We were all handed a deck of cards that is not what we wanted but we have the power to heal and rewrite our story.
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This is Tracy
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Today I learned some things and what I’d like to just record a few videos quick ones
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to share you with you some of the notes that I took for my
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exciting Ted talk
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something about like clicked with me was
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Your story, right we all have one and we all have a reason that things have happened to us
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mmM sometimes not our choice obviously
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but
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being in marketing for years like you know the thing has been tell your story tell your story, but
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No one ever said you
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Have the crayons you have the ability to tell yourself a different story
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those a great poet that spoke today and
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he told a story of how he
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was
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when he was very young and in Elementary school
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they were doing some genealogy sort of find out about your tree and
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understand your
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Family’s history and
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He didn’t have any
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they couldn’t find any and
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he went home to his family and
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Yelled at them he was in fourth Grade
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and he went home and yelled at them and said why didn’t you tell me I don’t have a family and
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What his grandmother said was?
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things like
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What kind of ice cream? Do you like?
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And he was like what does that have to do with me not knowing who I am?
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Everyone else has family and they know what they are
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And she said what kind of dinosaur would you be if you could be a dinosaur?
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And he picked a velociraptor
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She asked on all these questions that he had no idea what they meant was [4th] grade
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but
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Because he had no history
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He was able to
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[write] his own. He was able to write what he believed and and what he wanted to say [to] people
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And I think when we’re dealing with a narcissist when we’re dealing with abuse when we’re dealing with
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Painful situations in our life we so often get caught in the story
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we get so sick of listening to it get so sick of telling it because its victim speak and
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after a while no one wants to hear it, and that’s discouraging all by itself to rate we
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Just want to be acknowledged. We want someone to give us a cure
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But here’s a cure
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write the story
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Stop telling yourself. The same stories and rewrite it take a crayon and write something else
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What would you be if you had anything right now?
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What’s your story?
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Think about what you do to make yourself happy
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When’s the last time that you did something that makes you happy I?
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Didn’t realize that
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When I got divorced that I stopped doing everything that I love to do
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Because I was a victim. I was somebody that had had things happen to her and I
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Stopped making dinners. I stopped having dinner parise. I love to cook. I love to entertain
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and I just stopped I
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Stopped being a photographer. I used to take pictures all the time
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I’ve had many of my pictures published
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But I stopped I stopped the interests it became a very hard work holic
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Because [I] was in the survival mode I worked till one in the morning
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five days a week and
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Every single weekend, I still had fun. I still did things I still taught classes. I still went to things with my friends
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But I stop doing what made me happy
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And I think that’s key for us is to
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understand and write it down
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Makes you happy. What do you like to do? Do you like to hike?
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Get out there and clear your head and hike
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Like to ride your bike just do it
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We so often forget what we want and our passions are
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because we get roped into this story the story of
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Betrayal Anger and hurt and
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The Victim speak right, I’m not saying that we aren’t victims. I’m telling you [to] tell yourself a different story
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Because we have the grounds I wish I had a prop of a crater on to show you right now
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I should bother that gosh. I could had a V-8 um
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but we have the power and
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Just like that amazing poet today. Who had no story no
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Genealogy tree and his grandmother just said be a velociraptor
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Be your favorite ice cream the amount him be whatever you want to be
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You write the story?
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What has happened yesterday is the past we cannot do anything about that?
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but in this moment
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just like in that moment when I sat there that Tedxtalks surrounded by Fear I
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Told myself. I’m okay. I’m okay right now
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Why sit here and worry about it? Why not just be in the moment and enjoy a magical day
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you
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