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Join me for a surTHRIVER small intimate video support group that meets once a week for two hours, each session is six weeks. My surTHRIVER online support groups will focus on healing and how to move on. I have designed this six-week session with each session meeting on video for two hours with the same people each week (eight people and me).

This will be a safe environment where you are heard and validated. I know that each one of you could be in different stages of recovery, so we will share our stories and concerns, but we will not do lots of bitching and whining because that can trigger other members. This is how I run my in-person groups and believe me you will get your time to talk and get your questions answered. The purpose of these groups will be to get you unstuck by learning what you need to about the behaviors you are seeing but move past them and start to focus on you. We will tackle topics like setting boundaries, understanding how fear controls us,  anger, understanding abandonment issues and my signature workshop on changing the story to not attract another narcissist and lots of other great discussion topics.

Are going through a divorce, co-parenting, in a relationship or healing from a relationship. You could be the adult child of a narcissistic parent, or you could have a narcissistic sibling or child or another relative that makes your life a living hell. Do you have a narcissistic boss or co-worker, neighbor or church connection that you just don’t know what to do with? Or you could be like most members of my groups that you have been raised by one then married one. Or if you are super lucky like me you would have dated one, married one, had narcissistic in-laws, a mother, siblings, and aunt, friends, and coworkers!! No matter who the narcissist is in your life, we all seem to be dealing with the same issues and pain. Being invalidated is never fun, having someone smearing you and telling lies about you is so painful. You do not need to go through this alone. It’s time to break the patterns.

surTHRIVER TESTIMONIALS

“I found this group amazing and received so much validation. The people in my group were from all over and we all had the same story and similar behavior from their narc. I loved the additional reading materials and found them very helpful. Tracy is a phenomenal leader, empathetic, and definitely helps you to feel you have a team behind you in this difficult journey!” – SurThriver

“Since participating in two six-week groups and some individual sessions with Tracy, I feel more connected, supported and validated than I ever have. Tracy is extraordinary; she is genuine, open, kind, loving and supportive. She is deeply knowledgeable not only about narcissistic abuse, but also how to heal from it. She has been through this herself and understands my struggle.” – SurThriver

“I’ve been married to a covert narcissist for the past ten years. After years of depression, self doubt, and walking on egg shells I finally decided to do my research about what I was going through. After years of being demeaned, devalued, and conditioned to not trust my instincts I took the first steps of researching the verbal, emotional, and psychologically abuse I was suffering from. None of my friends could really understand what I was going through despite how supportive they were if i couldn’t help but feel shame as I spoke and saw how mortified they were when I explained the way my spouse was treating me regularly. It was hard for them to understand how I could stay in such a toxic relationship for so long as they were not familiar with love bombing and gaslighting. I found myself having to calm them down as they could not comprehend how someone could be so selfish/rude/ manipulative. I finally filed for divorce in March. It has been a nightmare divorcing a covert narcissist who is also an attorney and litigates for a living. After months of the research regarding covert narcissism and crying my eyes out realizing that I was abused and it was not all my fault I was done feeling sorry for myself and needed to figure out how to move forward.  I needed the  techniques, ways to cope, and recover from the abuse.  That’s where I found Tracy Malone during the Avaya Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse conference. I loved the information she provided regarding the importance of changing our story which is imperative in order to not attract future narcissists. I signed up for Tracey’s  narcissist recovery coaching group and it has literally been my lifeline during covid, being on shelter orders with the narc , and going through a high conflict divorce.   In addition, to the coaching Tracy provides the support from the other members in the group has been priceless. Being able to explain my situation and having others understand completely what I am going through is beyond priceless. I am so grateful to Tracy for everything she is teaching regarding boundaries, negative patterns of thinking, and other extremely useful techniques so that I can stop feeling like a victim and start working on myself and learning that I am deserving of love and respect. Above all, the support from team members and the ability to connect with others, who have an understanding of why it’s taken me so long to get out of my marriage, who are not speechless and shocked by my narc’s actions towards me, and instead are empathetic, supportive, and can help me see that there is light at the end of the tunnel means more to me than any words can describe. Highly recommend the recovery coaching group!” – SurThriver

Hi Tracy,

I wanted to reach out to you to tell you a HUGE thank you for all that you did to help guide me through my divorce process with my narcissist ex-husband.  We are officially divorced as of September 2022!  I realized I had not yet reached out to you to tell you this amazing new, and I definitely want you to know that I am so grateful to have found you online during my darkest of times.  Your guidance during our 1:1 sessions, along with the learnings I gained from your support group that I was part of for 6 weeks is what led me to tackle my divorce head on and in the least tumultuous way possible.

Prior to meeting you I had filed for divorce 3 times and been unsuccessful each time, always going back to him due to the debilitating fear of the divorce process from all of the threats he had put into my mind.  At the time it seemed easier to just stay married to him rather than going into a full-on battle with him in the court system and potentially losing all my belongings, my home, and my life savings. However, this last time was different because you helped me get into his mind and use reverse psychology in a way that worked perfectly for him.  It made a world of a difference and I am happy to report that I was able to get him to sign an uncontested agreement and did not even have to face him in court.

Now I am 100% free from the marriage and the misery and torture he put me through for almost 8 long years.

I feel lighter, as if I have been released from a prison sentence.  The feeling of not having to answer to him is indescribable.

So, I just had to tell you thank you, because I do not know if I would have been able to get to this pivotal point in my life without your guidance and advice.

All the best of luck to you in the future and keep doing what you’re doing.  It’s making a difference!

“I wanted to tell you that in many ways your group saved my life and gave me the courage to keep working from a place of dignity and self-respect. Not thinking I was just stupid, foolish, etc., and continuing to beat myself up for the rest of my life. Watching YouTube is one thing but getting to know people on a personal level is quite another and much more powerful.  Once I heard how so many beautiful accomplished women got fooled too it really made all the difference. It gave me permission to forgive myself and be compassionate. I am so incredibly grateful to you and to all the girls for getting me through some really bad times. Thank you for everything.” – Surthriver

“I am on my second round of small group coaching sessions led by Tracy. I am so thankful that I have this option as another resource to helping me on a weekly basis. It is so worth the investment and healing that I get from it even when I think I’m not healing. It’s comforting to be on and listen to others who get it and understand the hell.” – SurThriver

“When I joined this group I felt that for the first time people understood my language. They didn’t look at me like my friends do, judging the crazy as if it was my fault. I am so happy to have found this group. Thank you Tracy!”  – SurThriver

“Before discovering Narcissistic Abuse Support online I was convinced that I was alone in my anguish. I was completely unaware of the terms Coercive Control, Gaslighting, Narcissism and that they are forms of abuse I am now all too familiar with. As I continue to work through the healing process, I am tremendously encouraged and comforted by weekly scheduled counseling sessions with my fellow support group members, who have since become trusted confidants. As anyone who has suffered at the hands of a narcissist understands, it is extremely difficult to describe the circumstances and your actions to those not familiar with the condition. I give total credit to Tracy Malone for the opportunity to have this vital support system in my corner and greatly appreciate her experience & guidance through my recovery.” – SurThriver

“Tracy has been a tremendous help for me! She is so easy to talk with, a great listener and shares her own experiences which has been so helpful to me, especially because we have had similar experiences. I really have enjoyed my group and feel that I have made some lasting friendships built on trust. Thank you Tracy, I am so happy I found you and I am forever grateful!” – Surthriver

“This group that I was blessed to be a part of was absolutely life changing for me.  I missed the first class because I was in a dark place that night and fighting suicidal thoughts.  The next morning I was shocked to see that you had sent me a personal email saying the group missed me.  I couldn’t believe you actually cared enough to reach out and make sure I was ok.  I learned soooo much from this group! It was a safe place to share some of my hurts but also a place to grow.  You are a great teacher and have shared so much knowledge/information with us! I learned so much!!! I am so grateful to have been a part of this group and am excited for what the future holds because of what I learned in your group!” – Much Love, LM

“Before finding Tracy in May 2020, I had been searching for a narcissistic abuse support group for many years. I grew up with a severely disordered narcissistic mother and have been in several painful personal relationships with narcissists. I needed to connect with others who have had experiences like mine; few people can understand this type of abuse without having endured it.” – SurThriver