A few words to share about your journey to heal from narcissist abuse support.
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hi, this is Ricci, and I want to talk to you about stages of
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The way that we feel while we’re in a narcissistic abusive relationship
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certainly after the discard we are usually horrified and
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very Sad depressed
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Angry
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How could someone take your time your life? How could they lie to you? How could this have been a fake life?
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I never understood any of it, and I’ve come to learn that
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The only way to understand it was to really dig deep deep deep into understanding that I
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was vulnerable to be a victim of a con artist and a
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love Cop-car novice if you could say that they come to you and pretend that they love you and
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I know people that have been married thirty years and
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You think that after 30 years you know someone loves you?
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And I know that after 30 year divorces you can
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Separate and become friends and become you know you’ve grown apart
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But that’s not the way the narcissus doesn’t that’s not the way that they hurt us
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They hurt us in a way that they’re trying to keep us down
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And so our job is to learn about this because we don’t want to stay in pain and hurt
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We don’t want to stay in our house and lock ourselves away, and be afraid to go outside
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I was so afraid a year ago. I was so afraid to go outside I
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know what you’re going through and
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And the only way I can cross that threshold was to understand more about my childhood
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More about my accountability and my role in accepting less than I deserve
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if you look at the way you were
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at the beginning of your relationship with a narcissist
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Really different than you were at the end
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did they
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tweak away and take things from you that
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became less of you fit for me I
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became this shell and I
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wanted to be loved so badly and I accepted it and
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Now I am loved as much as I possibly can be and that’s by myself I
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Enjoy spending time with myself. I enjoy my friends and early nature
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Enjoy, Colorado angele the world I tried talking to you guys
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Because in me talking to you. I have totally healed and it’s a miraculous thing
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I know that you’ll be scared, and you’ll be hurt but don’t live there. Don’t stay there. It’s
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Absolutely necessary that you make the choice. I don’t want to be there. I don’t want to be
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Sad anymore, and how do you do that? You just flip oh?
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I’m not going to be sad every time sadness comes in just breathe deeply in right now
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There’s a beautiful breeze here just breathe in
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New thing and bring it out all
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the bad stuff
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It’s the only way to get into that ink horrible, Icky feeling just
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Breathe it through and take the time to tell yourself you are enough
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You are worth loving, and you must start with loving yourself if you don’t love yourself
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then
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when you find someone
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It’s going to be really hard for you to love them and for them to love you because it all starts with ourselves
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We need to take time to heal
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and
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I’ll talk in another video about feeling my parents and siblings and there is no escape. There is no breaking up and
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Going like divorce. Thank you to force our family
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I’m going to suggest that
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anyway, this is a seat miss just a quick one and
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Don’t get stuck in pain. Don’t get stuck in hurt. We have to travel through there. We must go the long route
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don’t have to live there life is too good and we are here for a purpose and
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This is to pick up in your road. Don’t make it like a
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horrible accident
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Just make it a bleep a bleep. This is a bleep in your life
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We can move past this and the only way you’re gonna move past it is with therapy, it’s with education
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talking to others that are in a similar situation, but
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those are better listening on YouTube hi there for those of you that are listening on itunes on my
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Podcasts go to my YouTube channel
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And for all of you I encourage you to go to my narcissist abuse website called narcissist abuse support Com
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I’ve got resources no matter where you live in the United States
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I’ve got resources like an you can get free counseling from I’ve listed all the meetup groups
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I encourage you to get with other people that are going through the same thing. It’s so empowering
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To not feel alone anymore
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All right, this is Tracy have a great day
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