Legal abuse by a narcissist can be traumatic – they use the police and courts to further abuse the victims.
These two gals from different sides of the world were not supposed to be friends? Colorado and Australia are 18 hours apart and yet the story of these two wonderful souls and how they met will amaze you. They were dating the same Narcissist at the same time for two years! Our Narcissist had one arrested and put in jail just to protect that secret that he lied to them both for two years.
Watch the story of how they became friends and through sharing with each other they have discovered so much proof of how narcissists change their personality to morph into the perfect person for each of them. Lies lies and more lies that have never been discovered about narcissists before. Tracy Malone & Lieselle Davidson share the journey of the unlikely friendship.
The narcissist recorded the conversation and it is important to understand that this is a very common trick with narcissists. Recording a conversation is legal in Colorado as long as one party is aware of the recording.
Narcissist in Court and Litigation
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Beyond the shame of talking about it now
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the actual day was so degrading because before that police had always been here if
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accidents happen
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If I was robbed they were there they were the helpers I was the victim and they treated me with respect
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When they came to arrest me. I was treated in a way that I
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Just think isn’t right
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Tracy was the crazy Ex. I heard about how jealous. She was of me even though we had never met
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Little did I know that. I was about to meet the same as a person I know
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And the woman who saved my life. I don’t really know what put me in his driveway that day
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Why I was compelled to
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Go on that day. I really don’t understand. What was inside my head except that I
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Wanted closure we were just coming about our usual business
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when I say we the fella and I um
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we had been to get some pick up some groceries and
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and
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Wine for dinner so I landed in his driveway. He was not home his son. Let me in and we chatted
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when he got home he parked on the road cuz my car was in his driveway and
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He said oh, that’s that’s tracy’s car
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Now I didn’t really want to talk to Tracy I
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had heard that she was the crazy Ex and
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I
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believed that and he called me from the house to the garage and
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he was angry with me for being there and
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kept on saying you know I’ll make an appointment with you make an appointment after about five minutes they came out and
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The two of them were standing in the dryer see that they were in conversation
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and in this case he actually walked into that garage with a tape recorder in his pocket and
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That was very hurtful and very surprising when I found that out a few weeks later
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we talked and
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I just wanted to meet liz out and then he pointed to the car and
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Tracy headed over to speak to me
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he prevented her from speaking to me by charging the door and
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it was interesting because I
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could I knew at that time I knew that the police were being called because I could see he had his phone out and
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It was it all seemed very dramatic to me he threatened to call the police and he did
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Well, I backed out and I will admit I
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Floored it when I hit the road you know just of course
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I think any of us would it was sort of a look you idiot
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But I didn’t think anything would come of it the holy wave really left me with a lot of questions
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First of all I was really stunned by the fact that we were told that tracy was going to be arrested that night
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It seemed
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mightily disproportionate to the events that had occurred
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and
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It was shocking to me. It was the first time I had ever filled out a police statement, and I remember saying that to
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The police so that was there and he said welcome to the u.s. Man
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the police arrived at my door and
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said they had
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reason to arrest me and
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with little explanation as to what it was and
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Trespassing was what they were telling me it was for that
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He had asked me to leave seven times or something like that, and that wasn’t true
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He didn’t ask me to leave until the very end
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but
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they came they
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Put handcuffs on me and escorted me out my own house
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So after after he left, and we knew the tracy and been arrested. We sat on the couch and I
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Well, I felt like I was in shock
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I
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Because I didn’t know very much about race at all other than what I had heard from him I
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assumed that she had to be in a very bad place and that she
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Still cared for him and loved him and so I started to ask a few questions. I
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asked him if in fact
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He had been intimate with Tracy and he said that it had only happened one time
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And it was at her insistence
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They took me and got me into the jail and left me there for almost nine hours
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freezing and
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Did the fingerprints did the mugshots?
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I now know why mug shots look so bad because you could sit in there for nine freaking hours crying I
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Can’t even imagine what my mug shot looks like
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I
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finally got to my room palmer around 7:00 in the morning and I
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Just had there crying
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There was a point in the evening where I remember saying gee I really I feel really sorry for Tracy
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Gosh, she was going to be in jail. We were told in fact we were not told she was in jail. He
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Downloaded an app for his phone
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Which would test the progress of her?
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Where she was in the system at the time?
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so
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We knew you know if she was in jail?
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we knew when she was going to be released and and I remember saying gee I feel sorry for her and
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His answer was quite Swift, and it was I don’t
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and I really thought this was a very big mistake, but now I
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knew that it was the worst day of my life, but it was the turning point of my life, I
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received a
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message Via
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Facebook messenger from a person that I had known both intimately on a physical and
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soul level
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for almost two years I
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Received a message on Facebook message telling me that I was no longer required in his life
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and that he had found someone new
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In fact it was the same someone knew that I had asked him about a month earlier
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Narcissus do this every single day
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You go from being a victim which we are
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To a perpetrator you have no rights whatsoever
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Just saying it’s not good
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one of the things I read was how
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How a narcissistic person will?
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Once they have a new romantic supply
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Will literally cut you off?
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and so the biggest shock of my life was
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One day having a friend and the next day not
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so one of the reasons that I went to
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This fellow’s house that day
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Was to get closure for me
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You see in December after being with him for two and a half years I
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Found out that he’d been with I called her door number, two
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Although she was actually door number. Three we count was out. I
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was very upset because
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One of our Mantras one of our things that we said to each other was
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that
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If either one of us wanted to date someone else then this was over because it was a safety thing
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at 55 years old and
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Being with someone for two and a half years we weren’t using protected sex
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it was
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something of a
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Trust
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And and I believed that he was being faithful after
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I found out about that girl
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door number two I
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contacted her
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and then I contacted his ex-wife and
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His ex-wife had always been the crazy ex-wife, but when I talked to her she encouraged me to get tested
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for sexually transmitted diseases I
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I was frightened at that point. I’m a single mom
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My son was Gonna Graduate college
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What would he do without me? If something was wrong
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and and I
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Contacted door number two as well, and she ended up with HPV a couple of days after I
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Had had my my dismissal so I just I don’t know what you call that
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I woke up with a notion and it was a very strong one
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That I would like to contact Tracy and have a chat with her I
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often tell people that tracy saved my life, and I believe that with all my heart she
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suggested I go and have myself checked for stDs and I
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Listened I heard okay. I’m going to go and do that and
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She also suggests she told me exactly what I needed to be looking for
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so I went to my doctor and did just that
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As it turned out I?
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Did have a High-risk HPV?
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And in addition to that because I had a cervical lesion I had precancerous cells on my cervix
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Which then had to be treated?
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And it is a very commonly
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sexually transmitted
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infection very common
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it has the ability to cause cervical oral cancer and
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I just think
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That there should be laws against people
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Knowing that they have something and yet spreading it like wildfire
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when I first talked to Liz Al I
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Told her to go and get checked
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Because now two out of three had gotten this from him
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Somehow I dodged the bullet. I’m not really sure how
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And that is what I said tracy saved my life because had I not found
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That out or that information had not been given to me at the time that it was
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It was suggested to me by her gynecologist that it could well have been too late for them to have treated me success for me
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I bet you never thought we would be sitting here together on this gauge
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It’s been it’s been kind of fun. There’s been a lot of fun aspects in us getting together Tracy, and I are mean
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and
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the fun aspects of a case are you finding out that we have so many similarities of course we’re
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from different places in the world and we have grown up in different very different cases, but
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We have very similar
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Tastes obviously also in men and hopefully we’ll grow from that particular taste
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You know into something a little bit more fitting of both of us healthy
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you’ve been here for a few months yeah, and we’ve got some more fun planned, but
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Then she goes back to Australia
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And our goal is to maybe write a book
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Maybe make some courses that can help train people on how to help people and just in telling this story
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it has been so delightful because
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I can see it in people’s eyes when they know that they’re in a dire situation
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But they can also see that because we’ve come through it and we’ve come through it with strength and grace
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That they have that hope too that they can really move forward with the same amount of strength and grace even though they may not
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know
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How that will happen just yet?
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And that’s okay. They will find their way in time, but that there is a silver lining and
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That it’s really important for us to understand that we have the power to Define
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What we stand for and there that’s in your responsibility. I want you to look at
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Your relationship. Did you give more than you got?
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The one thing that I know I could have done differently was set much better personal boundaries I
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Feel like I accepted
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so much less than what I deserve and
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That it for that alone. I feel that this is a really important Growth curve or Growth
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Pattern
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for me as I look at my personal responsibilities, so easy as I’ve had this youtube channel for a while now and
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talked to so many people victims and survivors of
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Narcissist views it’s so easy for
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someone who’s in the angry stage to see that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and
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It’s so easy to blame another person instead of looking inward
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Do you suspect that you have been the victim of narcissist abuse?
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Has a relationship, led you to doubt yourself
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feel needy
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obsessive or
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codependent
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Has a relationship, led you to be confused
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Feel like you’re crazy when you try to make sense of things or feel empty or drained
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Do you feel mental confusion?
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anxiety
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Lack of Joy, Or Hope or have guilt around a relationship?
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Are you constantly being blamed?
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to experience sleeplessness or night terrors
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If you suspect you’re dealing with a narcissist we both encourage you to educate yourselves on the red flags
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patterns
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your vulnerabilities of this type of abuse
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I’ve created a website called narcissists abuse support. We’ll put the url below
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it’s got all kinds of resources, and then we’ve hand selected and read these books and videos, so
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visit me there and
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If you’re looking for any kind of healing technique or moving beyond blockages in your life
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I am an empath, and I am an intuitive and I can be your friend
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So visit me at my website, we will put the url
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So our unlikely friendship
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Will go on yeah, so cheers to that
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you
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