Things you hear on your shoulder, that little voice s/he has always been there. Telling you things that may not be true. Cognitive distortions are simply ways that our mind convinces us of something that isn’t really true. These inaccurate thoughts are usually used to reinforce negative thinking or emotions — telling ourselves things that sound rational and accurate, but really only serve to keep us feeling bad about ourselves.
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Hi there. This is Tracy, and I am here today to talk about empathy and the fact that
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narcissists do not know how to be empathetic and
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In order to explain this we have to know that the difference between sympathy and empathy are
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quite different and
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When you sympathize with someone you are understanding?
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With them you’re compassionate about what they’re [going] through
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when you empathize with someone you feel it and when you’re with someone for a long time or
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you’re with someone intimately, maybe
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If they were hurt you would empathize you would feel it. So deeply inside of you because
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Um you care for them
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but a narcissist is incapable of
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Feeling any kind of empathy and the reason I wanted to make this video today, so the unmasking
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She’s taking off her glasses. Have to keep them on because my eyes are kind of swollen shut
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from my
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most cancer surgery this week and it’s
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bringing back a memory
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Flashback if you would a trigger to
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The fact that I had this same surgery just a little bit to the left of my forehead
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back in
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October so six months ago. I had this exact same surgery and
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at that time I was not prepared for
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36 stitches or having eyes that swelled up and then closed from
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This the procedure, but this time I was much more prepared
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October I was not and
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my Narc and I were still seeing each other and
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He was never there for me ever whenever I needed something
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Point there it was helping me move or whether it was after I had surgery
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his
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way of empathizing was
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hey, I’ll come over and
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Yeah, he just wanted to have sex he didn’t bring me flowers
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My beautiful friends bought me flowers. I made cupcakes and
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he didn’t do any of that and
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It really pissed me off
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It hurt me very much that he couldn’t just sit there and hold my hand
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so all you [really] need when you’re scared I was alone and
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he couldn’t do it, [so]
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[that] should have been a red flag for me several times into
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The relationship with this man. He
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Wasn’t there for me I?
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he broke my rib actually he broke my rib and sent me the hospital and got on a plane and
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I’m not their time I fell down the stairs and spring my ankle and
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he just didn’t come around and one time he [was] running, and he hurt his ankle and
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I not only had to go over there and make him dinner
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Shop for ice packs and freeze them and lift his little ankle and take care of him
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But one that turned around and I was in pain and needed surgery. He wasn’t there so I want you to think about
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The times that your narcissist was unable to give you empathy
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I’m putting these on because the bright lights are hurting. I felt like a startled it anyway
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Hmm ah
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epithet and
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if you have an example of
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something that your narcissistic
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Being a parent or a a relationship or even a boss something that where they have shown no empathy at all I
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Want you to please write it down below if you chair
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I think the people that are sharing things in the comments are adding such a great dimension to
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everyone understanding
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differences in the performance of their narcissist and
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Things that they did that they didn’t that we didn’t really think were
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were red flags we just thought that sucks, but
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you know as I sit here and
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Nourish my little head. I’m not looking for snuff at the year. I’m not looking for empathy here
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I’m brave. I could handle it. I’m a big girl
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I’m just having a flashback
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with a lack of Empathy
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our relationship didn’t end very long after that but
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It should have been a flag it should have been something [that] without hands down. He should have been there holding my freaking hand
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It’s all I god
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let’s see what your
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Narcissist is done