Narcissists Cannot Change Narcissists Cannot Change: Stop Having Expectations. Narcissists Cannot Change: Wishing the verbal abuse would stop. NARCISSISTS CAN'T CHANGE: Gambling and hoping that the narcissist will change means you are still in denial. It's okay everyone takes them back at least a few times. No matter how many times you do take them back there is no guarantee they won't just discard you. If you could lose them, it's gambling and you are betting years of your life. If life is horrible with them, find a way out, they will not change. The only thing that changes is your age. Narcissists Cannot Change: Wishing they would start caring about your kids vs using them as a weapon. Narcissists Cannot Change: Wishing your family will ever be normal. Narcissists Cannot Change: Holding onto the past, we cannot get back yesterday. All we can change is this minute and all our tomorrows. Narcissists Cannot Change: Wishing they would go back to the person you fell in love with... that was just an act & a game.