We were all handed a deck of cards that is not what we wanted but we have the power to heal and rewrite our story.
This is Tracy
Today I learned some things and what I’d like to just record a few videos quick ones
to share you with you some of the notes that I took for my
exciting Ted talk
something about like clicked with me was
Your story, right we all have one and we all have a reason that things have happened to us
mmM sometimes not our choice obviously
being in marketing for years like you know the thing has been tell your story tell your story, but
No one ever said you
Have the crayons you have the ability to tell yourself a different story
those a great poet that spoke today and
he told a story of how he
when he was very young and in Elementary school
they were doing some genealogy sort of find out about your tree and
Family’s history and
He didn’t have any
they couldn’t find any and
he went home to his family and
Yelled at them he was in fourth Grade
and he went home and yelled at them and said why didn’t you tell me I don’t have a family and
What his grandmother said was?
What kind of ice cream? Do you like?
And he was like what does that have to do with me not knowing who I am?
Everyone else has family and they know what they are
And she said what kind of dinosaur would you be if you could be a dinosaur?
And he picked a velociraptor
She asked on all these questions that he had no idea what they meant was [4th] grade
Because he had no history
He was able to
[write] his own. He was able to write what he believed and and what he wanted to say [to] people
And I think when we’re dealing with a narcissist when we’re dealing with abuse when we’re dealing with
Painful situations in our life we so often get caught in the story
we get so sick of listening to it get so sick of telling it because its victim speak and
after a while no one wants to hear it, and that’s discouraging all by itself to rate we
Just want to be acknowledged. We want someone to give us a cure
But here’s a cure
write the story
Stop telling yourself. The same stories and rewrite it take a crayon and write something else
What would you be if you had anything right now?
What’s your story?
Think about what you do to make yourself happy
When’s the last time that you did something that makes you happy I?
Didn’t realize that
When I got divorced that I stopped doing everything that I love to do
Because I was a victim. I was somebody that had had things happen to her and I
Stopped making dinners. I stopped having dinner parise. I love to cook. I love to entertain
and I just stopped I
Stopped being a photographer. I used to take pictures all the time
I’ve had many of my pictures published
But I stopped I stopped the interests it became a very hard work holic
Because [I] was in the survival mode I worked till one in the morning
five days a week and
Every single weekend, I still had fun. I still did things I still taught classes. I still went to things with my friends
But I stop doing what made me happy
And I think that’s key for us is to
understand and write it down
Makes you happy. What do you like to do? Do you like to hike?
Get out there and clear your head and hike
Like to ride your bike just do it
We so often forget what we want and our passions are
because we get roped into this story the story of
Betrayal Anger and hurt and
The Victim speak right, I’m not saying that we aren’t victims. I’m telling you [to] tell yourself a different story
Because we have the grounds I wish I had a prop of a crater on to show you right now
I should bother that gosh. I could had a V-8 um
but we have the power and
Just like that amazing poet today. Who had no story no
Genealogy tree and his grandmother just said be a velociraptor
Be your favorite ice cream the amount him be whatever you want to be
You write the story?
What has happened yesterday is the past we cannot do anything about that?
but in this moment
just like in that moment when I sat there that Tedxtalks surrounded by Fear I
Told myself. I’m okay. I’m okay right now
Why sit here and worry about it? Why not just be in the moment and enjoy a magical day