Have you been trying to figure out if someone is a narcissist? You need to know how to identify a covert narcissist because they are more dangerous than an overt narcissist.
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Hi, this is Tracy. I am here to talk about covert
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Narcissists because I want here like people getting very confused
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we tend to think before we get educated we tend to think of a narcissist as sort of a
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Flamboyant um
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Loudmouth
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egocentric
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Millionaire
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Jerk now I’m just kidding
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We tend to think of a narcissist with a personality that is very
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Overt where we could see it. We can see them doing these things that show that they have no empathy
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pretend to do things and think of narcissists as
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Showy we can tell a narcissist when they’ve got a personality
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Like we’re seeing on the grand stage of the world right now those
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kind of
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overt Narcissists, or what we normally think about before we learn site, but
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Covert narcissists are people that are
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charming
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They have great jobs
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they may be successful it may be popular and have lots of friends and
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they seem like a really normal person and
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to the public they are
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Everything they do the public and your friends your family they see them as this
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godlike person that yes, you saw that same thing in the beginning, or you wouldn’t have been with them they con people into
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Thinking how wonderful they are they also tell people how wonderful they are so there’s a red flag right there
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if someone is always telling you how wonderful or how charitable or
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You know just screaming about their accolades that they’ve done in life all the time
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that’s kind of a weird thing it’s it’s not a normal sign, but
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You can start to see that they say that narcissus where ask they actually create different identities
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Depending on who they’re speaking with and this I know for sure
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3x had multiple personalities and
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Would sometimes forget the role
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He was in when he was with me, and I didn’t know that of course until the end
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I did know of course there were other roles at the same time either, but
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what I want to talk about is my 10-year marriage and
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While we’re talking about covert narcissist I wouldn’t have guessed in a million years I
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Thought that he treated me really well. I really thought he’d loved me
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and
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I
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Think that’s the hard part to understand
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He showed me love every day. He would I talk to him 10 times a day
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Maybe not even that much, but a lot
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Everything we did we planned together we went food shopping together. We were inseparable and
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to the outside pretty happy and
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That’s what people wonder I’ve been married to this man for 18 years
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how could he be a narcissist well we learn the most about someone in the end in the beginning of any
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Relationship doesn’t matter if you’re with a narcissist. There’s love bombing there’s charm
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There’s getting to know someone and you’re putting your best. Foot forward you’re not
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disagreeing with them you’re not
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causing
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Troubles and arguments
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you’re not telling them that they’re stupid or
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the things that later come out to degrade us and to knock us down and
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Lose our self-control and our self dignity
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You’re going to see that behind closed doors the people on the outside are still going to see that
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amazing husband of 18 years and
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that’s what’s going to be the hardest part because
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When they change when they flip and they’ve decided you are no longer a supply that
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is when the narcissist like
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dropped his mask and the real hem comes out the real hair comes out and
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They’re they’re gangsters. They don’t care about you
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They’re fighting for whatever they want to fight for whether it’s in a divorce
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I want to fight for all the money you bitch. You’re not getting anything. I’ve paid your way all this time
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they want to fight for your kids just to piss you off, so
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That’s when we start to look at this and say they’re showing narcissistic behaviors
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Maybe your therapist may be your counselor. Maybe you’re a lawyer has directed you to learn more about
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A
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narcissist because you were fooled you are fooled because they are covert and
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if you start to look deep into
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Scenarios that happened in your life while you were together you’ll start to see patterns that you didn’t see before
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That were verbal abuse put-downs
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Not all narcissists are mean all the time, but it’s a slow
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drip
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When it’s a covert
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Just to get you into control and to see that you are playing along with the rules that they’ve put into effect
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So culprit narcissists. We just don’t know who they are and
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We have to be careful. How do we protect ourselves? Well? That’s easy
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jump off a bridge
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That’s bad. Sorry. Sorry. We protect ourselves. We um pay attention. We listen to
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their actions and
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Their words and their words have to equal their actions they say they’ll be there at 8:00
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They’d better be there at 8:00. If they blow you off and don’t get there till 9:00. They’ve disrespected you and
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You accepting that and still going out to dinner because they came an hour late is
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bad on you
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New guy, don’t do it
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You will show up when you’re supposed to or you don’t deserve to see me have
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self-love enough to say that’s not cool, and I don’t agree with so
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we protect ourselves by seeing the patterns and
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Making sure that we’re not conned
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Also, ask them just how was your last relationship. I really want to know and
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It’s one thing for them to tell you that they had a crazy ex psycho, bitch
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Alcoholic slut wife
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And it’s another thing
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too
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that in itself
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What’s talk about that for a second that in itself is?
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Like a horrible thing you were married to her for 18 years, and you’re calling her a psycho, bitch
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slut
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Then what kind of person were you you?
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She’s the mother of your children. Do you not see that?
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It might have ended Badly
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But was she always a psycho, bitch. Why did you stay for 18 years right? There’s a flag in there for us to think about
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when they say those sort of things now the other part of
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Understanding and seeing is is to believe that
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If they say something, and they do the opposite for example
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saying that you’re the
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an
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Honest person and that you would never do anything wrong and yet
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you’re
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Trying to obliterate your ex-wife in court
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that doesn’t make sense to me these are things I’m going to look out for and
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Make sure that they don’t happen again because actions do speak louder than words
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but we have to sometimes look past the words because the words can be so charming and sweet and
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No more words
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That’s all I got this is tracy subscribe to my channel. I look forward to seeing you again soon
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