The pain you feel after discard of a narcissist can be overwhelming and very often put victims into fight, flight and freeze. A Narcissist will do anything to destroy the one that knows the truth. You have seen the mask fall and they do not want their secrets out there and you are an expendable risk they will not take. Expect the worst things to happen expect betrayal and confusion.
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Hi there. This is tracy and tonight. I’m going to talk about something [that] I
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hear about a lot these days and I
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can relate [to] what I’m hearing and I can relate to
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the fact that
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You just don’t know if it will go away. It’s a feeling after you
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for example break up with a narcissus, and you know some people are not dating or marrying a narcissist, but
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for those people that are having a breakup it’s
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Such it’s such a much worse breakup than the normal person
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you have those moments when you walk into your house and
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everything
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every
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Pepper mill every plant every single thing your bed your towel your toothbrush
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Everything that you have remind you of [that] person?
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because
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They slept there
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We ate at this table every morning every morning. He would bring me coffee in this chair
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We had sex on that couch. We whatever right
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It’s it’s it’s it’s a whole thing remember when we got those towels. Oh, how about that
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Frickin Christmas ornaments that
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Is always a really hard thing?
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you know those just tend to have a lot of emotion and
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It’s really hard when you’re just going through a normal breakup
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but when you add on top of that the fact that somebody that you loved and trusted and
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somebody that you believed was real you’ve been with this person for however long you’re
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You know one year two years 1 month. It doesn’t matter
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for as long
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Everything has a memory
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Everything you touch everything your eye sees places that you go
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places that you used to love right you went there because you loved it and and those bring back memories, so
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It’s different with that mark. We have to deal with the brain fuck and
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the what the heck [happened] here and
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Then we’ve got the regular memories looking at everything
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And then we probably got them torturing us in some way I
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Don’t have an answer I
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know that it will go away when
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my husband left I
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Didn’t even want to see the towels
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And while I had some friends who got divorced at about the same time they got all new towels
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I got a whole new bedroom set throughout a brand new one that they had before [and] just got new ones
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I know people that have changed the floor and the carpets
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What I am encouraging you to do which really helped for me was to move all the furniture
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If you can move your bed to the other side of the room
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that would help if you
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Can move any of the furniture?
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Because it’s it’s like which our brain [is] trained you walk in you look at that couch you go. Oh my God that
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Brings back a memory
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You know it could be a spoon that you bought on vacation because you needed something disturbed pasta
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And it’s the best one that you’ve ever had
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You don’t want to get rid of it
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because
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Well if you can if you can buy new ones by, I’m just saying
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it’s really hard to get rid of things and
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The only way to do it is to really
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Give it time. It’s going to be okay, and
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Those memories will fade
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Because you’ll be filled with all kinds of new other crap, and that’s okay. You want to build your life. You want life to happen
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Don’t be afraid of life and don’t be afraid of things in your house
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Moved up. I love that idea
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