Back from Australia lieselle has taken some time to chat with me about how forgiveness changed our lives.
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there this is Tracy and
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Bitches on the phone, how are you? She’s back here from Australia for those of you. Who do not know that
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The connection between us. Maybe you’ve seen some of our videos
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Laval and I dated the same
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Person at the same time that is actually a person. He’s not really a person
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He’s actually a person, but you know that’s just we call it a feeling shall not be named
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Therefore I go name there, we’re going
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And so we have been away she lived in Australia, and she’s back now for a few days
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And she got to come to my meetup the other day when we talked about
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forgiveness and
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We’ve got some other things that she’d like to help us add
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Yeah, sure um I watched Tracy video and forgiveness, and if you haven’t watched it. Yes
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I’m sure she’s going to put a link to it. You know the one before this one in this video, so
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And it struck me as I was listening to her speaking about forgiveness and how important it is to
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Forgive not for anywhere else other than yourself it also struck me that
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Probably the biggest question people may have around forgiveness is how do I do that?
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Because even if you are aware that you are caring perhaps resentment or Anger or pain
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caused by
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Circumstances and life and other people and you want to get rid of it sometimes most difficult
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but you just don’t know how to sew so
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We were discussing you know perhaps different techniques that that you could take to do that in
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and if you want to add anything here
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But there is one simple one that I was explained to tracy that I feel has helped me a lot and of course as you
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can probably imagine our relationship would not be this good if it was not for the sex for forgiveness and
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You know if that word?
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Was more not more than a word in our experience. We wouldn’t be standing here right now
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Because we had trouble between us, you know, so there was a lot of regulation if you must know
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Transmission that’s what he did yeah, so you know so gross. It’s the best important word, and it’s important more than a word
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It’s an action so I
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Think the first step towards forgiveness is acknowledging that
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You carry something that you no longer wish to carry and they do like to give it away
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Or that you don’t want to live with that feeling anymore
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So acknowledgement is key and the second part of that is it setting your intention setting intention
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I don’t want to carry this anymore
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How do I do that?
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And it makes yourself open you know for people showing up in your life that will give you the answers to that
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But one thing that I do that I find very useful is um I
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have a very active mind as I’m sure a lot of people do but that’s not like gets me into a lot of trouble because
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when my mind if I follow a pathway in my mind
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I can make myself quite angry or sad if I relive events I can you know go down some emotional path
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but that is no not you know irrelevant to where I am right now, so
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What I do when I find myself doing that
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And when I feel a bit of a bubble of anger or fear or pain. I just bring myself back to my breath and
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it’s just acknowledging that I’m still alive foot wine and
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Acknowledging that I’m in a space that is very different to the one that I’m thinking about
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So if you can imagine that you know wherever you are right now is whatever you’re thinking about actually happening in front of you
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Right now if it’s not stop
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Take a nice deep breath bring yourself back to this space over here where everything is okay?
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And and again reset your intention about wanting to release
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That pain that you carry
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Another good way of using your breath is to in the morning when you wake up is to breathe in all that is good around
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You at the moment breathing everything that is good and imagine yourself exhaling
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The feeling that you have in your body whether it be sitting here?
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I carry a lot of mine, so I keep going here
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And I’m sure you that but that’s where I carry my nervous tension a lot of people do a lot of people carry
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anxiety and nervousness around this area yeah, and so you make you sit in this position, or there you can see that sitting there, so
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breathing breathing to that area even if it’s uncomfortable and
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Then imagine yourself exciting exhaling their pain art and even if you have to do that 50 times a day
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I mean, you’re breathing anyway hopefully
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Also, you know you can see a motor area of an hour ago here of the snow so even if you are good
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You know even if it’s 50 times per day that you have to stop and remind yourself?
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You know what it will become less and less that you have to do that
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bring yourself back to this moment right here right now and
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Breathe in and breathe out what you’re experiencing if it’s not pleasant to you
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yeah, that there was one of the things that we talked about after I recorded my movie the other day and
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in that a long time ago
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I was taught how the ground myself and then when I met her she taught me how to ground myself and really get into that
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Breathing and so if I’m having a panic attack an anxiety attack. I’m afraid
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There’s something inside of me that
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isn’t about
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Right this moment and and I used an example, and I wish shall find his name
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I’ll put his name down below. He has a fear of video series
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He’s like the world’s biggest fear expert and he’s talking about two different types of fear fear that is
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That a dog might bite you
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or you might get stung by a bee and
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and the other kind of fear is you just got started going to be and
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how is that going to affect you that is different than the perceived fear of I might get bitten by a bee so
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We have to look at that little tiny thing when we’re going back
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And we’re looking at this and thinking about why and as we’re sitting here trying to breathe it out think about is
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That the perceived fear or is
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Someone banging on my front door right now
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What that reminds me of is the movie if any of you’ve seen the movie clear and present danger?
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if it is not clear and present danger
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you can let it go right now because it’s over then in the past or
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In the future and none of that is relevant to you right now. This is relevant to you right now, so if there’s something that
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If there’s something that’s endangering you in this moment sure
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You have all the equipment to deal with it
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But you don’t need to be doing anything about that or about that in the timeline you’re in this year and then now
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Referred my feet we lied to get her back actually I’d rather
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Sort out a little bit not maybe but if in a year since I’ve seen this lovely orman
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and I call her sister and the fact that
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Dating the same person that we believe in me see some tendencies for that n-word. I’m not going to say here
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because she’s probably stalking us, but because we were united through that and
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We heal together it was the most amazing
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Healing that we got if we were able to compare how someone masks themselves how someone?
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changes and morphs themselves into what she wanted versus what I wanted it and
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We have a unique perspective on this whole thing, but I do yes
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And I would also say that the gift that forgiveness gave me and the gifts of forgiveness. Go closely was our friendship
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So we’ve got a gift out of it
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And there’s a gifts that you can get from your forgiveness even if it is just being able to breathe a little easier
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There’s a gift in forgiving
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as
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Nobody says it’s easy. It’s not easy. No, maybe there’s work to be done with everything right?
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It’s not going to be necessarily easy, but when you start with the intention that you want to have it happen
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That’s the fistic on your road toward it and the other thing if you didn’t watch my other
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Forgiveness movie that I just made the other day
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Forgiveness is not
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Condoning what they did
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You are under no obligation and take that out of the word forgiveness
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This is not saying it’s okay, or that there’s any retribution that will come you’re just saying that you can’t change the past
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But your if you hold on to this you will be changing the future so keep
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It in mind. Yeah both both ways if you hold on to it okay. They’re good, but you have the choice here still decision. Yeah
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We have to go to a party now. Yes, so this is tricky. That’s all I got
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