For those of you that do not know our story we dated the same man at the same time. He lied to both of us, promised things he never kept, my final discard was horrific as he had me arrested to protect his secret that he had been dating us the same time. People and friends are asking us why are we doing this? Revenge? No! Healing for us and raise awareness of this epidemic called narcissist abuse
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Okay, you gonna go first and introduce yourself. That’s it last time, but I did it like three times
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Hi, I’m gazelle
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[she’s] was alan. I’m tracy yep. Well that’s covered
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What are we talking about today? I know what we’re talking wear today
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I know that I’ve been asked this and I’m sure you have as well Tracy is um
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People want to know why we are doing this
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why we are talking about our shared experience and
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Um and talking about it a lot obviously you know as it would have seemed. We’re putting it on camera
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So um are now, it’ll be your turn to speak first cuz I’m going to ask Tracy. Why she’s doing this
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Well what people have actually said you know are you doing this so that you can get revenge? Are you doing this?
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You know so many other reasons people have asked us about and and I started doing this well before her and um
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It was sort of I learned so much from a Youtube [university] and from the people that
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Really I can say threw me a lifeline and saved me. I am so grateful that
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I know I have a voice clearly. I have a voice. I can talk a lot use my hands
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And I know that we all relate to different people and we each have our own story a lot of the people on YouTube are
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therapists and
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psychologists and
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a lot of them are just
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Survivors and
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I think that’s what I wanted to do was tell my story and help other people in a non
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Codependent way, I am just helping people because I want to raise awareness
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Yeah, how are you? I think for me um there’s
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I consider myself a teacher, and I consider myself somebody who’s
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to serve other people
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And every part of me has screened
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To just go and curl up in a ball and forget about this and not not talk about it because there’s a lot of stuff
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Am I and here that I didn’t need all
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Necessarily want additional they didn’t want to share you know are you trying to do a shoulder things?
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Anyways, I’m so immature and I mulder
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Was a lot of stuff. I didn’t want to share right so it was so interesting to me that that um
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Even just to make this this video. I have made a very conscious effort to
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I
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guess to reach out to people from the port from the vantage point of Having had an experience and
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The more we talk about the more
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I realize that so many other people have had this experience or some [of] the ones or work much worse
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experiences, and I think that you teach from your story, I think that
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when [you] do teach from your story
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It makes it really powerful and when you teach from your story in a positive and uplifting way it makes even more powerful
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so that’s why I
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Really want to do this and back Tracy?
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for the first time ever
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I really feel that my voice is important, and if you know if that can just help one person
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Avoid is that the pain that I have felt?
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And don’t get me wrong
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You know people have their own journeys
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And you do have a journey and in this life that you need to go through which will include pain
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But if I could help take the edge of that edge off of that pain
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Just a little bit that would serve me well. I would love that
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And I think we have a very unusual story there are
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probably a lot of
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people that have
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been the next supply
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But they didn’t find out they were the next supply at the same time
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so there’s that and I think in us we have hope that
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our friendship is
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Something that has bonded us, and I don’t think if we had met and he wasn’t ever in our lives
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I think we would have been like a perfect match, but I
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Think that we have to show people that not to hate the next supply because ultimately
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The Narcissus is not going to be able to do anything more. They’re never going to commit
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They’re never going to love and if you sit there and put all this anger inside of you that the next supply is
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Getting taken to dinner more or maybe they went on an aspen ski trip or something and you didn’t get that
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it
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Doesn’t matter it’s that love bombing stage. It’s whatever
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they
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Portrayed or their concerns and the narcissist kind of shaped himself he just makes himself into something
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For each person, and that’s the unique part of our story, right yes. Oh yes, I I mean, I hear that a lot
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I hear a lot about
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Working with people every day. You know
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The next girlfriend even when there’s no overlapping as there was in our situation where there was an overlapping
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Even when there isn’t an overlapping. It’s very easy to
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not like the next person in
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Your man or your woman’s life?
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This has been the most empowering experience of my life because I can go you know what um
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wow um
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She’s [not] unlike me. You know she’s been in the same case I have been and
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Butter it though we’re not victims. We’re not victors and we’re not touching the bum bum bum of the victim drum
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But you actually laugh a lot about the similarities it just like oh [my] God. Yeah, you know
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It’s kind of like matching shirts again
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It’s our thing now just saying
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Yeah, I think that’s a lot. I have to certain about you. Yeah, that’s short and sweet. It’s time for dinner date
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So thank you all this is Tracy and this is lasalle
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