Each week I learn something that helps me connect the dots of my abuse. This week I put about five pieces and events together and now I understand what happened with my x family. Four years completely shocked by the worst behavior of any human beings. I know now I was dealing with a queen narcissist that had a very very big web of lies. I am so lucky to be free of this narcissist, controlling, lying, abusing, using.
Hi There This is tracy and
Tonight I have Decided to Make a video because
and how Sometimes Things Just
Start To come Together and
Didn’t Make sense before and if This doesn’t happen to yet it’s going to happen but
Things Just don’t Make sense and
Today Tonight I’m sitting here and I’m like Putting These pieces Together for no Particular Reason
But They Just Came to me and so I wanted to give This example of
Financial Abuse and Sipping by Revealing This
Story and in True Story if that be you know told
Or something that my Ex-Husband Did to Me and [my] Child and it was Financial abuse and
Just Now I didn’t see it so here’s the story, I’m wearing my
Son’s George Washington University Cap and my Daughter Washington University Shirt
I’m not gonna leave that on my Hair Because it’s all Squishy so um my son went to George Washington University and
This is how, We were Financially abused, [oh]?
Put That Right There
It went down Too far sorry I met my Husband and We were Married when my son, was [eight] Years Old and?
Family Immediately Took to
my son and Called him Grandson
Stand Him on his Lap Taught him how to write Up in A ride on mower and
for all intensive Reasons This was his his Grandparents and
My Husband’s Sister his Aunt and They
Seem to Really love Us i called me Daughters They Called him Grandson and
Almost Immediately When I first met my Husband
use my son
To tell his Parents How Important the most important thing, was that my son’s Education?
Was going to be Paid for and
You know it was Almost like he was trying to?
Say how so important this, was that you know?
It was almost weird That he kept on Saying and There was Always in Front of me but?
They Would always Tell Us all of Us that
They, Were Going to Pay for his Education as long as he got Into an Ivy League School or
Appear To something That They Approved of Because they, Would tell him Quote Unquote
You’re Going to be a Millionaire one Day and you are going to have to learn to Hobnob with the
you Know People of Society and People of your like because that’s how, you’re Going to
Become A better Person right
so Screwed Up but I
Was always Uncomfortable I never liked taking Anything for my Husband and People that Really knew Me Knew That
Didn’t I was very Uncomfortable with him?
Spending Money on Me and Lover Diculous Things Sometimes but I
Wasn’t Comfortable with this This was my son I had Finally Gotten?
You, no, one Thought to a Certain level in My Career right before When I was divorcing my?
son’s Dad and I could start safe but my In-laws Convinced Us and Told me Repeatedly and
If I voiced my Opinion to my Husband that I wasn’t Comfortable with the fact that they Wanted to Pay for his Education
They Would sit me Down and pat me on you know Loving Shoulder and Tell me
Enjoy your Life to Enjoy your Own Money you know all we have to do Is sell an Ashtray or you know Picasso or?
All These other Things that they had I was
Taken By Their Money
Only in and Shocked I Didn’t ever Expect it or wanted but
you know I
Was just as Pretense that that?
I’m on my wedding day I were
 Thousand Dollars Worth of Jewels of my Body
and i had to Wedding Days and it was obscene Had Two full whole Wedding Cakes day after each other and
There Were Different $250,000 Jewelry and A Different dress on the Second night
They pushed my son to do Really
Well in School and I think This was to Make up for the lack that my
Was DysleXic and Had to go to special schools?
and I’m not Saying There’s Anything Wrong With that but he Didn’t Wanted to Read they were 16 and
you Know I had to for free email that he, was done To people so I
Think They Were They, were Pushing him
To be something that my Husband Hadn’t been Able to be because [of] this Handicap that he Had and my son
Worked Really Hard and he was A national Honor society Student and Here in Colorado
Ninety Percent of People go to
College Here in Colorado, We have an awful lot of them Within you know ten Minutes of me Either Direction and?
They Wanted him to go to this Really good School and They Picked George Washington S
One of Them i took my son on the college Trip and We went to like?
You Know 20 Different Colleges and I Would have never in A million Years Pictured my son going to George Washington
Or being in the City of Dc Because She felt a little suburb Kid his whole life and
I just didn’t think that that was
What he Wanted but They Talked him, Into it my father-In-law
Had Gone To Another School in Dc and I, was met Their Approved?
We had Thirty Thousand Dollars in The Bank?
But George Washington was Sixty-Two Thousand Dollars A year and so that meant that We were?
32,000 [Towards] That first Year and you start to
You Know when You’ve Been Accepted to college
The January before you’re Going to go in September you start to
Find out About Financial Aid and you Stretch it you have to Apply [for] it and you have to figure all this out and so
We still Had Thirty Two Thousand Dollars Left that We needed for [that] Year of College and his Parents Told Us?
We had Just Been on A Vacation in Bournemouth our Days and?
We were There for Two Weeks all Together but They Didn’t Have the Financial Papers I needed to so
We had All These Conversations When We were on Vacation about?
What We were Going to do this was the Plan and the Plan was for me to go back to colorado my Husband
Was living in New York Because he Had Just Gotten A job Back There and was staying with my and A tee so
We talked About?
How, We were Going to Handle this and how?
They Wanted me to Take out a student Loan because if You take, one out With Student Loan Gov they
Just is very low and?
They Would Pay it off nine Thousand nine Hundred and Ninety-nine Dollars at a Time
In Cash so that it Would go Into the Radar and Nothing Would get Slack Because. They, were using Cash
And so this was the Plan and I went back and With all of Us on Skype?
We i filled out This Form and
my In-laws and my Husband were on Their end and I was
Here in Colorado But I had all the financial Account Numbers [and] all the stuff that I had to fill out
So i filled it out and you know I had all These Questions like
Do you want to defer it and Those Parents Said no because
We’re Just going to Pay the next you know next year we’ve got to Pay the whole 62 so
We’ll have to spread that out over sixth you know Tied and so
No don’t defer it I was like Should I put it in my Name and his Name my Husband’s Name and They’re like
No he Makes so much more Money than you and We don’t want them to have to like Figure out your
Little Business it’s Just Easier He’ll Qualify for it so
Just put it in his Knee Which is what I did?
So much Documentation and emails that
you Know Them and Me and Maybe after the Call they you know
Congratulated Me and Said what A great Job it was and they, were so proud of me for
you Know Filling out Paperwork but um
After all of That happened um
They Came Here for my, son’s Graduation Which was in May and
Mother Father Sister my father Came and
My Husband he back so they, were all here from Regards to the Graduation and it was a really weird week A
Mother and my Husband Work Constantly Whispering in Each Other’s Ears to the point where my own Father
Was like what Is going on what Is he Doing and [There’s] [A] [spring] in The Corner and it was all very?
Suspicious and All and I didn’t it was Perfectly normal
Oh yeah, when I’m A lots of Parties Lots of Things and Everything was normal?
They Left on Monday after the Graduation and
Husband Calls Me on the Phone and Told me One of the Divorce
Was like A total Mindfuck to me Because I thought everything was normal and I was Flying to new York on Friday?
and while They Had, been There for the whole Graduation
Me and his Parent and Him that they’re Peeking out Houses that, We were Going to go look at, when I came to
Connecticut on that Friday so right in Between me Leaving and he Calls Up and tells me This
Went Into Shock and I was Having a Breakdown I seriously was not doing, well and?
our House was Already Sold so Suddenly I’m Having to pack up A 5,000 Square Foot House and get Rid of
You Know Three Quarters of Everything I owned my
Husband Didn’t Come Back to help at all he Didn’t Come
It Just didn’t want his Stuff so Shortly After he Asked for the Divorce I get this Call on my answering Machine
From This friend of his wife and
This woman was it
Probably Is at Work and I’m she is still a drunk and my in Love Hated this woman and
Actually Asked her to weave a party at my at their House for my Birthday Because she was drunk and like?
Belligerently Yelling at People at the Dinner Table and so I get this Call from this Woman and
She leaves This message Saying that you know that my Husband doesn’t have to Pay my
son’s College Fund and She’s Going off on this Tangent and
When i asked him about it and the Divorce wasn’t even Filed and We were Kind of in the Limbo period
Obviously he was Talking to her About it right and I
Think She just blew Their Cover and
He Made, her Make a public Apology or something he Sent her a little things that it wasn’t cool what she, did?
to the drunken Lady all the pieces are Coming Together
in Court I
Was we were Going for the Word Divorce and as Many Months later my son?
Was long Into School before I was August Sixteenth on my Birthday When I i actually Filed on him?
he Claimed that I forged the Loan Papers and
They Were Fighting that they, were not [going] to Pay one Red Penny and that
I had Forged this Stuff
Obviously Came up with all [of] the Papers There’s Probably this Many Papers and Copies of Emails between Us and
Questions I had Had to ask
Before I was Filling out The Forms so going back and Forth at all These Copies?
Showed Proof and Evidence Clearly to the Judge that they Knew Full, well About this Loan and
The Judge in The end
Put The Loan on his Side of the Settlement Table and Said that he Knew Full, well what?
Was in his Name and that that he, was going to Accept Responsibility for This so they gave it to him
Suddenly all my friends Back in connecticut, oh
Mutual Friends I would Say Because Obviously I think my friends are Always There
But These People that I met Through him?
Through Work, We Worked in The Same Location for 10 Years and?
They Were Treating me Like I was some sort of like?
Viper Or something, Every Time I see them when I’d go back There and Advice, hmm you know like Their skin
Would Crawl and I didn’t understand what the
Hell he Had Told them and it occurred [to] me to meet this is what he’s Been Telling them then I probably
did something With This Education and
That Shock of all my friends Just Kind of like this is gas lighting this is gas Lighting to me to Make me Think that
All Those years, We Didn’t sit Down and Have These Family Dinners and They Would tell Me and my son
Were Paying for college I
Didn’t want it and They?
Insisted so There I was Stuck With A child going to a sixty-Two Thousand Dollars School and
I had to fund this on my Own for the last Four [Years]
That’s Financial Abuse and
They Didn’t want Anyone to know
The Truth That
Had Already Said They, were going to do this
so after the Divorce was Finalized I
Kept getting Bills from the student Loan Gov Department Saying you need to
You need to Pay this and I Would send it to him and he Would ignore, ID and then I got A
Knock on [my] door and they Had Called the Police in my town told them that I
Forged These Papers and
My lawyer Said Just Handle the Same Papers, We gave the Judge and We did and the Police
Laughed in His Face and Within an Hour Said sorry and
That One, Away i mean They
Continued on This is about
Six Months To A year After
We were Divorced to Continued on and Call the federal Government and Accuse me of Federal Forgery this Time
That I had Forged his Name and They weren’t going to Pay it and they Wanted it they
Were demanding that the Loan be turned Back Into my name, well my name wasn’t even on it and
Again Just gave Them the Papers and it all went away but
He Didn’t Pay That Student room for over A year
Because of All this legal Shit and Waiting for Federal Government to Determine that I was not a forger and
Think his Credit Probably Got ruined Because he Didn’t ever Care About it in The first Place I’m Metaman had to Fix it all
Now I am the Criminal and I
was Made to think that I was Crazy and my son and I just Have a Conversation about this and
Were not crazy, We Didn’t Make this up and I didn’t want to take it in the first Place
So they were out to Financially ruined Me and
You know Did it Work I got my [Stepson] Through School and that’s all that Matters right now so
Think About These Things These Things are Going to come up every Once in A while but Just like
Bring Meaning to that Call from that drunken woman
It’s all going to Make sense one day you’re going to put the pieces of the Puzzle together all I got this Is 3 feet.