Recipe to understand LOVEBOMBING on Facebook. Narcissists start by lovebombing a target and one of the places they like to play in is Facebook. They start by liking all your old pictures, they were stalking you. then they start to like your friends as they leave a comment on one of your posts. make no mistake they are not interested in the pretty picture you just posted instead they are seeing which of your friends they can create a flying money with. Someone to use later as they tell them you are crazy.
This pattern will increase over time until the get to the discard stage and you will be wondering why aren’t you liking all my stuff anymore. You may also find that your narcissist starts to like everything of other men or woman and this leaves you wondering if you did something wrong.
This is all part of the plan of making you crazy later.
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hi this is Tracy and today I am going to
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talk about Facebook and I’m calling it
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face bombing in honor of our
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narcissistic friends because there are
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so many similarities to their actions
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that really start when they love bomb
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you and when they love bomb you it’s
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more than likely on in many different
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ways but of course when they love
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bombing you and connect to you on
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Facebook what they are doing is putting
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out this public persona of goodness they
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are suddenly liking everything that you
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post they are engaging with your friends
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and they are starting to make
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connections to your friends by
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responding to comments that they make by
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creating their own conversations that
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your friends will interact with and what
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I want to remind you which is kind of
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too late now if you’re watching this
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video but it’s good to know for the
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future is is that this kind of love
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bombing or as I’m calling it face
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bombing is designed to build that
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persona of how wonderful they are how
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much a part of your life they are
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whether they are or they’re not this is
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what they’re showing people by doing
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Facebook and and being in the public eye
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like that to all your friends so it’s
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important to know that they are going to
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use this against you in the end so what
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they’re doing is they’re actually
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collecting flying monkeys right from the
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get-go and a flying monkey is someone
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that they’re going to use against you
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later they are going to friend them and
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they are going to friend your family and
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your your close friends and then as they
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engage they’re going to be building
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trust with their your friends making
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them their friends so that when you do
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break up ultimately they’ve already got
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these people lined up as their friends
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and they’ve got a window into your world
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to see what you’re doing
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after the breakup and after you have
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blocked them what I want to tell you is
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something that I have heard from so many
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people and so many friends and and and
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myself is we all like to stalk the
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person that we’re not with anymore it’s
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just like human nature and staying
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connected is sort of your window into
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the world of what they’re doing but let
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me tell you that it will probably cause
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you a lot more harm than good I have a
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friend who recently broke up and she can
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be doing pretty darn good after a couple
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of months now and then as soon as she
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looks at something on Facebook she loses
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it again she gets so upset and that is
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so common right we we subject ourselves
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to this if you were to block him or her
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lock them I’m not saying just hide them
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in your feed so that you could just peek
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every once in a while I am talking about
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blocking no more connections you have
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the control to turn it on and to turn it
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off I wouldn’t say go turning it on and
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off just so you could peek but what it
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does when you block someone Facebook is
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is it actually it blocks everything
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they’ve said so if they’re interacting
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with your family your children’s
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Facebook you can be the next comment and
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you wouldn’t even see that they have
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made a comment or alike or anything you
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just they’re there they’re invisible
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and that’s what you have to do and when
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you’re cutting off your narcissist it’s
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very hard I know it’s hard to just say
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delete but if you can find the strength
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to do that and tell all your friends all
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your family anybody that you know that’s
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connected to them to disconnect go grey
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rock on Facebook and that means all of
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your family – don’t let them stay
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connected you know if your child’s
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connected to your ex person
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then make them get off just say this is
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not appropriate and I don’t want them
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seeing your life because if your child
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puts a picture up of you and him then
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the narcissist has access to seeing that
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they have access and just like you were
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triggered when you looked at their
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profile and you saw that they were you
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know off on some tropical vacation and
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it pissed you off because they’re with
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their new supply they’re gonna have a
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window into your world with Facebook and
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face bombing is is the way they start
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and then they recruit flying monkeys
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they find out and become friends with
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your friends and then they use it to use
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against you so you have the control this
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is something that is really hard to do
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but I can guarantee you if you’re really
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interested in healing but you need to do
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this just block them make sure everybody
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you know blocks them and if you tell
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somebody you ask a friend to block them
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or disconnect from them completely and
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they don’t chances are that that person
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has alliances to your narc and that they
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could be a flying monkey so if they
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choose not to block your ex I would say
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there’s a reason and maybe block that
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friend even if it’s temporary you need
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to keep yourself protected and the only
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way that you can do that when it comes
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to social media is not necessarily go
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completely off of social media I have a
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lot of friends that say that they’re
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going to do that they were just like I
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won’t be on Facebook anymore I’m not
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gonna I’m not going to do that but guess
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what you’re hurting yourself this is a
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time when you can turn to your friends
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and get support and get love and feel
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good about relationships in your life if
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you choose to just go off of Facebook
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and you were a facebook person before
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who are you hurting you’re hurting
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yourself so don’t cut off your connects
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don’t isolate yourself just because of
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them just freaking block them it’s
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really not that hard and in that you
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will have so much more power to heal
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than you did before so face bombing
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they’re going to like everything that
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you do right
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did your norc’s do this in fact I
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started noticing patterns of 3x like
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love bombing other women for like a year
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I was like why do you like everything
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she says why why is it oh she’s just a
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friend oh she’s whatever it doesn’t
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matter
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it’s a pattern he did with you it’s a
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pattern she’s going to do with someone
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else
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love bombing is really prevalent on
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Facebook and we have to know that this
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is their pattern if they did it with you
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they’re doing with someone else guess
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what they’re grooming them to be their
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next Supply and they’re just like isn’t
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it wonderful when someone just comes
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along and starts liking everything and
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and you’re just like oh he loves me oh
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she loves me oh it’s so much fun well
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it’s fake and they’re just building this
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fake persona so protect yourself and
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block them right now take the courage do
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it go on there and block block block and
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I promise you you will not suffer
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additional injury by watching and having
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that window into what they’re doing it’s
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only going to hurt you that’s all I got
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