5 Destructive Things that Pause your Healing from Narcissistic Abuse . Are you doing any of them? How do I heal? When will the pain after narcissistic abuse go away? Why can’t I let go of the hurt? These are such common questions that every survivor asks. SO what is the answer? That is a bit of a loaded question because while our stories are often similar our recovery RX is different for everyone. Sometimes we need to heal abandonment, learn better boundaries or even learn to stop talking negatively to ourselves or holding onto the past and forgetting we must build a new future. Today my guest if Nancy Sungyun a coach, a healer and an author and a youtuber. We had a lovely conversation about how to heal.