So often because of the unexpected ending in a relationship with a narcissist we are left with a closure hole of pain. Leaving us with questions that will never be answered. What can you do? Have a party you have been saved, if it had gone on longer your years would be wasted. No matter how long you were with a narcissist it was enough to give/lose.
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if you woke up in the morning and
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Your husband we’re sitting at the breakfast table with you, and it was just a normal everyday breakfast
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And you didn’t know that he was going to die that day
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You would have regret you would have sadness that you never got to say goodbye
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It’s it’s a normal reaction, and it’s something that
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Anyone who loses someone looks back on and thinks what if I had just if I had known that?
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that
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Time we made love was going to be the last time that
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last kiss
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That last hug I had known that that was the end I
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Don’t know if I would be better prepared
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but not having
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The opportunity to say goodbye to someone or fuck you to someone
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Or talk it out like normal human beings do when they break up
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it leaves victims with that same feeling as a
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Death it leaves them
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wondering
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What if things had been different?
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and I want to encourage you if
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You had that situation because I certainly did I never got the opportunity to really?
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Know that that my divorce was gonna go as bad as it did and I would never talk to this motherfucker again
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At first I was really sad I was so sad
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I
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was so upset in the beginning too because
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my Ex-husband and his entire family just walked away from my son and
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I
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Just sort of like
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Closure that’s sort of like
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Boom boom it’s over you don’t have a voice in it
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It it really hurt my son to never have the closure
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To have a conversation with someone who’d been his father for 10 years?
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To me that’s evil and cruel
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But I also know there’s another side to it and that that was a blessing for my son and for me
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to
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have to come to terms with
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Because we don’t
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know it’s going to get this bad and
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If you don’t get the opportunity to say goodbye to a narcissist I
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want to say that it’s
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something you’re Gonna come to terms with
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But it is something that is good for you. It’s like
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Automatic no contact you didn’t even know that word existed. You didn’t even know that that was something that was
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possible
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But it’s good for you
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So if he didn’t get the chance to say goodbye and that part inside your heart is
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feeling badly feeling that
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You would have liked that closure I
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Want to assure you that the stages that you’re going through right now?
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Are better?
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if you don’t ever have to see them again and
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So while we yearn because that little part of it that little tiny part?
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I’m not being able to say goodbye
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It’s it’s in our brain and and we add it to the pile of abuse we add it to that. That’s not fair pile
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but the reality is
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It’s probably one of the best gifts a narcissist can give us
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Without them of course knowing it. They don’t want to do this to be nicer or anything. They’re doing it because there are motherfuckers
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think of it as something towards your advantage something that is good for you, and
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Take that out of your guilt pile. Take that out of the pile that hurts every time you think about it
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and think how blessed you are turn the messaging around on that you are blessed because you
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don’t have to see them again and
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That outweighs that little tiny niggle inside of you liselle that word was for you. Pestis is our spot
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Nickel she used to always say nickel that little niggle inside of you that
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yearns for closure
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Even people who get to say goodbye get to have last words with their narcissus
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Don’t get closure
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so if it was a normal person yeah, definitely
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And if someone had passed away died suddenly boom you never saw them again
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This is the same kind of feeling that we get inside
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but
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If you’re on a narcissistic abuse channel, and you’re trying to learn about this then most likely
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You need to go no contact and it starts right at the very beginning, so if you didn’t get to say goodbye
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Thank God that you’re free
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Because it would have never been the goodbye that you thought it would have been
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this is Tracy and
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My son is coming in my eyes
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So thank you for watching subscribe to my channel. Have a great day. Sorry my hair is a mess. It’s really windy out here
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Thank you
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