To understand what is in store for you after you learn about narcissists this video by TracyAMalone .
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Did you just find out that the person that you’ve been with my narcissist with [it] tonight?
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Was it last week?
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My name is Tracy and I am a survivor of narcissistic abuse
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And I’m here to tell you a little bit about what’s going to happen
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this night
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The beginning and I also want you to know [that] there is an end
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but it’s going to take a lot [of] work and
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It’s going to take a lot of time
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Do not try to brush this
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Do not try to understand it the first thing that
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victims want to know is can
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[they] be fixed
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Can we give them a pill?
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Lots of mental illnesses that people take pills for can’t we just give him a pill and he’ll be better
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[I’ll] be back to the person [that] I used to know [I]
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am so sorry a
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Narcissist will never change
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They’ve lived all of these years and they don’t want to change they use people and they hurt people
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So you have to give up the [idea]?
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That you can help them you can save them
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Everyone on this channel everyone watching these videos except for that crazy doctor stalker
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Has already dealt with this and we know?
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How hard this road is going to be think about the emotions that you have right [now]?
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I’m sure you were angry
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And [I] was wondering before is angry worse than pissed off. Just pissed off is like pissed off
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Even at its. Most like crazy word. I don’t think it’s as strong
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as
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a angry angry is something that we lose control of I
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Never felt such anger in my life on the night my narcissist. Had me arrested
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For trespassing for [trying] to forgive him [for] sleeping with three other women at the same time
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Never was I more shocked
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hurt, how could someone I know someone I [loved] someone I slept with
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How could they do this this hurts me this feeling inside? It’s the worst
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I’m going to say hickey feeling in the world
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and
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another really high on the list
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Emotion that you’re going to go through is confusion because you don’t understand. What’s happening
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Everything [is] falling around you it’s caving in
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because of this uncertainty and this confusion
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your brain is actually making you confused once you go into this crazy anger hurt and
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Can’t sleep can’t eat
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kind of a thing your brain turns around and
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It becomes confused
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The part of your brain the [logical] part of your brain stops working
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Because [a] little part at the back of your neck the amygdala
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it
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Takes over, [and] that’s what’s responsible for [fight-or-flight]. [I] think I start that yet
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you’re going to hear a lot of new terms in the next year, maybe less, but
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Take your time
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so
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fight-or-flight means that is actually
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Described to me as thinking of cavemen that
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were faced around the corner with a bear they either fought the bear fight or they
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Fled but you know flight is bye-bye. [I’m] not going to stay [here]
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I’m going to sneak around the back and try to get away [from] this meaning bear
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[my] therapist added one, and I don’t hear it often
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You know referenced, but he put it as fight flight or freeze
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and he was saying that when I first found out I went into freeze mode [I]
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Couldn’t concentrate I couldn’t eat. I couldn’t sleep. I didn’t want even water I
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broke down and wanted to kill myself [I]
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Didn’t know what my future brought and I was more afraid of that
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then I was tomorrow [I]
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Was afraid of something that I couldn’t even think about
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And that was making me more anxious
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more afraid
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because I wasn’t living in this moment and
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Tomorrow’s Moment
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Finding out the truth really hurts
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But I want you to know that
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This is not
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The first thing you’re going to find out
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This is the first thing. It’s not the last thing this is going to find out that isn’t true
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You’re going to probably find out about lying and cheating
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possibly stealing and
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Sexually abusing you you’re going to find out that they might want to divorce or breakup or leave
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but the hardest thing that
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anyone in this community has had to deal with and
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I hope that they can give you some encouraging words down below as
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to how they dealt with this because it is the hardest part the
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Hardest part is finding out that your life was a lie [that]
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[someone]
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seemingly going through life by your side
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could have been acting and
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faking an entire life
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They call something with the narcissists masks. You’ll learn all these kind of new terms. Sorry
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[we’ll] learn all these terms that you’re going to need to know you’re going to have to like
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really read up on this stuff, but
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first Subscribe to my channel before I forget
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Yay, I remembered
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Sorry, we’re in a solemn
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Moment here, we go ready
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[your] body is thrown into a survival mode and
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You have to be able to fight it
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But I don’t want you
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To not experience it so don’t hide it don’t tuck it away
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deal with it learn about it and
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Be there for it be angry if you’re angry be pissed off if you’re pissed off. Whatever you do
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Don’t tell the narcissist. He’s a narcissist or she’s a narcissist because then we add a whole layer of
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narcissus to grades revenge and hatred and jail um So I
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Suggesting that you just take it easy [and] learn the first step you have to do it to learn
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And right now add learning to take care of you
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Self-love right now is something that you probably haven’t been doing I
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wasn’t
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We give to others so much that we forget ourselves
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and
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You may have children running around that want to be fed or off to school?
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do what you have to do take care of yourself if you are an emotional wreck take a day off [of] [work] and
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cry all day
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Take care of yourself. Don’t hold it all in don’t show the kids right now, but
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Talk to friends and when you talk to friends know that they are not going to understand this
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So that is why I recommend that you go to [Youtube] my channel
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or any of the other millions of
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YouTubers out here that are talking about this. We’ve all got a unique perspective
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But there are things that happen there are terms that you must understand there are
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Behaviors you have to watch out [for] you have to watch out for
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them to
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Continue to come back and we call it to where they come back, and you know I’m so sorry
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[they’re] going to smear your name
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They’re going to send people that were your friends and maybe your family after you we call these flying monkeys
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so there’s terms there’s things but
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What I want you to do tonight, this night when you’re sitting here and your brain
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Has never experienced anything like this I?
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Want you to break down your feelings go get a little notebook?
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And just break [down]. How do you feel and write down? Maybe what?
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He did that made you angry all the time
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There has to be something
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Maybe he didn’t put up the toilet seat whatever it is
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start to look at things differently and
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You will be on your way [to] recovery
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tonight is the first night of your life and
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Right and your life is going to suck [because] you’ve got this information, and you don’t have enough and you’re scared
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And you don’t know about the future
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but if you take care of yourself
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You can turn this around and that means eating if you don’t feel like eating
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eat crackers eat a piece of fruit
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get something in your body I
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didn’t eat well and
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My entire adrenal system was in failure
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and even know what an adrenal system was
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but it was that extreme fatigue it was that uh nobility to concentrate and think and
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Talk my memory was going I’d meet people in five minutes turnaround
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Where they do that Mental I?
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Would learn something or know something or know a website url or something that is just part of my brain?
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It was God
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it stopped mid sentences because my brain was
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locked down
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With this beer and anxiety until my whole body was getting weaker, and that’s when your adrenal systems are failing
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Don’t worry a couple of but you know vitamins and herbs
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You’ll be fine
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But you have to take care of yourself sleep
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sleep sleep sleep
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Try not to turn to alcohol
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alcohol
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Masks things helps you get to sleep faster
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but
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Ultimately you’re not facing the demons you’re not facing this tragedy
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So if this is your first night I send you love and blessings you will be fine
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Maybe you’ll be making youtube’s next year who knows
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We’re here to help you reach out [MmUnity]. Go online. I have a website
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[narcissists] abuse support calm and on that site you can see a link at the [top] left side that is
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to my Facebook group
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got about 3,000 members now and A
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Really great group of people and we try to keep
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Not nice people out
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So that we can all help each other heal
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This is tracy. [oh] my God. Have a great night