory L. Ph.D. Jantz
Help! I’m in Love with a Narcissist
Steven Carter & Julia Sokol
How to Deal With Narcissists: Strategies and Techniques to Take Control
Michael Trust
How to Divorce a Narcissist or a Psychopath
Sam Vaknin
Leaving Madmen: Divorcing the narcissist. Your rules this time
Jay Lynn
How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved: Describes 8 Types of Dangerous Men, Gives Defense Strategies and a Red Alert Checklist for Each
Sandra L. Brown
Mothers Who Can’t Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters
Susan Forward
Narcissism: Dive Inside the Mind of a Narcissist and Learn How They Tick
Erica Bennett
Narcissist:: After the Custody Battle
Jamie Keller
Narcissistic Lovers: How to Cope, Recover and Move On
Cynthia Zayn
Narcissistic Personality Disorders: Distancing from Narcissism
Kaitlin Penley
Narcissists Exposed – 75 Things Narcissists Don’t Want You to Know: 75 Things Narcissists Don’t Want You to Know
Drew Keys
Narcissists: Soul Pluckers-Personality Disordered Crush Spirits, Incite Parent Alienation, Ruin Reputations: Narcissists and Psychopaths: Manipulation
Julia C. Boland
Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get On with Life
Margalis Fjelstad
Surviving a Borderline Parent: How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds and Build Trust, Boundaries, and Self-Esteem
Kimberlee Roth
Surviving the Narcissist: 30 Days of Recovery: Whether You’re Loving, Leaving, or Living With One
Meredith Resnick
Survivor Mom: Memoir: Divorcing a Narcissist, Staying Positive and Successful Parenting
Leona Alberts
You’re Not Crazy – You’re Codependent.: What Everyone Affected by Abuse, Trauma Must know
Jeanette Elisabeth Menter
The Road Back to Me: Healing and Recovering From Co-dependency, Addiction, Enabling, and Low Self Esteem
Lisa A Romano
Take Back Your Power: How to End People Pleasing, Stop Letting Life Happen to You and Start Getting What You Want
Angela Atkinson
The Co-Parenting Survival Guide: Letting Go of Conflict After a Difficult Divorce
Elizabeth Thayer Ph.D & Jeffrey Zimmerman Ph.D
The Depleted Self
Donald Capps
The Everything Guide to Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Cynthia Lechan Goodman & Barbara Leff
The Narcissist You Divorce
Betsy Wuebker
The Narcissist You Know: Defending Yourself Against Extreme Narcissists in an All-About-Me Age
Joseph Burgo PhD
The New Codependency: Help and Guidance for Today’s Generation
Melody Beattie
The Object of My Affection Is in My Reflection: Coping with Narcissists
Rokelle Lerner
The Path Forward: Surviving the Narcissist
Lisa E. Scott
The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connection, and Courage
Brené Brown
Toads, and the Women Who Kiss Them. How to Free Yourself From the Narcissist
Alexandra Nouri
Top 10 Tips To Surviving Divorce With a Narcissist
Meriam Ghulam & Mary Schmidt
When Your Lover Is a Liar: Healing the Wounds of Deception and Betrayal
Susan Forward
| MOVIE NAME | NARCISSISTIC REASONS TO WATCH |
|---|---|
Narcissist  |
Two handsome gay men discovers the painful truth of a charming, yet manipulative and toxic love interest. Short and sweet, but good example of Gaslighting and the selfish behaviors. |
Gone Girl  |
The wife has planned her escape building a web of crazy to frame her husband for her murder. She uses an old boyfriend and then kills him – this movie is an excellent and real reflection of the manipulation of a narcissist. |
Fatal Attraction  |
Glenn Close has a one night stand with a man and then stalks him. The movie shows the stalking angle very well. Warning she boils his family bunny. Its a classic thriller watch Glenn Close’s behavior. Stalking, narcissistic rage, delusional |
The Other Woman  |
Three women – two girlfriends and wife of a cheating narcissist to get even. Watch the husbands behavior – you will see the patterns, from charming, lying, cheating and ultimately his goal to destroy wife financially. Funny movie too! |
Mommy Dearest  |
Faye Dunaway plays the role of Joan Crawford as she belittles and gaslighting and controls her daughter horribly. This is a classic but now that you have narc glasses you can see things you never saw before. |
Sleeping With The Enemy  |
Julia Roberts has some big hair in this 1991 thriller. They seem to be the perfect couple… sound familiar? The husband is an abusive obsessed and controlling man – when you watch this you will really see how lucky you are. |
Holy Hell  |
A movie about mind control of a Narcissist. A true story of a cult that stayed together for 20 years thinking they had a better life. I loved this movie because it really showed me the crazy inside the mind of a narcissist, the lies, the lengths they will go to to be cared for. Must watch! To see 30+ people be controlled for over 20 years is very powerful. |
Rain Man  |
In Rain Man this classic movie with Dustin Hoffman and Tom Cruise watch Tom Cruise’s behavior towards his estranged brother. He is out for his inheritance and he doesn’t care who he hurts He does turn around and there is a sweet ending. |
Dexter – Netflix series   |
This Netflix series is about a serial killer that is really a psychopath BUT if you watch him closely the ‘inside his mind’ parts really give us an inside view of how their brains work. I loved this series. |
The Devil Wears Prada  |
Ann Hathaway works for Meryl Streep and she gets more than she bargained for as her life is turned upside down trying to please this crazy narcissist boss. A light and funny movie to watch. |
Silver Linings Playbook  |
I have to watch this again – I know both Bradley Cooper and Jennifer Lawrence have mental issues but I need to watch again. It was a good movie. |
Shameless (Netflix series)  |
This show cracked me up! The father is a drunk narcissist that cares about no one but has like five kids that the older sister raises. They are all really messed up, but its very funny. you can really see the patterns of a narcissist. |
Desperate Housewives  |
A TV series where snobby rich suburb wives. Clearly they show behaviors. |
| Gaslighting | A must watch to understand the power and actions of a manipulator that is actually doing Gaslighting to his wife. he wants her to think she is crazy. Its a very powerful movie considering it is from 1940. |
Breaking Bad  |
Most famous for a Meth series, the main character is clearly a narc. |
To Die For  |
ON MY LIST – will review soon |
What About Bob  |
ON MY LIST – will review soon |
Listen Up Philip  |
ON MY LIST – will review soon |
Rachel Getting Married  |
ON MY LIST – will review soon |
Girl Interrupted  |
ON MY LIST – will review soon |
White Oleander  |
ON MY LIST – will review soon |
Anchorman  |
ON MY LIST – will review soon |
Single White Female  |
ON MY LIST – will review soon |
August Osage County  |
ON MY LIST – will review soon |
White Oleander  |
ON MY LIST – will review soon |
Drop Dead Fred  |
ON MY LIST – will review soon |
Post Cards from the Edge  |
ON MY LIST – will review soon |
Terms of Endearment  |
ON MY LIST – will review soon |
A Woman Scorned  |
ON MY LIST – will review soon |
| Title | Author | |
|---|---|---|
| Narcissist Abuse Support | Tracy A. Malone | click here |
| Codependency No More | Brian Pisor | click here |
| Ash Said It | Ash Brown | click here |
| Save Your Sanity | Rhoberta Shaler, PHD | click here |
| Dad Surviving Divorce: Break the Cycle | Duane Robert | click here |
| The Narcissist in Your Life Podcast | Linda Martinez | click here |
| Understanding Today’s Narcissist | Christine Hammond | click here |
| The Overwhelmed Brain | Stress | Anxiety | Relationship | Critical Thinking | Emotional Intelligence Like Tony Robbins Oprah | Paul Colaianni | click here |
| A Date With Darkness Podcast | Natalie Jones, PsyD., LPCC | click here |
| The Nature vs Narcissism’s Podcast | Heather Wright | click here |
| Title | Content | Link |
|---|---|---|
| Codependency No More | Podcast | click here |
| Ash Said It | Podcast | click here |
| Business Insider | Article | click here |
| Narcissistic Abuse Recovery: Live Blab with Tracy Malone | Video | click here |
| Dad Surviving Divorce: Interview with Tracy Malone | Video | click here |
| Dad Surviving Divorce: Break the Cycle | Podcast | click here |
| Uniquely Narcissistic: Narcissists can be very charming | Article | click here |
| Good Reads Quote | Article | click here |
| Life Lafter Divorce Interview | Article | click here |
| Feedspot: Top 50 Narcissist Youtube Channels To Follow | Article | click here |
| Opening the Doors Psychotherapy – Babita Spinelli, LP On The Tracy Malone Podcast | Podcast | click here |
| Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show – Dr. Rhoberta Schaler | Podcast | click here |
| TITLE | URL |
|---|---|
| Forgiveness in an unforgiving world | Megan Feldman | TEDxBoulder | click here |
| (Re)learning forgiveness | Kimberly Yates | TEDxCUNY | click here |
| Forgiving the unforgivable: Colleen Haggerty at TEDxBellingham | click here |
| The ‘F’ Word: Forgiveness as a Way Forward | Rachel King | TEDxVanderbiltUniversity | click here |
| Forward Forgiveness: Healing by Confronting the Past | Hannah Jackson | TEDxWooster | click here |
| Forgive again | Valerie Joi | TEDxBerkeley | click here |
| Rethinking infidelity … a talk for anyone who has ever loved | Esther Perel | click here |
| How to Be Happy Every Day: It Will Change the World | Jacqueline Way | TEDxStanleyPark | click here |
| Verbal & Emotional Abuse – What victims hear from their abuser | click here |
| How the worst moments in our lives make us who we are | Andrew Solomon | click here |
| Why domestic violence victims don’t leave | Leslie Morgan Steiner | click here |
| TEDxIsfeld Bill Pozzobon Breaking the Boys Code of Masculinity | click here |
| My story | Elizabeth Smart | TEDxUniversityofNevada | click here |
| Brianne – Survivor of Domestic Violence Tells Her Story | click here |
| A Domestic Violence Survivor Shares Her Story — Dr. Phil | click here |
| 20/20 A Survivor’s Story: Mary Margaret Farren’s First TV Interview | click here |
| From Victim to Survivor: Find Your X…but First, Find Your (Wh)Y? | Lauren Book | TEDxOxford | click here |
| 13 Heartbreaking Confessions of Domestic Violence Survivors | click here |
| Survivor of Sexual and Domestic Violence: The 1st Story | click here |
| Stop running from your story | Bernadette Slowey | TEDxCrestmoorParkWomen | click here |
| Survivor of Sexual and Domestic Violence: The 1st Story | click here |
| What fear can teach us | Karen Thompson Walker | click here |
| How to know your life purpose in 5 minutes | Adam Leipzig | TEDxMalibu | click here |
| Suffering in Silence: The Emotional Abuse of Men | Dr. Timothy Golden | TEDxWallaWallaUniversity | click here |
| Skills for Healthy Romantic Relationships | Joanne Davila | TEDxSBU | click here |
| Sheryl Sandberg Gives UC Berkeley Commencement Keynote Speech | click here |
| We need to talk about an injustice | Bryan Stevenson | click here |
| How childhood trauma affects health across a lifetime | Nadine Burke Harris | click here |
| How Do We Stop Childhood Adversity from Becoming a Life Sentence. | Benjamin Perks | TEDxPodgorica | click here |
| Trauma is irreversible. How it shapes us is our choice. | Sasha Joseph Neulinger | TEDxBozeman | click here |
| What Trauma Taught Me About Resilience | Charles Hunt | TEDxCharlotte | click here |
| A STORY THAT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE – One of The Best Speeches Ever by Lisa Nichols (emotional) | click here |