When we have a co-worker that seems to be willing to do anything to get ahead they get labeled ladder climbers. Narcissists at work do far more than that to destroy anyone that no longer supports them.
This week a friend told me a story about her co-worker that I could see the classic gaslighting that went on.
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Hi there this is Tracy and I am
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Driving, but I thought I would discuss something that a friend of mine, and I were talking about yesterday
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She had someone at work that
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Clearly to me
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he had a lot of narcissistic things to her and
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My friend has never experienced this and while she’s lived through
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My dramas with me
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She really didn’t think that this narcissistic thing
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that’s
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people
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That you work with let me give you a rundown here. Have you ever worked with someone that?
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– either
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You might consider them a a ladder climber someone that would do pretty much anything
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To get ahead and that anything is
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certainly
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using you and then
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deciding that at some point you don’t have as much value and
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Go on with these and then they started to like
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devalue you and ultimately they will come along and
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They will room you they will decide that okay?
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I tried to be nice to them and then I
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Started telling everyone how bad they were at work telling them that they had done things wrong
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But was so amazing to me was when she was telling me last night about the gas lighting
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That this girl did to her
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My friends tillable leaves and since they’re going
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Why would she say that about me? It’s not true, and I sat there trying to explain to her hey
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That’s what they do if you are the most honest person in the world that
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Honesty is something that they’re going to target
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If you are amazing with customer service, and you just love your customers and they love you
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She convinced my friend that all of her customers
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Were afraid of her because she was to me
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And now my friend is sitting here
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like seriously citing whether she should stay in her career because
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She doesn’t like the fact that people
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Thought she was me the whole thing was a lie
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And it was so hard to explain this to someone that has never
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experienced or witnessed
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This kind of behavior it
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Confuses her brain, and she doesn’t know what to do
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She has no idea how to process this this whole tried to ruin her at work
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The other girl got fired not my friend
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But it didn’t leave my friend without scars and wounds of the fact that
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Someone could do this to you someone that you brought on your teeth
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You train them, and you built them up, and you made them
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Be able to do their to mop
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And then they started backstabbing you and they started lying about you
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That’s only half of it the other part is that?
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She she looked my friend to leave that
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She is someone that her customers fear
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And you know any little tiny bit of truth
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That she might have been able to throw in there to throw it back at my friend
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Just well we know they do right
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That made it make more sense to my friend. Oh, maybe I was that maybe I did that
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She wasn’t mean to her customers and her customers left her in fact she said
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This girl had told her a specific meal of someone that yeah. He says he doesn’t ever want to talk to you again
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So my friend email this client and said listen. Uh I want to work this out if you have issues with me
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I would love to talk with you. I’ve been working with you for 15 years. You know please can we talk about this and
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That customer sent her back an email saying I don’t know what you’re talking about. I think she’s like messing with your head
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Because I never said any of that
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Well that is my friends proof that this girl is making this up and going around and telling everyone these lies
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And as I sat there trying to explain to my friend that she had the proof
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That her customers don’t eat her and they don’t think bad things about her. She was holding the proof
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believing the lie that the narcissist
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Put on her and labeled her when she’s stuck in that and it’s so
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unfair
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and
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it doesn’t help that you have never had this experience and
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No, how many people in work situations actually
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go in and
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Look up narcissists appears
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There’s probably a large number of that that do eventually
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Get to that kind of conclusion get to that diagnosis to read and learn and understand it
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but I think when there’s that kind of abuse in a workplace I
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Think that most people
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Call them ladder climbers you know cutthroat
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backstabbers all of those things are
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Possible at the workplace, but is when they use these
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manipulative tactics
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to
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Devalue you to smear your name and then to turn around
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And gasp like you into thinking that your own customers don’t like you
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and that is so ingrained in my friends head because she’s
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So not like that and so it hit her at the core of her honesty and her
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great customer service and her great dedication
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So if you’re going through something with a narcissist at work, please
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Understand and I have a few videos on
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Narcissist at work I suggest that you read them because this is a very
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Powerful weapon that is so often
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displayed in a work relationship
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remember
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Narcissist might be there abusing us as romantic victims husbands wives boyfriends girlfriends
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But they have a job too, and they want to climb that ladder
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And they don’t care who they step on right this is such a serious thing that I think we need to educate
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HR departments and
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Corporate offices to to understand that this exists so that they can better identify
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It and they can better help the victim through this difficult time
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Because for her to give up her career that she has been doing for over 30 years
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Would be a shame would be a shame because it’s not true
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And I don’t want any of you to think that this is normal behavior
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What to do about it, we’ll talk about that in another video right now
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That just stuck my heart. I was with my friend last night and
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So classic classic classic classic so if you haven’t subscribed to my channel
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Please do thank you very much, and this is Tracy peace out
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I hope there’s good volume on this because I’m driving and there’s carnal ways right, so have a great day and
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He’s out
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That’s all I got
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