It is easy to blame the next supply we were probably taught this in junior high. This world we have lived in is quite different because your Narc will NEVER BE ABLE TO LOVE!!!! That is just a fact so this next supply, this next victim, this next target is being tricked, lied to, cheated on and probably passed his STD’s. Your narc will dump them as horrifically as she dumped you. Pity the next supply because they are a victim soon.
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hi there this is Tracy and today I would
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like to talk about not hating the next
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supply what I’m finding is that victims
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of narcissist abuse very often will
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blame the new supply for coming into the
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life of your narcissists and disrupting
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things destructing the patterns of what
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you thought was real and when we blame
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the next supply this is another innocent
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victim like you now I’m not saying that
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they aren’t they aren’t really to blame
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because it’s your narcissists that is
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cheating not the new supply you see the
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new supply is just like you picture and
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a mirror of exactly what happened to you
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happening to them and that means in the
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beginning there was so much love bombing
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and they were swept off their feet by
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all of this amazing attention that they
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got from your narcissists but your ma
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your narcissist is a malignant
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narcissist most likely that lies and
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cheats and cannot be without ample
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supply ample supply is a lot of people
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they need constant reassurance and maybe
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they just got tired of you they already
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won the game and with you as with me you
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start off in this love-bombing stage and
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you slowly go down to the discard stage
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where they don’t want you anymore it’s
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just done so this is going to happen to
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the new supply so I’m going to talk a
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letter based on a lady with a truck she
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did a great blog post about a letter to
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the next victim
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and I’ve thought about this quite a lot
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and in order to not hate the next victim
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if you were to do this exercise and
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write down some things for yourself
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doesn’t mean you have to give it to the
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next victim it just means that you can
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really review and remember all of the
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things that that he or she has done to
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you someone told me the other day that
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they were going to laminate a little
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card to keep in their purse in their
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pocket that will just be like four
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things if you start to miss them pull
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out that card it’s laminated maybe both
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sides that would be cool right just sit
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there and go that’s right oh yeah they
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did that oh right oh yeah so remember
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that this new supply is going to follow
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the same pattern that you did and they
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will be discarded just as quickly as you
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were so pity them because it’s in our
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pitying that we will gain strength so do
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your new supply I’m sure you don’t
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really like being called a supply right
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now but as you learn about narcissists
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you’re going to find out that we were
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all a supply to them and we all provide
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different things so as you go on this
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journey I want you to know that what he
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has said about all of his exes that
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they’re crazy psycho bitches or crazy
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motherfucker lying whatever is generally
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a reflection of what they have done so
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do due diligence call them up email them
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get validation for what just happened to
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you and I am sure 95% sure that
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everything they told you was a lie about
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the exes that they aren’t psycho bitches
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they aren’t horrible mothers it’s them
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who are horrible fathers when you were
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first dating them the love bombing as we
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call it it’s very intense
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and you think that there’s no one else
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on this planet that could be so
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perfectly aligned and how quick it is oh
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my goodness but you must remember and
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you’ll probably want to know that things
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are going to change before you know it
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you are going to be the psycho bitch the
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crazy bastard you’re going to fall into
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that category simply because they’re
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bored and they’ve moved on they use mind
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control and while it seems like they
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came from a good family well it seems
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like they have a good job they’re
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responsible I mean we all have this
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dating list oh we want them to be
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employed we want this we want that oh
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they’ve got three children and wow you
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know they’re so perfect it’s too bad
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that their crazy ex-wife won’t let them
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see them and it’s it’s a pity thing if
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they’re asking you for pity because they
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can’t see their children guess what
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there’s something that they have done
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that is keeping them away from their
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children even if it’s just their own
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doing and they’re just pretending it
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someone else really dig hard really
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research this because it wasn’t true and
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the sooner you find out that they were
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lying
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the sooner you found out the text is not
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a crazy bitch the more validated you
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will feel in the end because right now
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cuz well you’re the crazy bitch
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um when you first got together was sex
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amazing
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did you cuddle and I called it
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pretzeling all night long you’re just
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like if you move this moves if you go
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this way boom he’s right on ya and just
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like can’t get enough of you can’t
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be without you for 15 minutes texting
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and calling and emailing and talking all
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night long if you’re not together and
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staying up all night when you’re with
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him and then you probably found this
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thing that I used to call the darkness
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phase darkness was where he claimed that
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he needed space space sometimes meant
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that he was saying he had a lot of work
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to do he had things to do with his kid
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he was very busy and couldn’t fit you in
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remember those days like last month when
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it didn’t matter if you were like on
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your way home from a client meeting he
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would intercept you and meet you and you
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would have sex and kiss in the car and
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now suddenly there’s no time for you
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this is the darkness and it’s very
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common with a narcissist because what
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they’re doing is they’re setting you up
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so that you kind of get used to them
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they might even say that it’s like I
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need space line space whatever it is and
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you’re like okay I’ll give them that
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space because I’m a good loving kind
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person and that makes sense
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but what they’re doing is they’re going
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on dates with someone else they are
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setting you up slowly to get used to the
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fact that they’ll have dark spaces that
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you won’t be able to see them in and
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that’s when they’re going to be fucking
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others now of course we’re not talking
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about mothers and fathers and
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narcissists here we’re talking about a
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love relationship with a narcissist and
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you might even find out that they borrow
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money from you or maybe they’re really
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irresponsible about money and you know
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they can’t buy you dinner until they get
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their next paycheck so why don’t you
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cover them they will probably borrow
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money from you and treat you as if you
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were their husband or their wife if you
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notice that they
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are different in public then when they
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get behind those closed doors they won’t
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be at first at first they’re going to be
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amazing in front of all your friends and
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then other times they’re going to not
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want to go places and almost be a
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recluse that they want to spend the time
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with you and this is actually called
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isolating you and it’s a very common
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technique to break the connections that
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you have to your support system so if
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they act differently in public or they
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haven’t yet but they’re probably going
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to watch for that are they just like
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showering you even more because it’s so
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believable that for me I was fooled for
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10 years that’s this person loved me
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more than anything in the world I was
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telling someone yesterday that I used to
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get um cards cards oh my god I had a box
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of cards this big of the love cards love
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cards love statues love books you know
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those coupon books that come out and
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I’ll give you a massage and I’ll give
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you this and all this crap that comes
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out you know Valentine’s Day Mother’s
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Day things like that all of these like
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gifts of love would surround me so that
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I believed it I totally went hook line
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and sinker that my ex-husband loved me
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more than anything in the world
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but it wasn’t true it’s hard to believe
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that this is fake but if you’re the new
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supply you’re probably finding all this
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out and I’m sorry that he’s probably
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hurt you the people in his past
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were probably not crazy psycho bitches
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it’s a reflection of him or her so if
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someone tells you it doesn’t have
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relationships with people in their past
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there’s a reason he probably wants to
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isolate you from the other people
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because you’ll learn the truth so don’t
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hate the next supply but I encourage you
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to do this exercise and write down
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things that you remember things that he
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or she has done to you so that you don’t
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forget go down to Staples laminate it
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stick it in your purse in your pocket
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and every time you miss them I want you
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to open it up and remember because these
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things hurt and someone that loves you
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does not hurt you that’s all I got
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